Can I hear some lovely 20 week scan stories?

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I have mine tomorrow and am so much more worried than I was with either previous pregnancy. I'm driving myself mad thinking through all the things that could go wrong, and all the things I've done wrong that could lead to a problem. We have a lovely evening arranged afterwards, so I'm trying to focus on that, but I couldn't sleep last night from worrying about tomorrow. I know things can and do go wrong, but I have no reason to think they will iywsim. I wish I could feel more positive about it.

I'm with you! I have my 20 week scan tomorrow too (3pm) and I am SO nervous about it.
With my 1st DS I was very excited and positive about the 20 week scan and it was just WONDERFUL. We found out he was a HE, watched him squirming about, gazed at his little face and were generally overwhelmed with happiness and excitement.
This time around I am just very nervous but really hoping and fingers crossed that everything will be ok and all those good feelings will come back.

Good luck with yours, I am sure it will be a wonderful moment.

Total sympathy - I know exactly how you feel. I'm an older first-time mother and had done so much reading about potential maternal-age-related chromosomal problems etc that I was lying in the scan (last week) saying 'What about the heart - can you see whether all the chambers are working?' and 'Are there bright spots?' The sonographer clearly thought I was a nut - I was supposed to be more sorry and excited about seeing my baby, and I actually sounded like a medical textbook. Actually, once I'd calmed down, it was lovely - the baby looked adorable, small and unco-operative (hates having its photo taken, like its mother) and very much like a baby (rather than the wee prawn it was at 12 weeks). My very best wishes for your scan.

My storys not lovely pretty normal but to me it was amazing - I loved seeing baby look like a baby they measured all the bits and bobs and were all average never thot i'd be so happy to here the words 'your babys average' hehe

I specially loved when they measured his thigh bone i don't know why but i found it completely amazing looking at his bone i knew he had them but was exactly like a normal one but in mini i'm mad i know. I also burst out in hysterical giggles when she was checking he was a boy, she goes here is the scrotum and the penis very professional like and all ni could think of was gawd his balls look massive and couldn't stop laughing!! I've got a smile on my face just remembering his wee bones slightly about the laughing tho!

Good luck

I had mine a couple of weeks ago and it was brilliant, so much better than the 12 week one. I had made myself quite sick in the lead up as I was stressing so much about what the results would be but the lady doing it was brilliant and so reassuring about everything. Was fantastic to see a wriggly baby and she explained exactly what she was checking and why as she went along

I feel like a huge load has been taken off my mind and am now starting to believe that this pg will have a good outcome

Mine was the I finally admitted to myself I was pregnant! I'm 33 wks today, but also had a mmc and mc this year.

Scan took ages as baby was in completely the wrong position for them to get their measurements. So we got a look, then went for a walk, drink & something to eat to shift him, and then had a big long look!

He was sucking his thumb and waving his legs around, and was def a HE. Cue me and dh in tears of relief & happiness.

These are great thank you :) We're hoping to get the sonographer to write the sex in an envelope for us so we can open it later, but I do wonder if it might be obvious, the firs tthing I saw at ds's 20 week scan was his bits waving around :) Mine's at half 1 tomorrow so less than a day. I ahave ds with me today keeping me busy but when I drop both dc off tomorrow I'll have the whole morning to stew on it.

Mine was a long time ago, but I do remember two things.

When we were finding her, when she popped up in full view, we said wave to the camera and she did. Then when they were checking the face we said "Give us a smile" and her mouth moved into a smile shape. I know they aren't supposed to be real smiles at that age, but it was just so canny that she did everything we asked when we asked it.

I was SOOO nervous when I had mine. (Two previous "perfect" babies so terrified my luck would run out) It was lovely!! Baby performed all the poses asked for and I had my first proud "that's my child" moment!! Also found out it MIGHT be a sister to join two big brothers (not that it matters, but it was a nice possibility added!) Just waiting for the little monkey to pop out in the next few weeks now.

Good luck and enjoy!

We had our 20wk scan yesterday and it was amazing, so lovely and just perfect. This is our first and yeah we were worried but very very quickly i was put at ease and could enjoy the scan. We were hoping for a boy, and we both cried when we were told it is wee boy!

I was a lovely lovely 20min and I'm sure yours will be the same. Dont stress and enjoy. I told the sonographer lady I was worried and she took her time to explain and show me everything was just perfect!! Try that maybe!

Good Luck!!

We took our two older dc to dc3's 20w scan. Dc2 (then 3y) was totally uninterested and oblivious, but dc1 (then 5y) was fascinated and thrilled. He asked loads of questions, and took the scan picture to school the following day for Show & Tell - together with his train ticket!

He still remembers, and ds2 knows that he grew in my tummy not because I told him but because ds1 has told him so, and described what he looked like.

I have enjoyed all my scans, even the 20w one of dc1, that showed an anomaly and resulted in a lot of anxiety and tests. The anomaly resolved itself over the course of the pregnancy, and I had many scans tracking it. I remember cuddling minutes-old ds1 and thinking "I don't need to count your fingers and toes because I've already done so while you were still inside me!"

I feel incredibly lucky and privileged to have had scans. Ultimately they made no difference to my pregnancies, births or babies, but they were wondrous and very reassuring.

Hope yours goes well tomorrow.

First time DD had her legs closed shut and wouldn't move!! They couldn't measure her properly so I had to go back a few times!! We never found out her sex as she wouldn't show us!

This time, we had DD with us and it was lovely. Our little man wouldn't stay still and wouldn't let the sonographer measure! She finally got all the measurements after about 30 mins of making me wiggle my belly around. When we asked about the sex she showed us his "bits" and said "That's the only thing he's willing to show us"!!

Hope you have fun tomorrow!

I know how you feel. I was so nervous in the run up to my twenty week scan, but it turned out to be great. The baby was really active and very definitely a boy. Somehow knowing the gender and being able to give him a name really changed how I felt. Before it had been a little bit abstract, especially as I hadn't felt movement yet (anterior placenta), but afterwards I had a real sense that this was our baby rather than a baby. I know its easier said than done, but try to hold onto the thought that the vast majority of twenty week scans are completely positive.

i was absolutely terrified the day of my 20 week scan cos 10 weeks earlier a family member had bad news at theirs that resulted in termination, so i was dreading what they were going to tell me. I new i wasn't really going to sleep the night before, so me and DH (cos we both had the day off anyway) got loads of DVD's to watch, pizza, ice cream and ended up sleeping on the sofa. I was lucky in that I had a 9am appointment so no hanging around and I was put at ease that pip was having a right good wriggle all the way there, and all the way back. The sonographer was fantastic and pointed everything out to us while she was taking measurements etc. The only thing that got my heart going was when the sonographer told us there was a problem. lol and that was that after his morning workout pip had decided that this was the point that it was going to go to sleep with their legs crossed! She tried everything in her power to wake them up but it wasn't having it. We got some lovely photos and when i got home i wondered what on earth i was worrying about. But its understandable to be nervous. It is a medical investigation and they don't do it just for the fun of it

I had my 20 week scan today, poor sleep last night and a real bag of nerves this morning!
Baby is perfect, fat old tummy measuring a 10 days ahead! And finding out the sex was amazing, I have never seen DH look so shocked, my family all have girls and we have DD, I had been harbouring a desire for a boy and we are having one! I have been grinning like a cheshire cat all day I have been so worried for all 21+6 of my pregnancy and finally feel relieved that he is perfect and I have a son!
One of the highlights of my life today, I hope your day is just as perfect. :)

Congratulations Purplebuns, I have a dd and then a ds, it's been great :) I feel a bit better tonight, I've been keeping myself busy and have polished off a whole (small, well OK, medium sized) bar of dark chocolate as a treat. Tomorrow morning is going to be difficult I think, but I do think my sleepless night last night may work to my advantage as I feel ready to drop.

Thank you, I stayed up really late last night so that I would find it easier to sleep which did help. If you feel like doing the antenatal thread thing I recommend this bunch.
I hope you get some reasonable sleep, and that all goes well tomorrow, oh and if you definitely don't wan't to see the gender look away as it has been obvious with both of mine! Good luck and keep us posted :)

I've got mine tomorrow too so will no doubt report back. I know what you mean though for some reason i've been a lot more worried about everything this time around. Last time I seemed to take for granted that everything was ok but not so much this time. I'm more excited about this scan than the 12 week one where I was a shaking nervous wreck because my symptoms had completely disappeared a few weeks before.

With DS it was great, he gave a proper strongman pose at one point which made us laugh and I think DH got a real surge of male pride when he saw the size of his sons willy hehe. The difference from the 12 week scan was amazing, without meaning to sound horrible he was so much more interesting to watch, he was so animated. I didn't want it to end to be honest.

Ah quite looking forward to tomorrow now.

I hope your scans went well today Fuckity and Sausage :)

Thanks, I hope yours went well too :) It's a boy! We got the sonographer to write it down for us and opened it over a very posh dinner last night, though the surprise was ruined somewhat by my roving eye and my son's apparently giant tackle We have to go back next week as the rascal was standing on his head and wouldn't budge so we need closer looks at the face and heart. Everything looks fine though. We had a fantastic sonographer, and our unit seems to have modernised since I had ds (ds1!!) as there's no need to crane to look at the sonographers screen anymore, you get your own screen right in front of the bed. It was amazing, she took her time and despite little ones stubbornness we got a good look at his face (beautiful, enormous lips and my little snub nose). We didn't get any pictures but will hopefully get lots next week :)

Congratulations! Glad all ok.