Disappointing first doctors appointment

[karatekimmi]

am only just pregnant (5weeks) and had my doctors appointment. He didn't ask if I had done a test and he didn't do a test to see if I was actually pregnant.For All my questions he seemed to pull the answers out of thin air and most of them didn't agree with books and Internet sites I've looked at. Not sure who or what to trust!!
Is this normal or should I just wait for my scan?

Sounds normal to me i called them as didnt know what to do and was given number of the midwives team to make an appointment which i didnt then have until i was 10wks. They seem to forget how excited and terrified we first timers are and that we dont understand that there is so little intervention early on.

Until i had my 12 weeks scan i was convinced the tests were wrong as hadnt had anyone official verify it was all real!!

When I got my BFP was soooo excited! went to Dr saw a locum all he asked was 'was it planned?' and then said to ask the recptionist as he didnt know how to refer me to MW as he was locum! Came out feeling a bit deflated so
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ha, my thoughts exactly when i got my first BFP. Was told I needed to see the GP first (god knows why). I was sooooo excited and was greeted with a very blasé reaction. With hindsight I can understand why, but at the time I was sooo disappointed couldn't have cared less and didn't ask me to pee on a stick to prove it!!

I can't say I that I think my mw apts have been much better although I did get a congratulations. But I'm in my second pregnancy now (first one mc) and I?d agree that noone really takes you seriously until you are past the 12 week mark - in fact I?d personally say past 20weeks and even then my mw is blasé about nearly everything I ask.

I second the comments about keeping pregnancy a secret, its personal choice. I kept my first quite quiet and telling people about the mc was hard. In fact since telling people I mc I have gone on to learn that a few friends had mc, but because we didn?t know they were pg they went through it alone and its a very dark and lonely place. I also kept my 2nd pregnancy quiet for as long as possible, but this was more because it was easier for me to cope that way, and I knew I could confide in people if it did go wrong. But I think that?s the key thing, people feeling able to talk about mc openly if they need to. I'd have been lost without mn during those dark days.

congrats OP

IME, as with most aspects of obstetric care, it's run of the mill for the GP/midwives and they don't remember to act super excited. Most of your AN appts will be dull and functional.

Most of my friends don't know I had a mc. There was no way to bring it up in conversation without feeling as if I was attention seeking. One of them had a mc last year. I know by accident, she doesn't know I know. It's ridiculous. It should be personal choice not a societal norm.

Anyway, a discussion for another thread. Hope you're ok OP :)