A fourth child at 45? Is it sensible?

[Fredddo]

Hello everyone - I am new...and in turmoil! I will be 45 in a few months. I have 3 gorgeous and healthy children: DS 12, DD 10 and DD 6. I also had 3 miscarriages, the last one when I was forty, after I had my youngest DS. After that we decided not to try again but I have grown more and more desperate in the last few years. As I am turning 45, it feels like "last chance saloon"! My husband is not totally opposed to the idea but thinks it is not sensible. My friends and family think I am mad and that I should be content with my 3 children (which I am, in a way...). Our financial situation is not great at the moment as we are both self employed. So all in all, not sensible indeed... And yet I am desperate... Any thoughts, experiences, suggestions anyone may want to share would be welcome!

My best friend had her only DS a couple of weeks before her 43 birthday.

I'm 44 and currently holding DC2 who is 11 weeks old. DC1 is 2. Ideally I would not have 2 under 2 at my age but I spent my younger years being great at getting pregnant and shit at staying so. Living through it at the mo, I would say that the acute end of motherhood is definitely a young person's game. I wouldn't swap it for anything though Good luck!

I had DS at 45 - no IVF etc he was unplanned - my youngest was almost 16. I had a great pregnancy, birth etc and he is perfect and just turned 3. I would say it is hard energy wise but it was when I was in my twenties - just kids in general I think. If you are both happy to do so - go ahead you have obviously given it a lot of thought - good luck.

Good luck hairy, the pgy after mc is a scary thing, I never got over the anxiety, and when DS was born I could not believe he was real!