No sex...... :0(

[Dutchie77]

Fed up not having sex with DP.... he doesn't feel comfortable, ever since around week 16...... (which I totally respect btw). I am almost 36 weeks now. I keep having entertaining dreams, but that only makes it worse. And after birth it will take some weeks......

aaaaahhhhhhh!!!! How will I survive?? :)

(just had to get it of my chest)

Be prepared that breastfeeding will not be a big turn on for him. I think one must try not to leave things unclear for too long. Speak to your partner about what makes him uncomfortable try to understand his points and make this discussion positive even if you feel bitter. You can come back to this discussion again in a week, you may want to agree on massage and other tactile contact. Tell him how you feel and that for you it is not only sex is missing but closeness associated with it.

Thanks Katherine! We do talk about it tho, but I feel a bit guilty. Because I know he can't help it. And I know he misses it too.

Maybe we have to spend a bit more time being close, physically, like we used to.....

We haven't done it for ages either - about same timewise as you, in fact a few weeks longer! I've gone off it because have been sick/uncomfortable/tired and he hasn't instigated it either. However we've been very close and cuddly, he gives me massages etc so it doesn't bother me. And emotionally we are so happy we're closer than ever. Maybe just try to be close and affectionate? Massages are good.

Don't feel guilty! It is not your or your husband fall. However you can do things to feel closer and maybe ending up having a passionate night. Just go to a movie or a concert on a weekend, stop discussing baby names and pram brands for a while, eat out, etc.
While on a sofa rub his shoulders, give him a back massage. It is a physical contact that shouldn't necessarily lead to sex. It may relax him a bit. You can then try other techniques on him that he may find irresistible:). I am sorry if I am saying something obvious but I do understand you very well. I think most of us find it difficult to keep normal sexual life for medical and psychological reasons while pregnant.

Luckily we are very close in the emotional and mental way. We enjoy being together, go out for dinner and cinema etc. He makes me nice breakfast and cups of tea. He likes me the way I am and respects me. We snuggle a lot and are very physical. Sounds as good as it is

We just spoke about it and he tells me to have trust that it will be as normal. So maybe I have to be patient a bit more. In a few weeks my bump (and pillows) will not be in between us any more and we can have a full body snuggle again...

I'll ask for a massage later tonight tho!

blow job... bet he'll forget all about the bump after that

Luckily my other half is not that superficial. And it's about my feelings to

Do it yourself if you fancy it, and find other ways of being close. My DH didn't feel comfortable with it in my first pregnancy, and this one it's me who's less keen as I had a bleed after sex at about 15 weeks.

Hmm that is scary phlossie. I would be scared to.

Think a DIY orgasm isn't the same anymore. It only makes my belly go hard like a bowling ball and I am afraid it will set labour off......