stop laughing at my bump!

[TheBreadstick]

HORMONAL RANT ALERT

OK, I'm 5 months pregnant and have what I like to refer as a 'micro-bump'. It's tiny, really tiny. Most people have no idea that I'm up the duff, but those that do just keep laughing, and today in my usual lunch cafe, pointing - yes, pointing - at said dinky belly.

I can't help it, it's my first baby, I'm a small 8/10 at the best of times, I don't see what's so funny or unusual about it! One woman in the cafe even said: "Aw look, how cute, she's wearing a waistband expander ..." as she lifted my top up to look at my naked belly ... in a cafe ... full of people! (I need to find a new lunchtime spot don't I?!)

RANT OVER

I would say to these people 'Do you mean to be that rude' - especially that woman in the cafe.

I am amazed at the amount of people who think it's perfectly acceptable to act like complete dickheads when in the presence of a pregnant woman. For some it would appear that all normal convention goes out of the window - that woman in the cafe wouldn't ever think it OK to lift up the top of someone who's not pregnant, would she?

yes. unacceptable I wouldn't give them my business. even if it is 'my own weight in flapjacks please', my bump at 17wks feels bigger than 27wks last time.

That is awful. I would have been tempted to pull up her shirt and make a comment. Some people are so insane.
But, people do think you are public property when you are pregnant. Unfortunately it is something you have get used to.

flisspaps - this has been a recurring question for me why do people think it's ok to say inane, hurtful, worrying, downright stupid comments to pregnant women. I know it's not just hormones - the world and his wife thinks it's ok to comment on anything and everything to do with pregnancy if you've a bun in the oven. There I think that's enough cliches for a while - my work here is done (it really is, I'm going home now - yippee)

That's horrible - like she's accusing you of lying!

Maybe she's jealous?

I went from tiny too huge pretty much overnight. Embrace that micro-bump! :)

From my experience if people arnt saying how neat you are its how big you look.

I feel for you, people can be awful, even those that are mums and have been pregnant themselves.

I have the opposite problem. I am normally a size 10 and have an enormous stomach (now 36 weeks). I have been abused in the playground - 'put it away it is gruesome' shouted at me and clearly I wasn't wearing a crop top... along with greetings of 'hello large one' etc. Everyone comments on my tummy every day, the same people. There are also a few mums due within a month of each other people seem to think it's fine to take delight in saying how much bigger I am than so and so. They are just so insensitive. What I'm trying to say is you don't seem to be able to win either way!

Now my grumble's over too.

Oh don't get me started.I keep getting told about how small my bump is to! Even though I've gained a stone! I'm 19 weeks and actually think there's been a big change in my body, but I keep gting told how small I am n is the baby ok n that I look the same as I did before. Was a size 6-8 before and now a size 10. With my second baby. But I do find it very rude people who lift your top up to look at your belly! I hate it! I don't even like people touching my belly other then my son or my partner.

Same problem thing is it upsets me as i have been told baby not measuring right aswell and then get stupid comments sayin were is it and Am I sure im 7 months people are rude and dont think and seems to be older women :( chin up sure are babies will be perfect x

Oh I feel for you. My friend said I look like a knot in a piece of string :)

I get bump comments all the time- I'm a size 8-10, was very, very neat with my first pregnancy, though had a massive bump by the end- measuring 96th percentile!!! This time, I'm probably easily the size I was at 27 weeks at 20 weeks tomorrow- partly as I'm having twins. And my bump is attracting so many comments- some saying I'm neat and it's not big, others aghast at how big I am already.

DOING MY HEAD IN!!!!

So I feel for you. At least you won't be one of the women who struggle to lose the weight ever afterwards- I did nothing and was slimmer than before by 5 months post-birth.

People being rude about bump size is my current bone of contention. I'm measuring only 1cm oversize with 2 mths to go & have had the it must be twins/triplets comments but then had from complete strangers "that thing is taking over your body" & "you shouldn't be out you should be in hospital" !! The rudeness is breathtaking.

you poor thing, i suspect anyone who is mean is bloody envious that you've got a bump to match your svelte figure. i work with somebody who sounds like your body type but is now heavily pregnant. you can tell it's still having an impact on her body/posture etc and feels huge to her even tho to everybody else her bump looks half the size their's was.

unfortunately people do say weird and rude things when you're pregnant, just try to remember you are the lucky one performing miracles inside you and ignore.

Try to let the comments wash over you. Lifting your top up is v rude though.

"I still haven't ever had anybody come up & rub/pat my bump though, which Mumsnet promised me would happen all the time. I am quite disappointed!"

I made it to 35 weeks with no bump pats, one family party later and everyones in there grabbing away!

That's totally ridiculous and frankly weird. What's wrong with people? Who would lift a non-pregnant person's top up in public like that?

I've had a mixture of comments which I think goes to show people just like to say something, regardless of how tactless or daft it is. I'm six months pregnant and my bump is still pretty small (I was a size 10 before and still size 10 now, even though I've gained a stone). Some people say how neat or little it is - I went to an event the other day and no one event noticed I was pregnant at all, but then I've met with friends/acquaintances earlier in the pregnancy seeing me for the first time since I announced, who quite happily called me 'fat' to my face! One of my best friends saw me recently and said 'OMG it's HUGE!', which was quite funny.

It did initially upset me (to be honest particularly the fat comments, I have no issue with weight gain, but I still think it's a bit rude and I actually don't seem to have changed size!) but now I try to let the comments go. Your body is going to do what it's going to do and baby will thrive.

I actually think people might be jealous your still looking so slim at 5 months - feel smug and enjoy!

Just go with the "Are you saying you think there's something wrong with my baby?" line...shuts them up quick!
And yes, change lunch venues...crass, inconsiderate fools! They deserve no more money from you. Maybe they'll learn a valuable commercial lesson - maybe not!
I got the "Wow, only 1, and you're only 26 weeks, my daughter's having twins in a week and she's teeny compared to you" (she's pointing at said daughter as she speaks)...who was a goof foot taller than me and a good 2 foot pre-pg wider than me! Yet some of my regular customers hadn't even twigged I was pregnant and were shocked to hear of my impending maternity leave...

aw, thanks ladies ... had a feeling it wasn't just me getting stick! You can't do right can you - too big, too small ... I'd love to see the 'perfect' baby bump somewhere! (and not on a Bounty advert, grrr)

You have seen the perfect baby bump - it's yours and so is everyone else's. As long as it is keeping your baby growing and ready for birth then it is the perfect bump for you and that baby. That's my view anyway...

Well said Señorita :)