Want to cry all the time this week

[justhayley]

Hiya I'm 14 weeks 1 day & have been totally emotional and feeling really low this week. my partner is in the Army and hasn't been around much during the pregnancy. Iv got so many fears and am feeling really anxious about being alone when the baby comes, and also because of his job not even knowing where I'll be living a few months after he/she's born. Up until now iv been feeling really positive and excited but this week - the last few days especially iv been crying at every opportunity and feeling really low about well everything really.
Not sure if this is a particularly hormone infused week but need tips on picking myself up and feeling good again - without eating too much chocolate which is what I'm doing now lol.

Xx

Glad to see I'm not the only one. Having problems keeping my hormones in check! Hubby is not in the army, but we do get moved once a year or so with his work, bubs due april, not sure where we will be, or which country!

Chin up hun, have a good cry, and you may feel a little better.

I have been feeling crap and down for the past few weeks, hopefully it will get better.

xxxxx

I can't remember where you're based...uk?
The hormones def. wont be helping, but pg so far for me has been mostly ok interspersed with highly emotional days, especially in 2nd trimester. A little more stable at 28wks, so, well, hopefully things will settle down naturally anyway for you.
I've found exercising really helps me with anxiety and depression, as it partly just knackers me out so I sleep better and can thus not mull over crap in my head.
Is there anyone around you at the moment you can share with? Any family you can phone, or friends you have tin the area that can help you feel less isolated?
Sharing the anxieties really helps (have you joined your relevant antenatal thread?) My guys are ace and we're ranting it all out on eachother giving hugs and advice as needed. I don't have any proper friends (at all really, thanks to a bad bout of depression) in my area and find the forums helpful. But especially none with children.
Have you talked to the MW about any concerns/anxieties?
Have you contacted the NCT (uk based?) and similar to see if there are bump-groups in your area (doesn't have to just be the antenatal classes). If uk based, check with your local children's centres and/or libraries and see if they offer anything/know of groups. Also, check with your MW, may seem daft, but they may have ideas about what you can do too. I don't know if such a thing exists, but if there is someone in charge of fanily liason stuff in the army, contact them. I'd imagine the army would have stuff in place, even if it is just a group of mums/mums to be in your area, and the same again if/when you move. Not knowing where you're going to be in a few months must be difficult .
Also, you might want to look at programs like "hypnobirthing" (it isn't just about birth) and the likes, I've just started to read about it and it seems to chime in many ways with the cognitive behavioural techniques I was taught to help cope with depression and anxiety. You may find it, or similar reassuring?
If nothing else, please keep coming back to the pg thread and talking to us about any concerns.
Hope you have a begtter week this week!

Thank you, I'm due in April as well.
Iv always enjoyed change but am hating the instability of the unknown & am feeling really insecure and abit all over the place.

Just had a hot shower (yes hot but it was quick) and am now having a warm milk (god I'm turning back into a 4 year old or a granny) but it made me feel a lot better.

I hope your ok hun, it's so hard even though I no my emotions are exaggerated at the moment I still can't sort them out! bloody hormones, hopefully this will pass for both of us soon

Xxx

Aw hun :(. I'm not in the same situation as you but can sympathise with the hormone thing. This is my 2nd pregnancy and it's definately been more emotional/hormonal than physical. Each week has been up and down and its horrible. No advice but have a hug!