I'm fucked off to fuckery. Why are they treating me like I have something I don't?

[GwendolineMaryLacedwithBrandy]

I have a high BMI and I'm currently 36 weeks pregnant.

I had a period of blood sugar monitoring at 15 weeks. All fine.
I had a GTT at 28 weeks. All fine.
I've been monitoring blood sugar for the last 3 weeks. All fine.

I think I can safely say I don't have gestational diabetes. So why the fuck are they still telling me today that they want to induce me in a couple of weeks for blood sugar issues? It's like they looked at me when I walked through the door for my booking in and decided what my treatment would be and what condition I would probably develop. I should have booked my induction there and then at 12 weeks . Baby is a bit big but not massively so. In my mind that's not enough reason for the fuss.

I don't mind the induction so much, I was induced last time and it suits me to know when and where etc. It's what follows that bugs me - BS monitoring of baby, no breastfeeding support, enforced formula feeding, keeping me in until feeding is established which it never will be if they don't show me how to do it . History is repeating itself and I hate it.

I know I can refuse induction but it's never that straightforward.

Tell this to them? Surely they should at least inform you why they want to do certain things and what options you have.

If you want to bf they cant force you to ff can they? (Unless Im being abit dim and have missed something)

Sorry your having a crap time and hope it starts getting better for you.

I really feel for you, its horrible to feel pressured into doing something you're not comfortable with.

I refused an induction with my first baby and he ended up being born 14 days late but perfect.

I would refuse if you are comfortable with your decision, I think it's important to go with your own instinct as long as everything is medically sound.

Hmm... my midwife sent me for a GTT - the consultant I saw beforehand said that I was clearly fine but by that stage I'd have to do the test anyway otherwise their paperwork would not look good.

She then did a 'tap test' and confirmed that I had 'too much fluid' - and said the result of that would be that my baby would be born early and its lungs wouldn't be properly developed so it would be in intensive care.... Consultant when I saw him the following week (already had appointment) said that there was no such thing as a tap test and that there was not too much fluid and even if there had been, chances were that it would go down again without any intervention or problem occuring.

The week after my MW gave me the booklet on preeclampsia as 'she expected me in with it in the next week or so'. So reassuring. Of course I didn't get it.

Just to pour salt in the wound she managed to push one of my staples (emcs) further in rather than popping it out and I had to get her to stop trying to fix the resultant mess as it was so painful - so had to traipse back into the hospital with ds (6days) to get the sister on the ward to do it instead.

Perhaps you've got the same one as I had Gwendoline?

Sorry to hear you're having such a shit time with them. I too have a high bmi, had a GTT at 25 weeks and it was all clear, my growth scan at 34+6 showed baby as 5lb11oz which I thought was big but was actually just 50th centile and they said was fine. I'm glad they've left me alone.
Were there complications in your last pregnancy that are making them cautious.

I had exactly the same issues last time. They decided I had GD at 38 weeks, I was induced at 40 weeks and dd was 8.10. When I showed the diabetic clinic my readings from last time they were as to why I had been induced even though it was the same flippin' nurse that instigated it all.

I know they can't physically force me to ff but they can withhold all bf instruction and support, which is what they did last time. I remember coming on here when I got home and asking mnetters how to bf. Everyone was great but ultimately it failed. What I am doing ths time is attending a colostrum harvesting class next week so that I at least know how to hand express.

Argh, it just annoys me that I had to be on the defensive.

Ds was a week early and 10.5 (and not at all fat, just big) so, as you say, not exceptional size-wise...

gwen I don't understand why being induced should preclude bf. I think it's a great idea learning to hand express, it'll definitely help. I was left with rooting baby whilst MW cleared up the room after delivery for an hour and a half and no idea how to bf. Google 'baby crawl to breast' and there's some amazing things on youtube about how natural it all is, even though in my experience they're much more stressy, even with all the posters about the place on supporting bf.

I had 'this baby needs topping up' from the word go but stuck to my guns and bf for nearly a year. Get as much info as you can but chiefly try not to worry too much about it, they're tummies are the size of walnuts to begin with so they actual take very little feeding I think it's more to get into the habit (am sure to be flamed by someone in the know - but that was my experience)

Similarly I'm one who said no to induction - DD was born less than 12 hours later. Ask for a full explanation of they're reasons. I'll probably not be so gungho this time as on recent advice over 38 yrs they won't let you go over 40wks.
Good luck with it all.

It's not the being induced, it's the blood sugar issues that force the formula feeding. If the mother is assumed to have high blood sugar then they'll assume the baby has high blood sugar at birth and, to avoid it plummeting, they want them to feed well. All well and good so far, except they don't seem to see bf as the best route in this situation, which is nonsense.

Sorry, I'm just ranting now. Just so frustrated.

I see - yet all your tests are fine but they continue to label you with GD. I had a similar experience with 'white coat syndrome' and pre-eclampsia. Was always labelled high-risk even though I never had any other symptons and bp always returned to normal.
I guess keep talking to them about the options. I just found this
www.plus-size-pregnancy.org/gd/gdbfing.htm#Summary: Why GD Moms Should Breastfeed

which seem to be very much for bf and if that's what you want to do I'd just keep telling them that and eventually the message will get through. Get your OH on baord too as some back up. Ridiculous, I know, that we have to fight for the right to bf but wishing you every luck and lots of positive energy your way.

Gwendoline - I went to a specific NCT BF class which I was really thankful about. To be honest it was the only thing that actually went fairly to plan. Despite epidural (after 5 hrs on drip without one then 3 hrs with a failed one and no TENS machine) and then emcs, ds had a bf in the recovery room - and because DH had been to the class too he could make sure that ds and I were both doing it reasonably well (because I was still way out of it).