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pregnant and leered at?

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HardCheese · 08/12/2011 14:14

I've only just started to notice this at going on 25 weeks, but I've started registering men on the street giving me the eye in an unmistakable way, now that I'm visibly pregnant. What is it exactly they are leering at about the pregnant form, can someone explain? It's not that I don't feel wonderful at least some of the time - I have unusually glossy hair and skin (for me), and I adore the shape I am becoming, plus the baby kicking on the tube or in a shop is pure pleasure - but I would have expected it to be a turn-off, rather than a turn-on for a casual male onlooker, with my newly titanic breasts being cancelled out by my burgeoning bump.

Why do I seem to be getting more attention than before I got pregnant? Is it just that my belly is an advert for the fact that I've been Doing the Deed? Am I evidence of some other man's fertility and that piques passing male interest? Thoughts?

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Crosshair · 08/12/2011 14:57

Dh has mentioned that he finds me even more attractive since pregnant, which has suprised him as hes not really sure why.

I havent noticed any interest from other men, not that I see many.

tryitandsee · 08/12/2011 18:59

Im nearly at my due date and have been asked out twice in the last month.EEK!. What is going on with men??. Sure i might have a certain "glow" but it's a whale like one!!.

kickingking · 08/12/2011 19:19

My experience, everyone stares at me when I'm pregnant.

I'm not sure about men funding pregnant women attractive, but it is like is like a big badge saying 'I've had SEX!!' - maybe that's what they are thinking about?

Fluffycloudland77 · 08/12/2011 19:23

I saw a late night show once about pg women doing porn shoots etc as there is a market for it.

Theres a website for everything these days.

Bibbo · 08/12/2011 19:31

Last time I was pg DH went right off me and refused to have sex with me for the whole 9 months :( git. It was all a bit disheartening and I didn't bother make myself look nice at all, I just wore tracky bottoms and ate cakes.

This time round I am determined not to let myself go. Have just bought a nice clingy Isabella Oliver dress. Am very encouraged by this thread! Going to rock the 'maternity slut' look which may shock the hell out of DH (ha)

mrsravelstein · 08/12/2011 19:33

the first time i was pregnant i worked on a trading floor, so, a lot of men. i was really surprised to discover that fancying pregnant women is fairly common. whether it's a nice thing or a slightly icky thing, i'm still not too sure...

bottlebank · 08/12/2011 19:37

When I was pregnant with DS2, a guy I didn't know very well came up to me at a party and said "you look amazing. I have a pregnancy fetish..." He was all sweaty and sort of vibrating with lust!

I did not like that at all. And I generally felt very sexy and lush during my pregnancies.

BumgrapesofWrath · 08/12/2011 19:39

I found the same! When I was pregnant I got a LOT of admiring glances off men - and I was HUGE. Now I've had the baby I don't get any attention at all...

BumgrapesofWrath · 08/12/2011 19:40

On another note though, did any of you get "funny" looks off women? I did get a few towards the end, as if they were thinking "they let people as big aas you leave the house??"

foolserrand · 08/12/2011 19:48

Dh claims it is because, and I quote, "pregnancy is the epitome of femininity".

kickingking · 08/12/2011 19:54

Well I have to say I felt very unfeminine and unsexy when heavily pregnant. DH said "you looked beautiful in a 'pregnant woman' way but sexy...er, no" I had no idea men found pregnant women they are not in a relationship sexy, always assumed they wouldn't as you are 'taken' - job done, if you see what I mean.

And yes, everyone stared at me when I was heavily pregnant To be fair, close friends have told me I had the biggest bump they had ever seen (small person, big baby).

yummicheddars · 08/12/2011 20:51

My partner turned round to me the other day and told me I'm not sexy when I'm pregnant :( I'm 20+1 and feeling very ewww

MiauMau · 08/12/2011 22:51

I've got a work colleague that once said to me that pregnant women can't help but to look good. I guessed that he hadn't been around many pregnant women :o

MandaHugNKiss · 09/12/2011 10:55

It's got to be a primal 'these women are clearly fertile and my mission in life is to procreate, so...' thing.

I'm sure i saw on a documentary about primates that if an alpha male is usurped, dies, or for whatever reason isn't around anymore as soon as pregnant females give birth the 'next in line' guy will kill the offspring and mate with her like mad to impregnant her. Whilst I'm not suggesting these leering guys are wanting to kill your baby it might be a similar kind of thing. You're fertile, the proof is right there so they'd like to get their mitts on you to do the same.

Nice, eh?

Uh, what I mean to say is, it's because all pregnant women are super beautiful in their glowy womanliness.

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HardCheese · 09/12/2011 10:59

Kickingking, that's more or less exactly what I assumed, too, but it seems not, at least for a certain kind of man. I think it's kind of interesting, actually, given that no one, presumably, is going to list their favourite looks as 'Nice eyes, nice breasts, a huge bump' . I suppose it interests me because it complicates the 'slim, big breasts, long legs, nice teeth' model of stereotypical fanciability...?

Interesting to know it's so widespread. To the people who claim they've never noticed it, keep an eye out - you might be surprised. In my (admittedly fairly limited) experience, there's a glance that travels between bump, breasts and face and signals covert approval...

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MiauMau · 09/12/2011 11:30

Wow, FourQuartersOfFairyLights are you sure? You're sounding highly attractive :o

MandaHugNKiss · 09/12/2011 11:30

Ah, but just imagine fourquarters once you are showing, get yourself a BIG stick for you shall be irresistible!

annekins · 09/12/2011 11:30

I noticed when out waddling round town doing some shopping the other day that I was definitely getting more male attention...

I do have a pretty sizable bump now at 37 weeks, but I think the thing is that I've been making the most of my new 'shape' and wearing tops that are a lot more snug than I would normally do, which really emphasises my curves now, so maybe that's it.

deardear · 09/12/2011 11:40

my DH loves me pregnant and especially this time although it was very unplanned! Think its the boobs!

there is a lad i work with occassionally and he made a bee line for me last night with his hands outstretched. he was promptly told to stop right where he was and if he came any closer I would punch his lights out. He has been warned before - he does have a little learning disability but not enough to alter his memory and he has been told a few times.

Personally i am liking my body while pregnant but not liking being pregnant. I dont mind people touching but not leering as this chap was doing.

sunshinesue · 09/12/2011 19:45

I might be guilty of giving "funny looks" to pregnant women but only as I'm curious about what I've let myself in for (only 7 weeks so don't show yet). I also couldn't help looking and being envious when we were trying, it took a year. Sorry!

phlossie · 09/12/2011 19:55

Oh yes! This reminds me of when I was pregnant with my first - about 7 months gone, so a good size. This bloke properly checked me out! I was with a friend who was very shocked.

It's because you're all boobilicious, curvy and fertile looking, I reckon!

MiauMau · 09/12/2011 23:30

Had lunch with a couple of friends and DP and they keep on treating me like I'm breakable, the bigger I get the worse they're getting. I guess that it's because most of my friends are male.

madmomma · 10/12/2011 21:19

Loads of men have a thing for pregnant women and find the pregnant form very sexy. Normal men - not just pervs. I know a few and they're embarrassed about it, but it's just one of those things. I remember getting tons of extra attention in my 1st 2 pregnancies because I had time to make myself look nice. Not so much in this one as I look like shit!

Queenofthehill · 10/12/2011 21:27

I got leered at openly on a few occasions when pg. Two memorable times: 1) Guy eyes me up and down, and asked who the lucky fella was then, and 2) Bloke turns to look as I walk past him, and says, 'Mmm, come with me and I'll give you the next bump'

Not as bad as my friend, though, who, on a night out with friends, got, 'If you weren't pregnant already, you would be by the end of the night!'

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