Good bloody lord. Honestly, I'm not an idiot.
When I say I've experienced a LOT of pain, I mean it. 4 doses of morphine (on top of the stuff they've given me, trying not to give me morphine as I was underweight) haven't touched the sides of some of the pain I've had, so please don't assume that I'm being unrealistic about pain levels. I ranked that pain at a 6/10 and was told next time, to rank 10/10 or 'as I feel' but MENTION that last time I felt this amount of pain that 4 shots of morphine later I still couldn't move without almost passing out.
I refuse to get myself worked up into a frenzy of expecting extreme agony and thus getting it because I'm stressed. I don't think that's going to do anyone any good, especially not me or my baby. If it hurts, it hurts and I'll deal with it. All I'm trying to get across is that IF you've had extreme pain before then childbirth is often less of a shock, and for some, less painful, or at least more managable that extremely bad period pains. For some women, childbirth is uncomfy but painless, so please, please don't assume it's going to hurt like hell, just prepare for what you want to do if it does.
Also, if you approach birth with a negative attitude then, well, is it surprising if it hurts and you feel out of control from the offset? No. If shit happens and control is taken away, then that's different, but to go in expecting agony and to feel terrible isn't wise!
We should be encouraging mums-to-be that everything will be fine, they will cope, they might find it very painful, yes, but there are things they can do to prepare and manage other than listening to horror stories of other women's shitty times! Prepare them for what might happen, yes, but don't insist that it's going to be hell and is something that's "happening to" them rather than something that they have a say in how to manage. That's why being informed, doing a decent birth plan, including what you want to happen if intervention is needed at various stages is important.
To get back to topic, if women ARE actually properly educated and informed about pregnancy and childbirth and given the time to plan, adjust and manage then it'd help a lot with reducing the fear of childbirth and help prevent ELCS when there's no medical need. It's a crying shame that women are not more confident in themselves and their bodies to at least try for a natural birth when there's absolutely no reason not to. Instead of plowing money into this, PCTs should be investing more in antenatal care.