Anyone else on maternity leave and fed up with EVERYTHING?!

[OdaBear]

Hi all

Been on maternity leave for nearly two weeks, not due until the 20/11/11, but am getting thoroughly fed up with the waiting. Just like when you're trying to conceive and looking out for every sign of pregnancy, I'm now looking out for every sign of labour. Pathetic! Plus, am not in the mood for my friends to visit, and have just put off one of my friends from seeing me today - largely because the thought of grocery shopping for lunch and standing around making lunch, plus sorting the place out for her seemed like too much bother. My mind is only focused on labour and baby right now, and everything else seems so out of focus and unimportant. Am I just being grumpy, or can anyone else relate at all?

I've been on mat leave for a week. I'm due 4 days before you. I totally empathise with seeing everything as a sign. Take my low back ache today as an example. Clearly the baby is about to make an entrance rather than the head is just fully engaged and weighing heavy on my back! Logic doesn't come into this!

I am making myself keep active and go out though. I get bored so easily I have made a massive list of things to do and if I feel a bit listless I refer to it and force myself to do something!

If you feel that the shopping etc is a bit much why don't you suggest going out for lunch? I'm sure your friend won't mind. I've been out twice to lunch this week and it really breaks day up.

I'm most fed up with feeling like everyone else has got their babies! Two people from NCT have theirs now and I so want to hold mind now. The thought of another 3.5 weeks if I went 2 weeks over is horrifying!!

And I don't think you're pathetic. I think we will both know when we are really in labour but it's only natural to want the baby to be here now and look for signs. X

Yeh, tell me about the low backache! I keep having backache coupled with contractions, but then its gone. Hmph!

I am trying to be as active as possible, like going out for walks, and pottering to the shops now and then. I could have suggested going out for lunch, but (also pathetic) have given myself a hideously tight budget this month so that I don't go overdrawn over the next few months. So extra expenditure is sadly out of the question. A shame really, as retail therapy would be great right now!

I had a friend come and see me yesterday, but she has had babies before, so totally understands how I'm feeling at this stage. She brought round some cake and didn't stay too long. My other friend is a lot younger, and wanted to show her new boyfriend off. Any other time in my life and I would have been so up for it - but not right now. Selfish, huh?

And yes, the thought of going overdue, let alone all the way up to due date is just too much!!! I've mentally geared myself up for giving birth anytime now, when realistically, this could go on until December!

Are you finding that you've got enough energy to get everything on your lists done?

If I have my afternoon nan nap! I generally find I'm so tired by about 4pm so I have an hour which makes me much better value for when DH gets home!

I think you are being very hard on yourself if I can say that? You are about to have a baby (sooner rather than later for both of us I hope!) and you have to listen to your body. If you are tired and feel like you can't deal with certain people that's absolutely fine. It's not selfish or pathetic.

Nothing I am doing is terribly exciting BTW - making freezer meals, writing my Christmas cards, sorting household filing...! It passes the time though!

I keep reminding myself that no one is pregnant forever and that's a great comfort.

I've been off for 2 weeks now and im soooooooo bored. I cant be bothered/ find energy to do anything that would relieve the boredom. I'm fixated on everything baby related and not at all interested in anything else. Every little twinge convinces me that this is the time and when nothing further happens it puts me in a mood!! Im due 15th nov and I know every minute until then will feel like a day

Thanks Pastabee. I love my nan nap mid-afternoon too! There are certain people I can't deal with right now, and I guess I just hope that my younger mate understands. I don't think she does though..? I'll probably have a chat with her when I'm 'feeling better'.

I too have been making freezer meals, and I have a very exciting list of what they are and when they were made stuck to my fridge door.

Card-making - what a great idea. I have a box full of card-making paraphernalia. Its true what you say about not being pregnant forever. I think back to just a few weeks ago where I couldn't possibly imagine being at this stage. I know it will fly by eventually, its just rubbish waiting.

Whimsicalquark - are you me? I totally relate to everything you've said. I'm just slightly envious of your earlier due date!

I'm fed up too. Second week of mat leave, and due tomorrow. Not engaged, no clear signs (although I seem to find some everyday despite knowing logically I'm making them up!), and body has decided that I no longer require sleep. The worry is getting to me too. Is he moving enough/too much? I just want to meet my baby!!

Oh dear Beachlover - its so frustrating! But you're practically there now, so keep the faith. Baby might not engage until you go into labour, and some people get no warning signs.

I'm really not sure why we're designed in a way that pregnancy becomes so uncomfortable towards the end that sleep is just totally out of the question. I'm certain other mammals don't have this problem!

Hang in there, he'll be here before you know it! x

Me me me! Day 5 of mat leave. Due 8/11/11. Bit bored would be an understatement. Home cooked dinners every day for OH and the dc's. House has never been so tidy. Yawn.

It's my first week of maternity leave. I was so bored by Wednesday I actually went into work on the pretence that a problem had come up that nobody other than me could deal with. It was actually to get me out of the house!

I'm fed up and exasperated. There is so much I want done but I have no energy and not enough puff. My diaphragm is under so much pressure I can't get a proper breath so my exercise tolerance isn't great. The school run is enough to take it out of me. ON the other hand I am desperate no to go into labour until DH gets home.

Im due 22/11/11 and yes the thought of going over due is not an option!!!

I have now been getting contractions every day, tummy is hard now most of the time, just keep thinking please let it be now, I AM READY!!!!

Haven't slept now for 3 months, totally fed up. I think the worse bit is when you get / try to stand up and I think to myself, do I really need another wee? Do I really want to go up stairs? The pressure on the lower regions is so painful. Heads ready to go, so just want it out!!!!

Minus273 totally get the breathless thing, it's nice when you have a leg stuck up in the rib department too!

Couldn't we all sit together in some sort of Labour /Yoga /Spirit class and get these babies out!!! lol I would love to see that, but i dont think i would even get up off the floor!

I'm on week 4 of mat leave and totally ready. I had quite a lot of stuff to do when I stopped working but it's all done now.
I have also.. Bought all the Christmas presents and the cards and washed and ironed everything, cleaned the kitchen cupboards .etc etc you get the picture.

I think next week I might wrap the presents and start addressing the c cards.. It feels wrong to write the inside until the family has it's new member but surely I can lick a few stamps!!

I even made a cake for dh to take to his work but it's still in the fridge as apparently lots of people are off work this week.... I said I could just make another next week!!!

Yes! Yes! I'm not due til nov 19th and despite the fact that baby not engaged in the slightest am infenting labour signs daily.

Maternity leave but no baby is very weird!

I've been off work since Sep so well and truly fed up! Due on the 19th and I've tried bribing her to come early!!! It doesn't help that so many ladies in the November antinatal group are already cuddleling their little ones.... Ho hum PMA it will be soon.... Please?

Lol H007. I keep making deals / reasoning with the baby 'if you come out we can try out your swingy chair' or 'it must be very cramped in there, are you sure you wouldn't prefer to come out and have a nice stretch'.

H007 ha am so with you on the antenatal thread!
Do I decorate the bathroom? Due date on tuesday. However kids are home this weekend so could rope them in to wallpaper stripping and so on. I am running out of things to do! Arrgghhh. Please please please I cannot go 2 weeks late!!!

I downloaded lots of songs about moving down last night (there are a surprising amount of them!) and made it a megamix to get it into the right way if thinking

It cannot be 2 weeks late. Surely?! :)

Are you me? Lol. I'm feeling the same. 3 weeks mat leave and feeling increasingly fed up. I have 3 yr old DD to look after 2 days per week. I had a sweep Tuesday night, started losing my plug Wednesday and everything bloody stopped! I get so angry each time I go to the loo and there's nothing, it's like waiting for AF to never arrive!! I also am do not in the mood for socializing but have to keep up with playdates so I do. Ahhhh!!!! One more week for me though, bring induced next Friday.