Random or silly things you're worried about...

[MrsRV]

Nearly 16 weeks with first little one and I sometimes laugh at myself for the things I start to worry about.... So here goes:-

1. I've convinced myself we're having a boy and worry that if we're told it's a girl I might feel disappointed and baby might feel it!!!

1. I worry about shouting, screaming and swearing in labour.

1. I worried once, for a milli-second, that I wouldn't find a nice changing bag to match our pram... We haven't even looked at prams yet!?!?!

1. I worry that I will sit in my pjs, with my fingers stuck in my ears rocking in the corner not knowing how to look after my baby.

Anyone else have anything to share???

LoveInAColdClimate you're not shallow :) or if you are well, join the shallow club: I bought a pair of Celine sandals that I waited and waited to go on sale and if I can't wear them after the baby is born I will be gutted! Same goes for those dresses and coats I got too

My boobs haven't grown much and I have had no "leakage" am seriously worried about whether I will have any milk to feed my baby :( I am 36+5!

The poo thing has been on my mind too...and the fact that I will be wailing and moaning and making noises I never want my DH to hear :(

OK panicking now - am going to stop reading this thread :)

Oh yes, I am also worrying about never getting back into my normal clothes...

Weirdly, not worried about pooing - I think that went out of the window when I got such awful food poisoning I pooed in the bed in my sleep .

I worry about not knowing what to do with baby once she's here.

Also about midwives ignoring how I want my birth to be which will make me feel stressed which in turn will lead to worse labour pains and ultimately end in me having to have a C-section.

I also worry about having a massive baby as DH was born with a really big head.

1. Labour and the baby getting stuck.
2. Breast feeding when people are visiting and being embarrassed/hiding away.

Oh, I am taking being worried about labour and what to do with the baby as a given, I thought we were doing silly worries! I could provide an endless list of proper concerns!

I cant seem to think of any silly ones, my minds on some sort of loop and all I can think about is the baby getting stuck and then becoming a hermit. :)

The baby looked as though it had a massive head in the scan pic, so worried it will get stuck like ds2 did
Also baby is breech, I am 34 weeks and am thinking he will never turn
Keep losing mucous plug, and worried baby will arrive before I am ready, I haven't even packed my bag

Am worried DPs family will crowd me too much when the baby is here, an I won't be brave enough to tell them to bugger off.

That I won't love DSD as much when I've got 'my own' baby.

Pooing/episiotomy obv.

That I'll never relax enough to let anyone else touch my baby, and I'll be one of those psychos.

That I'll become one of those women whose every single facebook status/photo etc.. relates to my child and I'll cease to be a person in my own right.

That I'll get fat as a house and never ever lose any of the extra weight.

Am loving this thread...

1. Random poo-age - have no idea why as it's just one of those things, and apparently if you do, you're almost there!

2. Breastfeeding in public - am a fairly shy person when it comes to body bits (am the only person bar 1 in my aqua natal class who changes in a cubicle and not in the middle of the changing room) - hoping to start expressing and bottle feeding sometimes as soon as bf'ing is established to avoid this!!

3. Not wanting to go back to work after all - this has been the subject of many a slightly heated discussion, and I've always been adamant that I will go back part time - but what if I really don't want to go back....will I lose all bargaining power and never win an argument ever again?

Back to watching the rugby...

I've started to worry if my dogs sleeps on my tummy will the baby get too hot.

The baby coming out and not looking like a baby...
The umbilical cord stump (makes me cringe just typing it)
What do they sleep on and in
Breastfeeding in public (I'm pretty shy)
Midwives thinking I'm hopeless and taking the baby off me :(
Dropping the baby because my hands are so sweaty from fear

Was totally relying on the fact that I'd be home within hours and DH could help/train me, but now I'll be in hospital after a CS and have to do it all myself and I don't even know how to change a nappy. Oh god.

That the baby will hate me and not want to be anywhere near me (a bit like our dog and most babies I have ever been around)

This is going to sound like a bizarre one so bear with me:

That if I have ever in the past unwittingly offended - because I didn't know any different or because they were very sensitive - a friend/family member who had a baby, that they will take the opportunity to get revenge on me by doing the same back and I will be devastated.

Yes I know, I'm extremely paranoid :(

HP after a section the nurses will deal with the baby for you since you will need help lifting etc post-op.

Pre-birth I'd have agreed with all of you, but if it helps then I can tell you that from the other side, none of them are actually as scary as you think. Promise!

Oh, don't bath your baby until the umbilical stump falls off - it'll dry up and come off of its own accord much more quickly.

DP was badly allergic to my 2 cats when we started living together. He's fine now but I'm worried the baby will be allergic too and then what would we do! Couldn't get rid of them as they're 13 (and to be honest have been babied up to now )

And breastfeeding in public (boobs way too enormous for anyone else to see!)

And pooing obv

Not much really. No-one's come to say 'We made a mistake, you're clearly not responsible enough to look after a child' yet (and DD is 18mo now) so if we've managed not to break one child, we should manage OK with #2. At least we might have some clue of how it works this time.

I'm guessing lots of you are on #1, honestly, it's not that hard when they're not crying

I'm not worried about pooing yet, in fact if I do something that grosses OH out my answer now is "relax, I'm going to be pooing in front of you soon anyway!" Pregnancy has loosened me up to quite a lot since I know labour isn't going to be me at my most fabulous!
I'm also a bit worried about bump touchers later in pregnancy. I'm very weird about people touching me, I don't even hug my friends and am very fond of personal space. I just envision someone I don't know touching my bump and having a freak out then grabbing their tits while going "well you can touch me why can't I touch you?"

Weirdly I am fine with bump touchers, having expected to hate it. Another worry - falling on the baby when carrying it in the sling.

Im worried about:

Slippery bath-baby
Close family and friends being judgy-pants: one cats bum mouth will have me running for the hills
The loss of control of labour....why can't I rehearse, pre-plan exacly what will happen before...oh, cause thats not how it works

I'm at 8 weeks with no 2 so kind of ok about the feeding/bathing nappies bit, although it will be odd having a tiny person instead of a monster 2 year old :)

I'd really like to not have another section and have this one arrive out the proper exit if possible.

I was awake in the middle of the night thinking "What if it's twins?" "where will we keep them"? There is no hint of this so I am not sure where that one came form.

I am worried that DS will be a bit freaked out by the apperance of a wee screamer in the house. :)

To those worried about bfing in public - I was crapping it too last time, but it was fine, honest!

I got some bfing tops with handy flappy bits (mine were www.mamaway.com but there are loads you can get) and mostly wore a cardigan or zippy top to hide any side view. Once DS was bigger and better at getting attached by himself I did get the hang of the vest under t-shirt arrangement.

If I had time I fed DS in the back of the car before going into the supermarket or wherever so we didn't have to stop half way round!

I now have a whole load of new worries from reading this

Latest one, supposed to be meeting best friends new man in Friday, he seems very cool and plays in a band. We're going to see him play... Apparently it's quite a small venue... What if it's really loud? Will it upset/cause damage to baby????? Or am I just being a drama queen?

i worry that when im out i cant stop him crying and people look at me like i dont know what im doing!!!

I'm worried about my waters breaking in a big niagara falls-stylee on my partner's new, cream, expensive carpet...and then I worry about whether it is possible to secretly move out (without him noticing) so it doesn't happen!

MrsRV, my mum went to lots of gigs when she was pregnant, I've turned out fine, me and my mum are planning to go to lots of gigs now in the hope baby will inherit my taste in music rather than OHs!