Only just pregnant and panicking

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Hi all

I wonder if anyone can help with some soothing words or plain common sense!

I just found out I am pregnant (period would have started yesterday, but tested positive on Sunday morning) and instead of being pleased and excited, I just keep worrying that something will go wrong. I wish I hadn't found out this early, I read that half of all pregnancies are chemical/fail in first six weeks so I don't know how to get through the next two weeks. OH is not much help either as he keeps saying "if things go ok" rather than that it will be ok, and "if you are pregnant" when surely I am!

First pregnancy, I am 36 and overweight and keep obsessing over these risk factors too! I have a really bad relationship with my alcoholic mother so cannot talk to her, and haven't any friends with kids.

I know if things are going to go wrong, chances are there is nothing I can do to prevent it.

How can I get over this obsessive worrying?! Also keep feeling really grumpy and tearful then panicking that period is on its way.

How do you all get through this?! And on the flipside, I have also started worrying about stupid stuff like my car being too small for a baby and my dog! Argh!

Was going to join the July 2012 bus, but suddenly felt all superstitious and bottled it. Am I too early to even post here?

And breathe! Ooh I feel a bit better now. Thanks for letting me unload.

Cheers
Alex

Oh and a purely practical question - how soon should I go to my GP? Was going to rush down there yesterday then the doom and gloom set in and I thought maybe wait a couple of weeks, then I read that that may still be way too early for them to want to see me/book me in...

Ooh I just want to hug you and say it'll be ok.

Someone with actual advice etc will be along soon.

I think everyone who has ever found out they are pregnant feels exactly like you do. It's all very surreal at first especially if you don't 'feel' pregnant-ie no major symptoms.
Don't worry about the car at the moment. If I were you I would join the July bus and take it from there as there will be people in the same situation with exactly the same concerns.
Good luck

...And breathe! You can go and see your GP as soon as you know. I went within a couple of days of positive pregnancy test. All they do is calculate your due date and then refer you to hospital/midwife for your booking in appointment at 10 weeks. So nothing really much happens between now and your booking appointment.

The first 12 weeks are really stressful as you are really excited but also expect things to go wrong. And its the time you are the sickest if you suffer from morning sickness. Keep calm, try not to get carried away, even forget about it if you can!

Thanks for your replies girls!

Yes it does feel really surreal, I am glad it's not just me! Yep no symptoms apart from feel bloated, slightly crampy and premenstrual!

I will pluck up the courage to ring the GP tomorrow :) Blimey I can't believe nothing happens then until 10 weeks, what am I supposed to do to pass the time lol! Especially with no boozy nights out to enjoy

I felt exactly the same i was 6 weeks when i found out but never got my booking appointment until i was over 12 weeks.

The first few weeks dragged in but the rest has flew in. I am now 37+6. :)

The worry will never go away totally but i found that mine eased a bit after my first scan!

congratulations :)

Also mumsnet has been amazing every time ive worried about something (however small) i have posted on here and always got really good advise :)

Thanks :) I really hope mine doesn't drag too much. You haven't long to go!

I have found mumsnet great too!

Um, congratulations. You sound exaclty like me when I was pregnant with DD. i.e. 36, overweight and panicking.

I thought at the beginning I would never get over the excitement and anxiety. I think it's a bit hard to take in until you actually start to look pregnant and, if I remember rightly, that takes a while to happen. In the meantime, enjoy the early pregnancysymptoms, learn how to ask, or in my case threaten with vomiting for a seat on the train/bus and go with the flow.

Aw thanks slug glad I am not the only one like this! :)

Luckily morning sickness hasn't set in yet. Although of course I am also worried that means the pregnancy isn't strong

Did you have any problems with being overweight? I keep hearing horror stories about comments on scans etc. But maybe I will just be so pleased to get to the point of a scan that I will not care what they write/say!

Hi! I also felt a bit like that when I first found out (I'm 6wks+3). I am 34 and also overweight. Because i have existing high blood pressure and took medication for this I went to my GP before I started TTC. I asked about my weight (my Bmi makes me obese! Delightful), and my GP looked at like I was crazy for even worrying about it. She told me that they only worry if you are very obese, not slightly obese like me!! She didn't even tell me to lose any more weight. I was very surprised! I was expected to be told off. Anyway, what I'm getting at is that I was pleasantly surprised how little anyone has mentioned weight to me so far :-)

Congratulations on your news! Just to ease your mind, re morning sickness I never suffered with it so doesn't mean pregnancy isn't strong, not everyone gets it! I didn't believe I was pregnant til my scan, then suddenly it all became real, most places that do 3d scans will do an early pregnancy scan (for a fee of course) but from about 8 weeks they can usually see a heartbeat so can always book 1 of them to look forward to.

Thanks for the reassurance! Unfortunately I think I might be classed as very obese but I also asked my GP and my gynae before TTC and they just said eat healthily, but don't go on a diet, so fingers crossed it'll be ok.

Maybe I will lose loads with morning sickness - my mum had it really bad (as well as pre-eclampsia and such severe PND that she was sectioned )

Congrats btw, you are not too far ahead of me :)

Thanks Rockchick, would an early scan be at somewhere like Bupa or Spires private hospitals? I may look into that at 8 weeks. Although maybe I will be too fat and have to have an internal - dildo-cam terrifies me! (I know, I have far worse ahead fingers crossed that all goes well!)

Not sure if they do them, I know most large towns/cities have companies doing 3d/4d scans, if you google you should find somewhere near you. If you are feeling cheeky you can always go to your hospital early pregnancy unit and tell them you have had pains, they will give u a scan to check all is ok (bit cheeky but I know of loads of people who have done this!).