20 week scan next week, terrified :(

[Savannahrose]

Hi

Actually I will be 21 weeks my scan is on Friday next week. This is my third baby, first 2 are little beautiful girlies. I have always longed for a boy. I am so terrified that it's going to be another girl and not bond with her, I know I sound stupid but I just have this fear. I know I will love the baby no matter what it is and as long as it is 100% healthy then all is good. But I am scared that I will just feel so disappointed.
I don't want people to criticise me for posting this as I can't talk to my DH he doesn't understand. And I know how some of the posters can be on MN.

Just wondered if anyone has felt this way?
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I was really worried third time round it would be a boy (after two girls) sure enough it was but a further 20 weeks for you will be enough time to adjust. I bonded with him quicker than the first two despite my reservations about having a boy. Hope your bubba is perfect and healthy regardless of gender

I think its pretty normal and if you wasnt worried about this it would be something else. Try and take it easy! :)

Awww thanks ladies, I no pregnancy is full of worries. I've kinda made it harder on myself as I only had my DD 6 months ago, and here I am again. Plus she was 5 weeks early....so not a nice labour experience but 66 hours of pain she is beautiful and worth every pain given!
Im just so longing for a boy....but then again my fears of looking after a boy, as I come from a family of mainly girls, is also worrying me. I mean how do you change a winkie nappy??!!!
Or maybe I've just been sent here to give girls.....

Oh did I mention, DH has refused for us to find out what were having so not only am I worried about what it will bring next week, I have to wait another 20 weeks to find out for sure. My eyes are going to be peeled next Friday looking between the legs lol!!, :)

Awww hun i sort of know how you feel, i'm 19 weeks with my 1st and my scan is a week on Mon, i'm convinced it's a girl and i really really really want a girl, can't see myself having a son at all, i'll obv love him as much but my heart's sen on a girl, i'm finding out becuase i'll convince myself even more if it's a girl by the itme i give birth so i just need to know, my oh doesn't mind he said as long as i'm not upset if it is a boy, i said i won't be i'll just be shocked but i'm embarrassed to admit i will be sad inside for a bit, i know i'm blessed as long as they are healthy though!

Same here we have our 20 weeks scan in 3 weeks time with our first. I am terrified of all the what if's.

I am worried as we have been under a lot of stress as we are moving house at the moment and I know stress is bad for the baby. I also had a UTI the other week and am worried that might have harmed our LO and now I'm itchy all over.

I'm worried that our LO will show problems and that it will change how we feel about him/her. Even now I love this LO more than anything in the world as does my DP.

Hi , I just wanted to say that I have a little boy, and am PG with DC2, and one of the things that has been on my mind is how on earth do you change a girl's nappy??? !! (with a boy, there's no hole for runny poos to run into IYSWIM!!).
The main thing is that you say you will love the baby no matter what :)

Girls are easy!!!
I can see what u mean by the hole but it really doesn't, maybe in the crease a little!
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