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Scared, stressed and confused. Any Birmingham mummy's (to-be)?

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2wwmadness · 20/11/2011 09:31

This will out me totally in RL, so if anyone knows me please keep it quiet.
This could be long....
Dh moves alot with his job. We are not from the same home town and now live somewhere totally neutral from our hometowns but very far away from mine. We have a fantastic relationship and our expecting out 1st dc on early may. But we are scared how "on my own" we will be when the baby is born, we will have NO support.
My family live in the midlands (mum,dad and sister) and out of the blue, dh has been offered a fantastic job in Birmingham. We have accepted and he moves in two weeks! He will stay with my family. I have asked my company for a transfer, they have said yes if there's a position available (I wok in retail for a major company) I have looked online and there are full and part time positions in Birmingham avalible. My company have said they will release me from my store on the 31st December, but have not told me anything about the job in Birmingham. I asked my manager if my area manager had mentioned anything after a meeting last week and she said no, but it's ok coz I could just go on maternity leave in jan. I don't want to, it's too early! I only get 6 weeks at 90% then statutory. I wanted to take 4 weeks holiday in march and finish in April. My area manager also hinted they might offer me the part time position, but surly I'll get less maternity pay if I do the last 2 months part time? I have worked full time for 10 years! My whole working life and I feel they are trying to take my right off me.
Also, they are really dragging there heels with going me answers and I'm scared. I need to move house, find a hospital To give birth in and I really wanted to go to mother and toddler groups, breast feeding groups ect. I wanted to move ns of December to settle in. I just think I will be on my own here till the end of February, big pregnant and Lonely! My dh is desperate for m to mov with him.
Oh I'm rambling! I'm sorry, I don't really know what I want to know. I just want some help. I just want go know everything's going to be ok. And I'm doing the right thing by putting myself under stress now for my family. I have visions of me going through all this and not being able to make friends in our new area. I just can't sleep worrying!

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bmm39 · 20/11/2011 17:30

Are you involved in a Union? Speak to them or get in touch with your local Citizens Advice Bureau regarding your work situation/maternity leave. Dont be pushed into something you dont want to do.
If you move you can meet lots of new mum's at local groups and you will make new friends. You are lucky because your family will be living in the locality. Whereabouts in Birmingham will you move? I live in the Midlands. xx

icooksocks · 20/11/2011 17:46

I'm moving to Birmingham next saturday, I'm currently in Warwickshire so its not a huge move but I only moved to Warks from Lincolnshire 4 months ago and I havent yet got lots of friends.

I have 3 dc's and #4 is due early June. I'm only 26 but am a SAHM.

PM me if you like with a bit more detail about the area of Brum you'll be moving to and I'll let you know if I'll be close by. I'm sure I could use and extra friend too Wink

2wwmadness · 20/11/2011 20:18

Thanks! I'm 26 too! Hoping to be a sahm, will will see how it goes. I will speak to citizens advice in the week. I know they can't force me, but I just can't be bothered to fight them, I'm so tired! I'm off to bed but will pm tomorrow. Thanks alot x

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