Does anyone else feel silly & uncomfortable talking about their 'news'?

[MrsRV]

Ok so I'm just coming up to 12 weeks, everyone has known since really early, tried to keep it a secret but not drinking at various social things soon soon gave it away!

I let myself indulge in browsing online, looking in catalogues and posting on here every so often... But I've found myself getting really embarrassed talking about my pregnancy or the baby and clamming up and feeling silly! It's totally unlike me too! Anyone else feeling like this? I've come to the conclusion that it's because of what other people think and in the back of my mind I think they're thinking "she's not even 12 weeks yet or had her 12 week scan". I'm not stupid, I know what could happen but I'd rather not think about it and be happy, positive and enjoy every minute!

Dont know where all of that came from... Sorry ladies... Just letting it all out! x

wow... Glad to hear there are so many of us hiding in corners and trying to be normal and trying not to be 'too pleased' or 'too showy offy'.

Stood in front of hubby's elderly grandparents going "you tell them", "no you tell them". Like a ridiculous pair of school children!!!

Also, couldn't tell the Partner at work so had to get someone else to do it!

So silly!!! And weird!

I got my cousin to text round the family

Great OP. It is so nice to know you all feel like this. Close friends and family fine, but work was just so awkward. I've told my immediate team (only last week though, I'm 16+6), but clearly the gossip grapevine has been doing its work as the office gossip came over to talk to me (we never really chat so I was very surprised) and was like "Sooo, what's new?!! I just said, "Oh. Nothing." His face, then he just made really awkward chit chat as he'd clearly come expecting me to spill!

It just feels like it's very personal and private, and though some people at work have to know I don't want to shout it from the rooftops. That doesn't mean I'm any less excited though, but I think part of it is also fear in case anything goes wrong.

update I txt a few people to get it over and done with as we want to tell DS and he would blab it out, I didnt want no awkward face to face stuff - not sure why I think it would be awkward but ive got my anouncement out the way now, they can tell the others.

Ive been brave and told the trainer at the gym who I am booking in with when DS back at school to get a proper program, so that was bit a of a biggy as we go there a lot for family stuff too.

i was a bit like this last time.

i only talked about it if i was asked or if it was somehow relevant. my friend was the same. there were still people at work who hadn't noticed when i was about 7 months in which suited me fine!

we were a bit aghast at another colleague who was a complete drama queen and shared every detail whether we liked it or not.
she has also since done a grand job of making people who bf sound like loons, by talking about her boobs all fucking day, instead of just getting on with it.

i am only 5 weeks right now and am not especially looking forward to breaking the news to my boss and colleagues!

Congrats jaggythistle I remember you from the charting thread! Glad you got your BFP!

I felt like I was pretending to be a grown-up!! Felt really silly talking about it and like Blueberties says "It was like telling people you'd had a great shag."

thanks

how are you?

Good thanks, 33 weeks tomorrow, so not long now before I get to meet my little one

The feeling is similar to when you get a hair cut and people seem to feel obliged to say it's lovely.

i just got my hair cut, so i guess it's good practice for telling people I'm pregnant!

I couldn't work out how to tell anyone at work. Large, open plan female dominated offices aren't the hotbeds for discretion and quiet conversation I might've hoped for. In the end, I took my 12 wk scan pics in and tossed them casually over the desk to my colleague, muttering something like 'you know I wasn't here yesterday, here's why'. Worked a treat, she did the announcing for me.

Honestly, the worst thing has been the people I didn't tell directly who now feel they have the right to come up to me (26+2) and actually cop a feel for themselves. One even put her hand on my bump the other day and gave it a vigorous shake, like she was trying to dislodge loose change from me or something. Very very much over the line. Also terrifyingly intimidating that people seem to think it's okay to cross those boundaries.

And the number of 'what are you hoping for' arseholes who aren't satisfied with my standard 'ten fingers, ten toes, no fangs' answer. I know they are probably just trying to make polite conversation like previous posters have said, but I still hope there is a special circle of hell waiting for them.

i think I'll answer 'a baby' hilly.

I so glad to see the Op!! My wife is (probably) 12 weeks (though could be 9 1/2),and we've only told 7 people(all family) and all bar the mums and my BiL felt odd/surreal/weird. My wife's having a hard time, and the two friends (both women) I talk to most personally don't know, and telling them is a bit difficult due to awareness of fertility issues they are experiencing,and I'm missing having more of my closest friends to share my thoughts and excitement with until that's been navigated.
So it's nice to hear others experience of similar things.

Everyone now knows you've had sex!

HillMcGrew:this has happened to my wife once so far, and I could hear her thoughts screaming in her head 'get your stinking hands off me!!!' :)
Any thoughts on best way of dealing with people thinking they have right to "bump-squeeze"?

poster mrsRosaPimento:that's definitely part of it!! Lol!