It is scary isn't it? Congrats to both of you. I am 14 weeks 5 days with my 4th. I m/cd last December at 9 weeks and it broke my heart. I had told absolutely everyone I was pregnant because I never had any probs in pregnancy before, except for a bit of pain and bleeding at 7 weeks with DS, so it was doubly hard to have to tell everyone that it wasn't happening, every time I said it, I cried buckets.
Just so you know, when I m/c'd I had pain before bleeding, but the pain was in the middle left of my abdomen and it was quite painful (made me cry out)and persistent. No twinges or stabbings that vanish, they are normal, particularly around the hips, bikini line and the very bottom of the abdomen. It went on for days and got steadily worse before moving across my abdomen. I had a scan but all was normal, but the pain got worse. That was when I started bleeding, and the blood was bright red with clots. Still, the MWs said it didn't necessarily mean the end, though in my case it was.
This pregnancy has turned me into a hypochondriac. I am constantly checking the internet if I have the slightest twinge! Right now I'm off work because I've had terrible lower back and abdomen pain. Went to A&E yesterday, who were uninterested - they said come back if you're bleeding, pains are completely normal, it's probably your age (I'm 37). And actually, they are easing off now I've rested. I've been convinced I'm going to m/c again. Which is a shame because once I got past 12 weeks I was so happy! The worry has ruined any enjoyment, this will be my DP's first dc so I feel so sorry for him, he was also devastated last time, but with luck we'll all be on here in 8 months or so writing posts about how much the baby cries, or cures for nappy rash...! Fingers crossed for us all! xx