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Oh crap, major cock up on my maternity notes by my midwife which could cause me some problems....help!!!

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McPhee · 02/12/2011 10:42

I had my first appointment with her last night, and I've only just had a chance to sit and actually go through it all myself. In the bit which asks if my partner is the father of my baby she has ticked NO by mistake. He's going to want to look at these later on, and now I'm panicking incase he thinks I've been unfaithful. Our relationship has been rocky of late, and he lives a long way from me, and omg my head is running overtime.

I'm guessing I can't really change this myself can I

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Failsafe · 02/12/2011 10:44

I would change it tbh, it's not as though it's medical info that your changing.
The midwife made a mistake, and it could potentially cause you problems.

BelleRomford74 · 02/12/2011 10:46

Yeah if it's only a tick in a box change it!!! Im sure midwife wont mind at all.

Crosshair · 02/12/2011 10:48

Chnage it and use the same colour pen.

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McPhee · 02/12/2011 10:49

Well I've just had a good look and I reckon it's gonna look damn obvious It's been tampered with. Am ruddy stressed now, and I just know it's going to make him doubt me.

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GwendolineMaryLacedwithBrandy · 02/12/2011 10:51

God, just change it. For a start, as you say you've got far bigger problems if he'd kick off over that. And secondly, why should he want to see, or you show him your notes? My loving DH hasn't asked to see mine and I haven't offered. They're about me, not him, none of his business.

Luminescence · 02/12/2011 10:51

Just change it and explain what happened. Is there more to this?

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McPhee · 02/12/2011 10:55

No there;s no more to this than my utter paranoid self over thinking everything, and thinking he'll change his mind about being involved. I just wanted everything to go smoothly this weekend, we've not seen each other for nearly 3 weeks. I wanted him to read the notes, because I want him to feel totally involved given the distance between us at the moment.

Ok, I'll change it and hope for the best.

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Chaotica · 02/12/2011 11:21

Change it and make a joke out of it. Surely he shouldn't make a fuss.

jeee · 02/12/2011 11:21

Or simply lose the notes.

DaisySteiner · 02/12/2011 11:23

Why does he want to see your notes? That sounds incredibly controlling to me. I would just say that you left them at the midwife's (and hide them obviously) and then insist that she fills in new paperwork pdq.

recall · 02/12/2011 11:24

If this is your booking in appointment, if you go to the MW and explain, I am sure she could re write them, or just that page, I could see it causing problems, and I would be worried about it too.

DaisySteiner · 02/12/2011 11:24

Sorry, didn't read your last post properly, he's not insisting on reading them.

whatstheetiquette · 02/12/2011 11:30

Just put a tick in the yes box and scribble out the tick in the no box. My DH never looked at my notes either time I was pg. Does he even know you have notes?

MissTapestry · 02/12/2011 11:33

My MW accidentally did that, she just scribbled that tick out and ticked the other box iyswim. DP and I had a good laugh about it when we got home! Just change it, it wont make any difference.

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McPhee · 02/12/2011 11:45

Thanks ladies, I just want him to feel involved with everything, and it's important to me. I've changed it now

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IssyStark · 02/12/2011 11:48

My midwife had my white British husband down as Pakistani on the form - human error happens! As it was on the elctronic record from which my notes were printed it, I just asked her to change it next appt.

youtalkintome · 02/12/2011 11:57

Really would your Dp think that because the box was ticked he wasn't i'd be pretty furious if my DP even considered he wasn't the father of my dc. In fact if he read my notes what i would expect is for him to get to that bit and say something like 'eh she has ticked the wrong box'.

TimothyClaypoleLover · 02/12/2011 12:03

They are your notes so you are entitled to write in them as well. You really shouldn't get so worked up about a silly mistake by the MW as you can expect 9 months of MWs annoying the hell out of you with mistakes and wrong advice!

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McPhee · 02/12/2011 12:07

That's very true Timothy.

I'm a novice though, so please may I be excused for my stupidity

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BalloonSlayer · 02/12/2011 12:08

If you are that worried, I would ask the midwife to change it, and to sign it like you do when you change something on a cheque. If I were her I would be very apologetic and would be happy to put something like:

Wrong box originally ticked in error A. Midwife 2/12

(I am not a midwife though)

I know people who have been organised enough to get the maternity/birth notes photocopied in that space of time when you have them with you when you've come home, so that they can keep them as a souvenir for the baby. You wouldn't want to do that with a set that had a mistake like that on it, that's for sure!

YaMaYaMa · 02/12/2011 12:11

Yeah, get used to being inconvenienced and annoyed by MWs*

Some, obviously, others are luverly.

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McPhee · 02/12/2011 12:14

She'd just done two night shifts plus it was late when I saw her, I think she was just a bit jaded. But was actually very lovely, and has my sense of humour

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