Riddled with guilt

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Just feeling sh@* because my baby is due within the next month and its not the sex i had hoped ....nay longed ...for.

Feel so crap that I would be so excited if it were what i wanted and am weepy instead........

Dont beat yourself up! You're not alone!

Weepiness is normal at this stage.

Let it out! Indulge your feelings. You'll feel better afterwards.

Writing this in the hope that this might cheer you up - I read this thread title as 'riddled with quilt'. Tried to figure it out, so looked which section - pregnancy - then cunjured up an image of an heavily pregnant woman trying to battle her way out of a huge quilt...

I'm sure, as cliche as it sounds that you will fall in love with your baby as soon as you hold him/her in your arms.

Good luck.

Lots of women have felt the same and then just fallen in love as Floss has said.

They say that if you want to give God a good laugh, tell him your plans. Let yourself feel how you feel and then look forward to welcoming your baby into the world.

Don't feel guilty, i am sure you will not feel like that once the baby is in your arms, there to precious.

When i fell pregnant for the first time i always wanted a girl ( think it was just a women thing) but when we had the 22 week scan we found out it was a boy, yes i had a little cry & felt a bit disappointed but i began to love the idea & was so glad i had found out because i had all that time to get used to it, my little man is now 3 years old & i adore him, in fact he has made me realise that boys are totally fantastic, this baby is ment to be a girl but still in the back of my mind i am kind of wishing for another boy.

I suppose what i am trying to say is please don't feel guilty i am sure you will feel totaly different when the baby arrives

Babies are precious we all have feelings like you are but life is to short, as long as they are healthy it should not matter x

Quite a normal feeling I think. When I had No 3 I found out I was having a boy. Both me and DH wanted a girl. (had a boy and a girl already so didn't really matter). And we both felt disappointed and then felt really guilty. But it is true. The moment I saw him I fell in love and now I am really glad we had a boy.

Thanks girls your words make me feel more normal...even met someone in Tesco and felt sad cos i am sure her pg will be what she wants and mine isn't.....

I know the love will flow - it has before but....

I hate feeling so selfish - really it doesn't matter but in my heart of hearts it hurts!

What do you have already FeelSad?

i know you will adore the baby on sight and at the end of the day it really doesnt matter, does it?

3 Laddies one lass!

Methinks you might be having another boy rather than a girl!! on the basis this is your 5th child and you have at least one of each, do you really mind that much????

Yep!! At least think so ...

Still vain hope that its not what they said it was due to fact i only asked ultrasonographer a few days later..

Anyway that aside...just wanted a sister for my daughter and just wanted another daughter....sooo close to my 11 year old .

Boys just lovely ....so much easier ...messier too!!

i was disappointed with gender of my 3rd baby. What helped me was thinking of all the people I know with babies/kids who have major health problems, or who lost their pregancies late -- compared to those problems, I could get over the minor detail of my baby not being the sex I would have preferred.

I felt the same when I discovered DS2 was a boy (shortly before he was born). He turned into the most cheeky, infuriating and adorable child and I wouldn't be without him Well, most of the time I wouldn't be without him...

Allow yourself to feel sad now, there's plenty of time to fall in love with your baby when they arrive.