welcome to the new SPD sofa, have a [biscuit] and a [brew]!

[sillywmama]

Hello all... just thought I'd start a new SPD support thread for anyone dealing with the whole achy fanjo/painful back/ridiculous inner thigh pain. I'm 9weeks pregnant and am settling in for the long haul.

I have to confess I'm feeling a tad emotional that the pain is ALREADY here again but at least I'm better prepared this time! Last preg was spent flipping between teeth-gritted stoicism and hysterical wailing tears. No fun for anyone!

Taking enormous doses of codeine and hobbling around on crutches is something I'd like to avoid this time round so I'm going in all guns blazing for a consultant led care plan, pain clinic appointments and physio ASAP.

Anyone is welcome to join me!

sillywmama, i'm new to the thread (severe spd and a 16 week old baby, but positive). Just wanted to say I'm so very very sorry about what you're going through. That is really dreadful and I can think of a lot of things to say about a man who would flap about like a dying duck while you're in this position. I can only imagine. Sending much sympathy and hope your way.x

sillywmama hope you're doing ok at your Mum's, so sorry to hear about things with your DP and really hope it (he) sorts itself (himself!) out v v quickly!!

Sillywmama, i would just like to say your partner is a prat and doesn't deserve you. I was on my own when i was pregnant with ds1 it was hard but worth it in the end i didn't meet my dh until ds1 was 13months
take care sug if you need support here to help xx

Best wishes for your birth madmomma!
I have to see a consultant tomorrow and argue for a nice MW-led birth despite depression meds, which should be fun.

31 weeks now and the pelvis is starting to fall apart at the front again, though physio helped the rest of it today. She advised putting ice on my pubis 4-5 times a day and hot water bottles on the back/sides, as well as all my exercises, and hopes it won't get much worse seeing as I don't have long to go. Should get it down to max 2 months of wheelchair hire cost if I do need one, anyway.
And thankfully I'm on maternity leave now so can stop feeling guilty about not working (managed under 10 days since start of July...)

OTT - my GP prescribed 8mg codiene x2, 4x daily once I was 12 weeks and the good stuff (30mg x2 4x daily) at 20 weeks. Annoyingly I became intolerant of it so was only taking about 30-45mg at night until this last week - now I'm taking a full 60mg dose before bed and at 4am! And thankfully not throwing up.
I hope you can get physio or osteopathy ASAP! I've got both on the NHS (osteo not for pelvis issues and had a long waiting list). Keep phoning the MW team and asking for an 'urgent referral'.

Thanks citrus x

Hi everyone,
My internet had died so I've been off for a while, it seems everyone is having a sucky time at the mo:( crap just before Christmas. I was coming on for a bit of a moan but reading the latest posts I'll just say I'm in a moderate amount of pain & leave it at that.
Hugs to everyone & some homemade fudge xx

Citrus can you take codine up until delivery? I wasn't sure GP perscribed it but that was a bit earlier on am now 34 weeks. Finally got referral or physio today but not unitl 10th Jan and I think it is a group session so not sure how much help it will be.

has anyone found an Osteopath to be of help? Can they do all the manipulations etc whilst you are pregnant? Thinking of tryin to see someone privately as not that helpful that I have to wait another 3weeks for group physio session!

Emmy84 you can take codine up to delivery but there is a school of thought that you should wean yourself off so the baby doesn't have any ill affects. I took it on & off right up until delivery but was only on a low dose.
As for treatment you need to find someone who has experiance with treating pregnant clients as it's a whole different approach.
Good luck, the end's in sight!

Marking my place on the sofa. 23 weeks with DC2 and been in pain since around week 12. I've only just worked out what it is! [stupid emoticon] Made an appt to see GP next week.

sillywmama I'm so sorry your partner has flakes out on you at such a difficult time. What a fuckwit he sounds. Hope your mum is looking after you and you're getting the rest you need.

Hope everyone else is ok too. And best of luck to the poster having a CS tomorrow.

Well I am having such a shit day, between the fact my back an right hip are so bad at the mo, I started bleeding last night the mw has brought my scan forward so i am going tomorrow. This is going to be the longest night ever :(

Can I join the sofa (well am currently leaning over my birthing ball with laptop on the footstool)? Am 38+6 and managed to get to this week with only mild (that's what they called it) 'hip and pelvic pain', before WHAM, I got a grating feeling down below and knew it had developed further.

Have been given codeine by my lovely GP after we spent 15 mins researching the contraindications and agreeing in a very grown up manner that it would be ok in the short term. Then I got a lecture from the pharmacist about how I really shouldn't have it, but as the GP prescribed it, he overruled her! I was a little concerned about taking it, but phoned the antenatal ward about something else and asked them about taking codeine and they said that if I went in to them in early labour, they would give me codeine anyway, so don't worry about it..a relaxed (ish) and happy (ish) mummy=a happy baby to them!

So now I'm feeling sorry for myself, and baby has gone from 4/5 engaged to being free in my pelvis which makes me worried that she's going to turn breech again. Soo annoyed.

I have sought solace in a box of Ferrero Rocher...can I pass the box to anyone?

Can I join? I'm 26+3 and have had pain in my left bum cheek since the beginning of this pregnancy. I have a history of back trouble and thought it might be sciatica so went to the doctor who's attitude was one of 'it's just one of those things'. Anyway I have a toddler to chase after and as a result have been getting days where I can barely walk so went to my MW who referred me to physio. Seems the problem is with my sacroiliac joint and she gave me a support belt and some stretches to do but i'm just resigned to being in pain. :( Hopefully it'll go once baby is born.

Well i won't be joining you guys anymore because i lost the baby. I just want to say good luck and i truly hope the pgp doesn't hurt you too much xxx

SwanseaMum I'm so sorry to hear that.

Do you have good support in RL?

Take care and I hope we see you on the pregnancy boards again before long.

SwanseaMum So sorry for your loss, big hugs. xx

Swanseamum I am so sorry for your loss :( I really hope you're being looked after well and friends and family can give you lots of love at this time x

I'm still at mums. DH is still undecided about our future, and today the dragging 'kicked in the fanny' feeling has been the cherry on my Christmas cake. I'm being supported, but craving privacy at the same time. It is fucking awful to be honest, but I am hopeful that one way or another I'll come out of this stronger.

Happy Christmas to everyone, I hope that some of us have managed to have a good day, but for anyone who is struggling (for any reason) you have my heartfelt wishes for a wonderful new year xx

sillywmama what a crap Christmas for you! I'm having the kicked in feeling, like I'm being booted from the inside! It's the hardest thing to discribe to someone & there is no relief, you have my sympathy for that one.
Has your DH pulled his head out of his arse yet? He needs a reality check as to what you're going through, prehaphs repeatedly kicking him in the nuts might give him a window into the pain?

Hope you get things sorted out, stay strong.

Hope everyone had a good Christmas x

sillywmama I'm glad you have plenty of support. However it doesn't stop it hurting you that your DP is being such a twunt. Will you welcome him back with open arms if that's what he decides he wants? Or are you having second thoughts and doubts about the relationship yourself?

I saw my GP today about my SPD and he was surprisingly understanding - I had braced myself for a fob off, but he has promised to refer me to physic and ask for an early appointment. Result!

physic = physio, of course.

swanseamum so sorry to hear about your loss, take care of yourself.

sillywmama hope your H gets his head sorted soon and stops mucking you around.

For me, DH has been off over christmas and amazingly the SPD hasn't been anywhere near as bad as usual. Just goes to show what an extra pair of hands around the place can do. I might lock him in the flat so he can't go back tuesday.

Which body pillows are you all using? I've tried all sorts but can't find one that quite works. Been online looking a e pillow, dreamgenii & summer infant sleep pillow but they all have mixed reviews. Don't want to spend a fortune on something that doesn't work.
Any top tips?

nannyn - Best I've found is a smallish square cushion between the knees. Been given a Dreamgenie this time which is sort of nice to cuddle but doesn't work for my legs, and last time tried a John Lewis pregnancy pillow which was so thin and flimsy I ordered them to take it away again in disgust! And the huge fat bent sausage ones were too fat.

The square pillow means I can turn over with marginally less palaver...

My bump has erupted in the last week (33+4) and max prescribed codiene is starting to not be sufficient so may need wheelchair again for a month or so - and have recorded lots of films to watch with ds! On the other hand if I can stop throwing up then it might work better. So much for not really having preg sickness - I'm making up for it now!

hello everyone!

thought i'd pop on as i have a few questions and wondered if you knowledgeable folk could help?
i'm currently 30 weeks witgh my first and have mild to moderate spd since about 26 weeks. nothing too awful but some things can be quite sore sometimes. mainly- i have a horse that i tend to twice daily and the yard is wet and muddy so have to change into my wellies from work shoes. this activity casues the most pain! it seems to be the lifting of a leg into the welly? does that make sense? my pubic bone feels like its on fire when i change into my wellies- why? what can i do? is there a special technique i should be using? LOL.
secondly, i'd really like to give birth at our new local MLU unit, its really fab, but, i've heard if you have SPD they wont take you in as it can affect your labour/birth so i'd have to go to hospital. does anyone know if spd can lead you to have a hospital rather than a MLU/pool birth?

thank you in advance

x

Notcitrus poor you, the last few weeks are the worst. Are they inducing you at 38 wks?

feekerry sit down!!! When you lift your leg it causes strain on the pubic bone (the gap in the middle of your pelvis) this is where most of the ligament pain in SPD originates from. (some people it's the sacro iliac) Keeping active is great, just be really careful.

Off to see the NHS physio today, be interesting to see what I'm offered this time. Who's money is on a support belt, crutches & come back after you've delivered?? Or am I being very cynical

Fig roll anyone? (new year health kick)

nannyn - bloody well hope not - I'm aiming to go to the lovely MLU at the hospital, get into the pool and stay there until the baby pops out - it was getting out which was when the problems started last time (though admittedly sod all had happened for 8 hours at that point).
If I have to I'm staying in bed for the last two weeks and bribing people to take ds to nursery 3 days a week and curling up with him on the sofa the rest of the time - his idea of heaven, luckily!

feekerry - sit down or even lie back and lift both feet at once into wellies! And hold in your pelvic floor, lower abdomen, and buttock muscles when you do it. It's how I get my leggings/ trousers on in the morning - hideously inelegant but the alternative is waking MrNC up to do it. It does feel quite regal getting him to undress me at night. :)

I was assured I would be better off in the MLU with all its supportive beanbags/chairs/rails as well as pools, than in the delviery suite, when I was in a wheelchair with SPD, especially once I assured them I would have a strong bloke with me to help heft me about - their main concern was that there was a hoist to help people out of the pool, but they'd never used it since trianing some years earlier! They were even trying to talk me into a homebirth at 38 weeks! However my MLU is only a lift-ride from the delivery suite.

I did end up going downstairs for an epidural, but having SPD that suddenly gets that much worse in labour is incredibly rare - none of the staff had seen it happen before, and it was only my insistence that the contractions were a doddle in comparison that convinced them. So I wouldn't expect that.