please help..but dont judge! i am so worried!

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Hi, ok I've already posted a thread about this on here ages ago but I rly can't stop worrying, its getting me seriously down. Please don't judge me.... Anyway... Me and my partner had broke up, I had unprotected sex with a friend on the 18th july, my period came on the 19th july, I was on for about a week. By that time me and my partner got bk together, we have been having unprotected sex as we wanted another baby (we have already gt a 2yr old together) and now I'm pregnant. Is there ANY chance that it could be with the friend? I cnt get it out my head. I have my dating scan on tuesday and want to know how accurate it is? I'm 11 weeks 5 days from LMP, I had sex with my bf nearly everyday minus about 2! I am really worrying constantly about this and rly want it to be my bfs but just dnt know if friend could of got me pregnant day before my usual period started, on time, although two days longer, but that could be because when I came on I took the pill for 3 days as I wasn't back with my partner then

they date from period but conception date is different e.g 12 weeks pregnant is probably only 10 weeks from conception (based on 28 day cycle). This is why you can go over 2 weeks as the exact date of ovulation is hard to predict

over pregnancy due date i mean

i honestly think you have no chance of being pregnant by your friend - if you have a regular cycle and it was a normal period then that cycle had ended and unless you ovulated within the first five days (time sperm can live) then it must be your boyfriends!

You said your cycle is 26-28 days therefore you ovulate on day 12-14 after the first day of your period - like i said ovulation is always exactly 14 days before you get your period.

So you slept with the friend the day before you had a period, so at least 12 days before you typically ovulate and sperm dont live that long! Ring your Gp for advice to confirm but honestly i you are worrying unnecessarily. By your dates you are 12 weeks today but thats from your period - the actual conception would have been 2 ish weeks after that.

This all only applies is you do have a regular cycle.

IME scans are pretty accurate. I knew the date I conceived DS1 and when I had a scan they had me as one day less pregnant than I thought I was.

Sorry internets been down, blackberry. Well the scan said that the baby was 11 weeks 6 days, was measuring 51-53mm. Said that it was the 20th july. But I rly dnt think this is accurate. Seeing the baby on screen to me from my previous pregnancy rly didn't look that far gne, at my dating scan with my first, he was 11 weeks 5 days and he was quite developed. But this one looked very different.

Dating from 20 July means conception date plus two weeks - so they're dating the actual conception at 3 August. Basically they're saying that the baby is measuring true to dates, because your period came on 19 July, which lines up with the growth.

Does that make sense? My last period started 19 February, so they count my pregnancy from that date, and scans since then have just checked to see that the dates match up with expected growth. Which yours does, albeit behind by one day.

If it was your friend's baby, you'd have had to somehow conceive, then retain the fertilised egg in your body despite the uterine lining being expelled (your period), then it would have had to have hung around even longer, waiting for a new uterine lining to build up, and your dating scan would indicate a 14 week baby now, not a 12 weeker. So basically, it's your boyfriends. Congratulations on your pregnancy!

I really am worrying so much. I can't sleep or nothing. I have a very regular period, always have done. Even after having my son, 26-28 days. My son measured big at the dating scan, saying I got pregnant 3 days after starting period, which I no wasn't true. And he was born 2 weeks after my due date. So maybe I just have big ones? I don't believe its my friends, but of course its niggling at me, night and day. Really getting me down.I know you say its not relevant, but I couldn't get a positive scan till 5 weeks lmp, and I had emergency scan at 7 weeks due to pain, there was no heartbeat and was measuring very small with low hormone levels in blood. think it was like 900. So she estimated me to be about 5 weeks from scan, and then another 10 days later, (8+2) was very small still and estimated me 6 n half weeks. I think they got my dateing scan wrong, if I ovulate on my period wouldn't I have irregular periods?

When's ur due date? We can work out ur date on ovulation/conception from that

Have you read my post? Dating it from your period doesn't mean you actually conceived on your period. It's just a way of dating. So at the start of the pregnancy, they assign a nominal date which is the first day of last period - so you are "two weeks pregnant" at conception. Dating scans then confirm how close that actually is. In your case, they've shifted the date by a day, that just means your baby's size is indicating that s/he was conceived two weeks and one day after the start of your period.

Your dating scan is absolutely in line with the most biologically likely scenario: that you had your period, then ovulated two weeks later, and conceived then.

Sorry just got it, is that how its worked out? I didn't no that, as she didn't give me a concieved date. That's eased me off a lot. I never new they did it that way :S so even tho she said 11 weeks 6 days, I conceived 2 weeks after that? The 3 rd fits in perfectly, as I had ovulation symptoms, pain on my right side and even the sonographer said at my early scan that I had released from my right. I have never had implantation bleeding which doesn't help!

Yes. In England they date from first day of last menstrual period and then adjust if scans indicate. So a pregnancy is 40 weeks, but it really isn't - it's 38 actual weeks of actual growing. It's just that date of LMP is a definite date from which to proceed.

You're fine. It's your boyfriend's. Go celebrate with him!

Thankyou. Helps a lot! Will deff have to keep reading this post though to try stop me from keep worrying! I am a major worrier. Thankyou

Definatly how it works isn't it? I concieved on 3rd august. Not stopped smiling all day n just wanted to make 100 % sure! Lol sorry xx

def how it works - i used ovulation kits for 12 months to conceive dd2 and tracked everything - if you are 12 weeks pregnant - conception was 10 weeks ago approx. Dont owrry about when you got positive test - with both my dds i knew exactly when i ovulated as using ovulation predictor kits yet i was 5 weeks pregnant with one and 7 weeks with the other before i got +ve result. The hormone only really gets produced after implanation and the time it takes to embed varies.

relax! One thing though - does your friend know you are pregnant - will he kick up a fuss thinking its his as he's likely to be thinking similar?

Condoms anyone?

He new about it, he said if we have any worried when got dates from scan hed pay the price to have a paternity when its born, and if it was his hed make sure he helped every way possible.he's not going to kick up a fuss, he's a really decent bloke and a top friend. Things just gt a little...steamy. Wed both broke up from long term relationships. Comfort I suppose So he was rly great about it, told him its not his now. As dates are out, he just said well congratulations to us and he hopes everything goes to plan. He is very broody as it is! He's 24 and LOVES kids. But just wouldn't be right....anyway....so glad the dates are fine! Rly has cheered me up! Hoping to sleep tonight instead of the 3 disturbed hrs I have been having. Thanks to you all who helped. It rly has taught me something! Well a few things ;) me and my partner are very happy about this baby and I have finally stopped worrying and gting excited! Hoping to make our family official and get married in july :D love to you all....thankyou