Help needed please.... :)

[Savannahrose]

Hi

I am i had a baby in May this year. she was a premmie,born 6 weeks early but happy and healthy! Although i had an EMCS due to her heart stopping mid labour,anyway....
I now find i am 19 weeks pregnant again and had my appointment with the hospital yesterday. They have told me i have no option but to have a VBAC this time around. I expressed my concerns as i am very scared and nervous about giving birth giving my last experience. Plus the facts that i am such a high risk patient and have read stories about women dying due to uterine ruption etc. She basically told me my only option is to have a VBAC and if it all goes wrong again then i will have yet another EMCS. i told her i was not happy with this decision and asked if she would consider an ELCS and she said only if i wasnt in labour before 42 weeks.
I a very upset and nervous now about this pregnancy and am constantly paraniod about my section scar opening etc.
Also, i told her that i am not feeling baby move yet where as with my daughter i felt her move at 15 weeks, definately by 19 weeks i was getting kicks that were noticable.
she tried to listen in with the doppler but only found mine and said that because the baby was so small it had probably wriggled into an awkward position and left it at that! she said because i have had no bleeding shes not worried, although i have been having servere pains around my section scar.

Can anyone make me feel better about my situation, as i am a very worried mummy to be :(

thanks for listening to me rant on!!

xx

I would ask to see another consultant for a second opinion re the ELCS if that is definitely what you want. Many women VBAC successfully, but if it is not right for you then your wishes should be listened to and taken seriously.

New NICE Guidelines are due to be published soon, and should say that:

^If a woman requests a caesarean section, the reasons for this should be explored, discussed and recorded. If there are no medical reasons why the woman needs to have a caesarean, the risks and benefits of a caesarean compared to a vaginal birth should be discussed with her.

An obstetrician can decline a women?s request for a caesarean. In this case, they should refer the woman to another NHS obstetrician in the same unit who will carry out the caesarean section.^ (From the NHS Choices site)

If you are concerned about movement, get in touch with your MW straight away. However, I am 19w with DC2 and only really get movements at night, and I have to concentrate to notice them!