Why such disappointment that it's another boy!?

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Had my 20 week scan today and found out we are expecting DS2. The news has been met with 'Oh dear never mind' by most. It's made me feel like crying. Am personally really please it's another healthy baby.

I have DS1, DS2 and am currently expecting DD1. I've come to realise (through MUCH experience) that people let their jaws flap without engaging the brain when it comes to talking about pregnancy/babies. When I was expecting DS2 I had ALL sorts of nonsense - 'awww better luck next time', and do you know what? DS2 is the most fabulous child, and having 2 sons is truly brilliant. They play together, run around together, DS2 copies his big brother (who is his hero) and its really nice seeing DS2 in his brothers outgrown clothes!

Of course the jaw flapping hasn't stopped now I'm expecting a daughter 'oh you must be so relieved!' - eh? what?

The comments that people make drive me nuts! It's like they just don't engage their brains, and pregnancy seems to give everyone the right to an opinion about you. I'm feeling slightly hormonal and grumpy today, does it show?!

I have two boys with xh and a dd with dh. Everyone assumed I was ecstatic to have a dd after the boys, but in truth I was terrified!

Now I'm preg and we found out a couple of weeks ago it's a boy, and some people think I must be disappointed, but everyone assumes dh is delighted to "finally" have a boy.....

Yes dh is delighted to have a boy, but would have been delighted with a girl too. Truth be told, we're just delighted to be having a baby!

I'm pregnant with a ds after having a dd first time round. You'd think I'd cured cancer by the reaction. Honestly, I'm the cleverest, specialist, most wonderfulest person in Eastern England. I feel bloody sorry for dd who must be fed up with the 'oh what a relief, a boy this time' comments. People have declared my family complete too. Of course I don't have to ' do it all again' (experience the joy and wonder of introducing a new person to the family I think they mean as opposed to what they make it sound like. A period of difficult constipation perhaps by the wrinkled noses and condemnation) because I've hit some kind of gender jackpot apparently.

I do try and tell myself that my pregnancy is inherently dull for the masses and they just want something to say and gender's about the only concrete thing they can grasp at. I don't think they mean half of what they say. But really if they could just engage their brains, we could avoid all this nonsense.

I had a boy after 3 dds and of course people thought we were 'carrying on' to get the boy . I got the same 'you must be relieved' comments (directed to dh especially), drove me mad. Am now 28 weeks with dc 5 who is another boy, so people are a. initially confused as to why I would want another child after 'completing my family' but then b. in awe that I am having a second boy...I've had a few 'well dones' which is very odd!!! This is then followed by 'is that it now?' - which is probably is, but who's to say!

We already have a DS and have just found out we're having a DD. MIL actually thanked me for having a girl . I'm getting fed up of everyone being delighted we're having a girl when I'd have been just as happy with another boy.

We're already thinking about having DC3, I'm not looking forward to being told our family's already complete