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Baby sent home without mum after c-section

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Squiglettsmummy2bx · 29/09/2011 11:57

I went to breakfast with 3 mates this morning & 1 is due to have her c-section in 8 weeks, 10 weeks before mine at the same hospital. We were discussing what we still need to do etc & she was dreading baby beingsent home without her. I asked why that would happen & she is adamant that it is hospital policy after a c-section. We have both had 2 c-sections before but both of her babies were premature so she obviously left before them but mine were both with me from birth until we left together & I told her this. I also questioned how you wouldn breastfeed baby if it wasn't with you & she said you had to express bottles for baby, something I am sure you couldn't do even if you wanted to straight away. I have told her that she must be confused but she is sure this is the case. I have just agreed to disagree but thought I would throw this out to you guys. She is upsetting herself over something that I am sure won't be happening.

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LoopyLoopsPussInBoots · 29/09/2011 12:00

Total nonsense.

LeMousquetaireAnonyme · 29/09/2011 12:01

The baby stay with the mum IME (2 CS). DD1 and 2 were both BF at birth but I am sure even if they were FF they would have stayed with me.
Or it is a very new bonker policy .
Not sure how you can do to make your friend see sense though. May be have a tour of the hospital? talk to MW?

chrisrobin · 29/09/2011 12:03

No, I have never heard of this. I had 2 em-CS and both times the boys were next to me for the entire stay. My DH did ask if he could take DS2 home overnight without me (I was due out the next morning after anti-clot injection) so I could get a decent nights sleep before coming home- the midwives looked horrified at the thought.

Tangle · 29/09/2011 12:04

I would be incredibly surprised to find out that this really happens in the UK (even in the most extreme of circumstances I believe they try and keep baby with mum), and certainly the friends I have who've had a CS have left with their babies - as your own experience says, if anything it will be the other way round and then only with very good reason.

Maybe suggest she discusses it with her MW?

Bramshott · 29/09/2011 12:11

I can imagine the ONLY time this might happen is if the mother is so ill they have to stay in more than 28 days. Once you are more than 28 days postpartum you can't be on the labour ward I think.

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Squiglettsmummy2bx · 29/09/2011 12:14

Thanx everyone, I am certain she has got her wires crossed & I told her to talk to midwife on her next visit but she just seemed so sure & looked at me like I was mad which I probably am but not on this matter

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notcitrus · 29/09/2011 12:15

I've only known this happen when the mum ended up in intensive care for over a week. Most of the postnatal ward was post-cs women with babies when I was there and they all went home with their babies.

Could you phone the MWs at the hospital and ask?

ShowOfHands · 29/09/2011 12:17

This would NOT happen except in extreme or rare circumstances where the mother is poorly and perhaps needing intensive care/similar.

DH would have needed to spontaneously lactate after both my emcs in order to achieve this. And get through me.

BeyondLimitsOfTheLivingDead · 01/10/2011 00:37

Quite a while ago, but my mum had to have an op when Dsis was about 6w old. On a normal ward, not a postnatal one.
They found her a fishtank and Dsis stayed in with her...

mumt1 · 01/10/2011 08:39

A new born baby will always stay with the mum xx

serendipity16 · 01/10/2011 09:15

I think your friend is wrong.
I can't imagine any hospital doing this.

I had my daughter my emcs 7yrs ago. I was very ill due to hemorrhaging & needing 11 units of blood etc. I was in hdu for 4 days.... my daughter was healthy & had no problems at all. My daughter was kept with me even though i couldn't move, was out of it for days and didn't hold her until the 3rd day.
Not once was it ever mentioned to my husband that he should take my daughter home. The midwives looked after my daughter but made sure she was with me all the time.

EdithWeston · 01/10/2011 09:42

I don't think this happens, unless the mother has a rare complication or an underlying condition which necessitates both a prolonged stay and a specialist (non maternity) ward, and when the mother cannot care for the baby herself. And even then, the baby would be welcome as a visitor.

ladywithnomanors · 01/10/2011 09:44

Baby always stays with mum unless mum is seriously ill in intensive care or something.

MadamTwoSwords · 01/10/2011 09:58

My baby went home before me.

I had an em-cs and then emergency surgery two days later on the Sunday. I didn't see my baby for 3 days and she was discharged and went home with Daddy on the Wednesday as they needed her space on the ward.
I didn't go home til the Friday.

scottishmummy · 01/10/2011 09:59

no,not anyone policy.shes worrying unnecessarily

scottishmummy · 01/10/2011 10:01

if regular cs and wound healing and mum ok then they keep mum & baby together. do get her to call mw get some reassurance.its a shame to worry about this

IssyStark · 01/10/2011 10:20

I'd be very, very surprised. After my section, baby was with me until we went home. The midwives would have taken him for a couple of hours if I'd really needed them to (but then they'd have done that for any mum whatever delivery) but send him home away from his mum? Nope not going to happen.

Heck, even 32 years ago when my sister was born and my mum's stitches burst (second classic c-section) and she lost 5 pints of blood and was very ill, there was no question of my sister being sent home with my dad and me rather than stay in hospital with mum. My the time she left, when 5 weeks old, she looked like a giant compared to all the newborns!

Seriously, your friend needs to talk to her mw.

catsareevil · 01/10/2011 10:30

She really needs to speak to her midwife for reassurance. If she is that worried I'm sure it would be ok for her to phone the maternity ward today, it woont take a minute for them to tell her.

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Squiglettsmummy2bx · 01/10/2011 14:57

Thank you everyone, she said she is going to call & clarify

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ChippingIn · 01/10/2011 15:09

Good idea - there are enough correct things to worry about, without worrying about something that is highly unlikely to happen!

ToriaPumpkinPasty · 01/10/2011 15:47

Good plan. I've never known a baby sent home without their mother, and when my friend was taken back in two weeks postpartum with rocketing blood pressure they brought the baby back in with her so they weren't seperated. And she was FF so in theory could have easily stayed home with dad.

I hope the hospital give her some reassurance!

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