Just had fight with DH. Feeling shit, please chat to me.

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Up until about a week ago I was really looking forward to the arrival of dc2 (sometime in the next 5 weeks) but I just feel like shit now.
DH and I have just had a fight over a sodding sandwich! I dropped it when DS1 jumped on me, he rolled his eyes, I lost it! He says I should appologise and stop being so 'volatile'. DS1 (19mo) was clearly confused and upset but I still couldn't bring myself to say sorry, all my fault, just over reacting, even though I knew I was - what a horrid mummy I am.
I'm just shit at it. Since starting maternity leave he watches far too much cbbies, I'm just so tired.
I can't imagine how terrible I'll be when there's 2 of them to look after!
Dreading vbac (which dh can't understand )
Dropped him back at work still not speaking, it's all shit.

Your DH is being a dickhead. YOU are pregnant, hormonal, and irrational. He has no bloody excuse. Sorry I can't offer a level headed response, I am hormonal and irrational right now too .

the pathetic thing is i just wanted him to give me a hug and say 'who cares about a stupid sandwich, I love you despite your hormones' Instead all i got was 'get a grip' and 'you're being irrational' I FUCKING KNOW I AM !!!

Hi Honey,

Men do not experiance pregnancy in the same way as us and sometimes do not realise that we have to deal with hormones, they are often very .com. We have no control over how we feel sometimes. To cheer you up I cried for hours yesterday as I cleaned the kitchen and could not explain why.

YM1 Xxxxxx

Your husband it being a dickhead. Surely he doesn't need to experience pregnancy to realise you feel vulnerable and frightened.
Hopefully he'll come home from work and apologise profusely and give you the hug you need.
Hugs to you anyway and chin up....things will get better :)

Thanks, just feel so about it. We've just moved 250 miles which doesn't help. no one in rl near by to chat to, go to.

Oh dear

Perhaps he is also feeling a little overwraught and tired? Of course you shouldn't have rolled his eyes. And of course you shouldn't have snapped. But there we are... let it go. Perhaps just say 'sorry I snapped but please cut me some slack'. I am sure he'll also say sorry and he'll give you the hug you need.

Please don't worry about it. You are tired and awash with hormones. It will get better and it won't be as hard as you think with 2 of them. Chin up!

best relationship advice i ever got was from my gran 'pick your battles' is it really worth fighting about? You say you know you over reacted so wait til he comes home tell him you don't want to fight and need a hug then forget about it... if he's still not willing to make peace after that then i'd say thats a battle worth fighting.

Thanks Orm and kiki I think I will call him, can't stand it festering all day. Just wish I didn't have to point out 'I'm hormonal, give me a break' The massive bump I've been lugging around since 6 months preg should be a clue!
(I blame his mother for never letting her emotions show but that's another matter)

Oh :( He's being a stupid stupid man...which is what most men turn into when their wives are pregnant.

I had a fight this morning with DH because he wouldn't tell me what was being discussed on some news channel. I was in the kitchen and couldn't hear - so i asked him twice "What are they talking about?"...His reply? "They're talking about stuff" the second reply? "They're talking about Scooby Doo"...
LIKE WTF??? I ASKED A SIMPLE QUESTION AND TWICE HE TOOK THE PISS.

So I came out of the kitchen and slammed the door and went back to bed with my tea. Stupid idiot. Then my DD (aged 3) bought him upstairs by the hand and told him to say sorry to me!!!! Which was so cute, and it made me feel slightly better. Thanks to him though, I've been in a bad mood all day and I'm not speaking to him either.

Hope you make friends with your DH when he gets home. Don't worry, I don't think you'll be the same when you have 2 children. It's all hormones right now isn't it?

last night i made the mistake of taking the piss out of my dp record collection a bit much. he said " difference of opinion is fine but intolerance is just not cool" which caused me to storm up stairs and stay there and havent spoken to him since.

Just wanted to say to your "how will i cope" part of the post, I have found a baby and a toddler a million times easier than a toddler when heavily pregnant, or pregnant at all in fact.

And last pregnancy I threw the sandwich at DH so you are immeasurably less irrational than I was :)

Glad to hear I'm not the only one with a stupid husband.

lol at sandwich throwing!

If it makes you feel any better, I threw mug at the wall and the pasta I had just cooked and drained all over DH last night and then stormed out of the kitchen. His crime? He asked if I had shut the chickens in for the night.

For some reason, it was the straw that broke the camels back, after a really niggly day, where I had been a complete hormonal cow. He just stood there like an idiot with a bemused look on his face, when he should have immediately appologised and given me a hug.

Your DH will survive. Just give him a big hug and tell him you love him, when he gets home.