Can u put my mind a ease? Getting worried!!!

[my2centsis]

I'm 34 +4, 2nd baby, have a dd 3.5.
It has been quite a scary pregnancy, 1st i was petrified of having a MC as i had 2 b4 dd with 1 ending in an emergency d&c, got to 12 weeks then at scan baby's skin behind his neck was 3.1 so went through a terrifying few weeks but everything turned out fine, then it was waiting for the 20week scan to rule out heart problems etc, found out we were having a healthy baby boy.
Then 28week bloods came back very high so has suspected gestational diabetes, had further tests which came back normal!
I feel like I have been sooo lucky so far I feel like I'm waiting for the next bad thing to happen, still born, SIDS.... I'm so scared.

I did alot of gardening, edges etc this morning, hasn't felt baby move in about 5hours, started to panic so ate alot of ice (which always makes him move) got a few small movements after 10min so thought i was over reacting, carried on with my day, have been quite bizy changing around mine and dd's room, just been to toilet and I'm bleeding when I wipe, but baby has all of a sudden become VERY active, moving constantly.

Is this anything to worry about or am I over thinking things again? My midwife has small children and I don't want to ring her at 11pm unless I have to?

Seek help immediately, can you go to your nearest maternity unit for monitoring now?

Any change in movements to your "normal" can be indicator that things aren't okay please trust your instincts and get checked out, a false alarm is so much better then ignoring.

Trust your instinct and go to doctors hospital. I'm sure it is all fine but best to get checked out, even if only to put you at ease. Hope you're both ok

Go and get checked out. It's probably nothing but really really not worth chancing it. They'd far rather see you when all is well than have you not go in for fear of bothering them or overreacting.

Let us know how you get on x

Yes, please go and get checked. Don't feel you are wasting anyone's time - they would much rather check and everything be ok than not check and there be a bad outcome.

Have they mentioned a low laying placenta at any of your scans? If so you really MUST get checked asap.

Actually, either way - advice is if you have noticed a change in normal movements, go for monitoring.

I hope you're on your way?

Thank you for your replys, I havnt got a low lying placenta and the spotting seems to have stopped, I was wondering if mayb I hadn't felt baby move much today as iv been so busy.

The hospital is 45min away and I will have to wake dd and take her with me and my midwife isn't the sympathetic type so imagin she will b cross if I waste her time.

I just dint want to b 1 of those ppl who didn't go get checked and something bad happens

Yes please go and get checked, better check these things out. I went with ds 1 as he wasn't moving as much as normal and the midwives told me they'd rather check and it be nothing than not check and something be wrong. And that it was best even just to stop me worrying, turned out ds was fine and I was actually in early labour!

:)

Go to your delivery suite now.

Please do not wait around asking people on here if you should or shouldn't go. Don't worry either about arsey midwives.
Reduced movement which is not normal for you needs to be investigated.

I lost my daughter when i was 35wks pregnant, there were no sign no nothing as it happened during the night. I only wish to god i had some kind of sign or warning that something was going wrong so i could have tried to save her. . . . this eats away at me every single day.

Go now. Bleeding is not common and could be an indicator something is seriously wrong (equally it could be nothing), but is it worth the risk? It's unlikely it will be your MW who is there anyway. Your DD will be fine, the monitoring usually only takes about 45 minutes, pack some sweets and books.

Hope you went in by now and that baby is ok. I wouldn't mess about with any lack of movement, with or without bleeding. Baby isn't always fine, it's wrong to assume they will be, hence why it's always better to go and be checked out.

Hi there, thanks so much for your replys, I rang my midwife and she didn't seem to concerned, said to keep an eye on movements etc, movements today have been steady everytime I sit down however I'm 99.9% sure I have dilated 2-3cm, I have Hurd that with 2nd babies some women start dilating a few weeks before actual labour? Did this happen to anyone?

And if so is it safe to have sex?

Still sounds like you should get checked out to me? I don't know either way about dilating early, but could the maternity assessment unit confirm for you and tell you whether things are likely to happen imminently?

Maybe go today now that dd will be up?(although I have to agree with the others that I would have gone last night even if it meant getting ds up)

And can't help re the sex thing either! Poor DH wouldn't have gotten near me in those last few weeks!

Sorry i can't help you with regards to women dilating earlier with 2nd babies..... my 2nd baby was stillborn.

I don't want to sound harsh but i'm surprised you haven't been to be checked over. You were obviously concerned enough to post on here so you know something wasn't right.
A midwife can not tell you over the phone that your baby is ok, only going to the hospital & being checked over will do that.

Making a bit of a fuss & being inconvenienced today is better than waiting and realising your baby has died & having to give birth to a stillborn baby. Sorry if that sounds harsh but i think you are being silly not going to be checked over.

It really does sound like you should be seen.

Have you gone to be checked out yet? If not why not?

How are you doing? You really should be seen not just chatting to the midwife.