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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

grrrrrrr..... A Rant.

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blueskydrinking · 27/10/2011 13:27

10 weeks in, probably another 6 weeks of 1st trimester gloominess if last pg was anything to go by, and I am FED UP. I don't post here that often so I'm sorry to let it out on you all, but I SO need to get it off my chest. Feel free to ignore.

I am so bloody fed up of feeling like I have a cracking hangover the whole time. The tiredness is crippling and the nausea is exhausting and depressing. In addition to the dodgy stomach and the headache. I'm fed up of feeling so stupidly hormonal and crying at everything from news to comedies to walking hard into a cupboard door for the second time in as many days. What is with that? I'm fed up of my husband not having the faintest clue or much of an interest in what it's like (he's notoriously unsympathetic and I'm sick of that too). I'm fed up of being approached for sex (and feeling guilty for not being even vaguely interested) when actually all I can do in the evening is try not to fall asleep immediately after I've put DS to bed and sit very still so as not to be sick. I'm fed up of not enjoying DS quite as much because it is impossibly hard work caring for a toddler when all you really want to do is hibernate. I'm fed up of being freezing all of the time and looking like a dumpling and not being able to drink wine. Speaking of which, I'd forgotten how pissed off I got last time when my whole life is turned upside down, whereas DH gets all the benefits of having children but his life ticks along as normal. That's kicking in again already. I'm worried about how things will work out with my job (self-employed) and not getting any money in for a while and trying to fit in everything I need to do before mat leave. I'm terrified about the birth.

But mostly my hormones have gone mad and I'm in a f*ing awful mood.

And breathe.

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lollystix · 27/10/2011 14:02

Cake always helps I findWink

PamBeesly · 27/10/2011 14:07

This is my first pregnancy and I am 23 weeks now but up until 16 weeks I HATED being pregnant, I had awful itching caused by pregnancy, vomiting and just the geenral sick feeling, smells would make me weak and I'd get bone shattering tiredness. I just wasn't myself. Now however I just have a few aches and pains, it gets better but the only thing you can do is be gentle on yourself and eat when you can. I recommend cake too :) I'm afraid about the birth too, I'm doing yoga to try to prepare my body as much as possible but I know its going to be painful and I won't always be in control, I'm happy that I can have pain relief (gas and air, epidural etc) Congratulations

MrsDobalina · 27/10/2011 14:16

Aw have a huge virtual cup of tea and a big slice of cake from me. Just lots and lots of sympathy - I think pregnancy SUCKS. Especially with a toddler. Was always very jealous of people that enjoyed it. I have my fingers crossed that you feel better soon xx

VikingLady · 27/10/2011 14:44

Don't know whether it will help you, but thank you for making me feel better... Starting to feel like the only person in the world who is not having a fab pregnancy. 19wks, bump aches, still have massive food aversions and yet am constantly hungry, weepy...

Did you get better with your first? This is my first go on the merrygoround of sprogging, and I have nothing to compare it with.

Thanks

blueskydrinking · 27/10/2011 14:46

Thank you x

lollystix and MrsDobalina (oh, and PamBeesly !) I am taking you at your word and having a cup of tea and a cake - strangely do feel a bit calmer! 30 minutes of CBeebies enforced peace and quiet.

PamBeesly it's rubbish at the beginning isn't it, I'm glad it's not just me.

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blueskydrinking · 27/10/2011 14:50

oops, crossed posts, VikingLady.

It really does help to know that other people feel the same way! It did get better for me last time, the mid-second tri was quite enjoyable. Then it got rather more like hard work towards the end of the third!

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ITryToBeZenBut · 27/10/2011 16:38

Get it off your chest. Hope it feels better Smile

You're so normal. This is my first so didn't have to worry about caring for a little one whilst feeling rubbish - and the first 4 months were not a happy time. I'm so happy Tri 1 passed. I felt so ill and fed up that the things I normally enjoyed were either out of bounds or made me feel ill-er and frankly coming home from work and going to sleep and getting up and starting again drove me a bit mental as missed my 'I'm not at work and can relax' time.

The physical crud will pass and it'll be amazing how much more optimistic you'll feel when not ill and sleep deprived and hormonal.

Hoping it's soon for you. Brew

Bumpsadaisie · 27/10/2011 17:13

Ooh I sympathise - first trimesters are an absolute misery. I'm 41 weeks now and pretty fed up but your post has reminded me that even being 41 weeks is preferable to the grimness of the first tri! So, thanks Grin

Hang in there - every day you're getting closer to not feeling so bad. You'll have your 20 week scan, you'll feel kicks, you'll start bonding and it will all get better. Smile Promise.

BeyondLimitsOfTheLivingDead · 27/10/2011 17:28

I'm 17 weeks with a toddler too. You have my utmost sympathy!!
I'd just gotten over morning sickness and I then got flu. Still not well, but on the mend finally. Hoping I can enjoy my pregnancy soon....

roz1982 · 27/10/2011 18:09

Awwwwww blueskydrinking I'm sending muchos sympathy and positive thinking your way... Thanks Thanks Thanks it's so shit that first trimester, I was just in a hellish doom until 16 weeks. I know you say Your dh is notoriously unsympathetic but is there no way you can try and get a bit more understanding and support from him?? It's such a difficult time, if my dh hadn't looked after me I think I would have had a serious breakdown!!!

blueskydrinking · 27/10/2011 18:43

Thank you for the lovely posts.

Bumpsadaisie I was a nightmare at 41 weeks too so sending sympathy back at you! Not long to go...........

Beyondlimits that's really unlucky :( I hope you get to enjoy the 2nd trimester VERY soon.

ItrytobeZen (love the name btw) I know what you mean about missing the time to relax driving you crazy. Everything just feels a bit relentless.

DH does try but generally becomes tired and stressed himself at any sign of conditions needing sympathy or looking after. It irritates the hell out of me at times like this, but it's a quirk that never really seems to improve, no matter how you try to deal with it. Thanks for the sympathy though, roz

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Bumpsadaisie · 27/10/2011 22:27

Bluesky, I also found it a comfort in the first trimester this time round to think that I WILL NEVER HAVE TO GO THROUGH THiS AGAIN!!! (like you, I'm on no. 2 and there is no way I'm subjecting myself to pregnancy again ....)

BeyondLimitsOfTheLivingDead · 27/10/2011 22:31

Bumps I do that, being pregnant doesnt agree with me and I'm so glad I only want two! [hgrin]

blueskydrinking · 28/10/2011 07:40

That is true!! Grin

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Thzumbazombiewitch · 28/10/2011 07:48

Hope you feel better with it soon - I didn't enjoy being pg either but was lucky enough not to have too many physical symptoms - I did find that my spatial awareness went right off though! Don't know what that's about but yes, I was crashing into things, dropping things left right and centre - nightmare!

I'd be tempted to kick your DH somewhere relatively painful to give him a hint of how unpleasant you're feeling on a daily basis. But you might not want to!

blueskydrinking · 28/10/2011 13:34

ha thzumba it's tempting at times Hmm

Feeling a bit more like myself today; went for a long, muddy walk around the nature reserve this morning with DS and all that fresh air seems to have blown some of the cobwebs away. Damn hormones :)

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karron · 28/10/2011 13:45

I'm glad you had your rant as it makes me feel better about not feeling full of joy to be pregnant for the second time. Just feel tired and sick. Also DS isn't sleeping well at the moment and just find myself thinking how am I going to cope when there are 2 of them! Also same about other half thing already feeling resentful that I will be stuck at home while his life will carry on as before. Am sure it's just hormones. Might take myself of for a good walk as think that may also make me feel better!

blueskydrinking · 29/10/2011 13:29

Thanks karron. It's hard isn't it - I hope you start to get some decent sleep soon. We had a bad night last night - ended up spending half of it asleep on the floor (DS's preferred sleeping location) because it meant DS would settle and I'm so desperate it was preferable to no sleep at all.

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