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pi$$ed off!

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tweeni · 14/12/2005 22:10

i want the red castle shop n jogg and after researching it on the internet i got a list of stockists near to me off the red castle website. so there i was this afternoon when i should really have been wrapping xmas presents, making my way slowly down the list of about 12 different shops. after i had finished only 2 actually stocked it. the other 10 seemed to have not even heard of it let alone sell it. i was fuming as i had had a wasted afternoon and hadn't really got any further!do people think we have nothing better to do!

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SHHHHsantaiscoming · 14/12/2005 23:43

I had the same tweenie when looking for a baby changing bag!! Hows the pregnancy going.? Hope all is well.

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tweeni · 17/12/2005 12:11

was yours red castle too?

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HumphreysCorner · 17/12/2005 12:22

Yes tweeni, we have not heard about the pregnancy for a while-you must be a few weeks gone by now. Have you had a scan yet?

((xx))

followthestarlover · 17/12/2005 12:38

Was wondering about you too tweeni! I posted a message for you asking how scan went and how you're getting on but you must have not seen it! How far gone are you now?

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tweeni · 17/12/2005 12:49

im 11 + 1. got my booking in appointment next friday - could they have made it any closer to xmas!!i suppose they'll tell me when my scan is then?already had 2 early scans to check dates - i was 6 weeks then so didnt really see a lot. had to have 2 cos i moved doctors - dunno why the new docs couldnt just use the old docs scan lol.

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HumphreysCorner · 17/12/2005 16:59

Excellent news!

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SHHHHsantaiscoming · 17/12/2005 17:02

Glad all is well and that the scans are going well. You must be due june/july..?? Just nice for the summer. DD was born May this year and it was lovely taking her out during the summer. That said I also love taking her out in the winter..cold fresh air!!
How are you feeling.? Did you manage to sort things with baby's father and your mum..? I recall you having problems..

BTW my bag was not a Red Castle one. It was an oioi one. I wanted a nice trendy one but looked everywhere..LOL months after dd was born selfridges had more bags than you could shake a stick at.!

followthestarlover · 19/12/2005 20:38

oh that's good to hear tweeni!
do you get a 12 and 20 week scan in your area? if so it won't be long before you have another one... and you'll get to see baby properly!

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tweeni · 20/12/2005 11:43

not sure if you get both will find out friday. yeah im due july 7th (well thats what i worked it out to be - they might change it when i have my next scan cos they are only allowed to say after 8 weeks and i was only 6 when i had my scan)

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followthestarlover · 20/12/2005 19:27

oh really? they told me at 6 weeks! though they later said i looked about a week further on but it was too much hassle to change it on my paperwork!!!

so, how are you feeling about it all? excited? nervous?

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tweeni · 21/12/2005 15:38

i'm feeling fine - except it did hit me the other day how much i will miss of the baby's first year with going away to uni - that made me really sad i'm so worried i will be a stranger to my baby and he/she won't know who i am.

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followthestarlover · 21/12/2005 15:43

you're due in july and going to uni in september? that's brave!
i had my ds in feb and decided not to take up my course in september as i just couldn't leave him

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tweeni · 21/12/2005 21:11

thats how i feel but i know that going to uni will give me a lot more chances in the future and give LO a better life in the long run.i'm so worried about it all cos i can't see me being able to do it.i guess i just have to be strong.

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SHHHHsantaiscoming · 22/12/2005 17:50

tweenie, you will be able to do anything you put your mind to. Have you thought about taking break from uni..? Maybe starting the course a year later or in a few years once baby tweeni is a little bigger..?? Loads of women do that or even take a career break from work. You are young enough to do it and still have the chance of a wonderful career at the end..?
I admire you if you go back to uni months aftre baby tweeni is born but like FTSL said...I had dd in may & i'm now a sahm. I can't even leave her with grandparents ...!!

followthestarlover · 23/12/2005 16:05

i agree... can't you defer for a year? will your parents look after baby or will you have to pay for childcare?

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tweeni · 23/12/2005 21:15

while im at uni mum will look after baby most days - but it may have to go to nursery maybe once or twice a week. i could defer for a year but mum thinks that will be harder on the baby cos at 3 months it won't really know any different but at 15 months it would probably miss me a lot.

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vickiyumyum · 23/12/2005 21:25

i recommend going to uni earlier rather than later, it gets it out of the way quicker, you're db won't be so reliant on you, and also uni days tend to be fairly flexible after the first couple of weeks anyway and often you find yourself starting late or finishing early and only in for a few days.

i started my midwifery degree in the october, ds2 was born at the end of january, and although initally it was very ahrd, the guilt and other people telling me to leave it, you're young you can do it at anytime! i am very glad that i did it then, i don't think ds2 has missed out at all, in fact he seems to be more happy than ds1 who i was at home with for 4 years. it did help having my mum look after him for part of the time as at least he wasn't with a complete stranger for the majority of his time.

go fot it Tweeni, it'll be great to spend time at home with your baby and to have something else to aim for, also the satisfaction of doing it for yourself and your family.

oh and i hope you find the pram you are after too!

SHHHHsantaiscoming · 23/12/2005 21:55

I understand what vyy says but on the other hand babies CAN be very reliant on you when they are first born...if you are breast feeding you will find it easier to be there "on tap" than to express etc which can be time consuming. Even if you don't bf you may find that you want that time to bond with your baby as during the first few months baby can only really associate you by your smell and closeness etc and its such a lovely feeling knowing your baby relies on you and noone else.

BUT at the end of the day it's your choice and noone will judge you for making the decision. You have a while yet till you need to decide. It sounds as though you have lots of support. How are you doing now.?

followthestarlover · 23/12/2005 22:01

i had my ds in february. and decided not to take up my place at uni in september.

i wanted to be with him all the time, not have other people looking after him. I didn't want to miss out on the first 3 years of his life....

your baby will only be about 8 weeks old when you start... that's really little!!!

anyway, i am sure you will make your decision closer to the time. I accepted my offer, and then wrote later to tell them that i wouldn't actualy be taking it up. I totally didn't realise what it would be like until i had my son... thought i could do EVERYTHING!!! lol

DanceOfThePeachyPlumFairy · 23/12/2005 22:16

Sorry not my thread really as not pg, but as a mum of three at Uni.... do you realise that in college each week is only 12 hours for many courses? Not all, but lots so it's not always that bad. I don't go Monday or Tuesday, Wednesday for 2 hours, Thursday until 3 and Friday 9.30 - 1.30.

So there's loads of kid time laeft, I study etc when they're in bed.

followthestarlover · 23/12/2005 22:21

not for all thigns though! i was due to do midwifery which is 35 hours a week at least. harly any holiday (2 weeks off in summer rather than 6) etc etc

also, shift work which means doing nights etc

DanceOfThePeachyPlumFairy · 23/12/2005 22:23

Oh no, not for the vocationals especially, but for a lot of the standard degree type (I'm doing religion with philosophy and Psychology)

Just thought it might give her an option.

followthestarlover · 23/12/2005 22:27

yeah.. you're right...
tweeni! what're you going to be studying?

vickiyumyum · 24/12/2005 09:45

i did midwifery and for the first two years was only at uni for three days a week and then in the third year two days a week. placement is harder because you work approx 37 hours a week and these are shifts, but ime if you let tutors and mentors know of any difficulties that you have then they are helpful in arranging your shifts around childcare.

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tweeni · 24/12/2005 11:30

i am supposed to be doing a spanish degree

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