how many waited 12weeks to tell the world :)

[threecurrantbuns]

This is our 4 pregnancy only found out today but already feeling it will be a life sentence to wait to tell people we are so excited but don't want to tempt fate either.

I have lost a lot of babies so has made me wary of annoucing it too early. Obviously told dh but didnt tell family until I was 18 weeks. Told close friends when I was 28 weeks. With 3rd dc we didt tell our dcs until I was 37 weeks and due to go in for my c-section. I turned up with my last dc at the school gates and had so many of the mums doing faces!

It seems sensible to tell those you're close to (the ones you'd turn to if something did go wrong) and leave others until it's Mr Greedy impression time. That was the strategy we followed. With DD1 it was just me, DP, my parents and 3 good friends for ages. With DD2 we'd moved somewhere new anyway, so it wasn't so much an issue.

Family immediately then close friends about 7 weeks after early scan then everyone else in dribs and drabs. Same both times.

I get annoyed when people mention that I shouldn't tell them pre 12 weeks. That's my decision!!

Also my risk of miscarriage never goes down so I could wait till week 36 and not be any safer.

With DD I told everyone pretty much straight away. I did encounter some judginess about not waiting 12 weeks but my reasons were sensible, I worked in an area where I was frequently exposed to xrays. It's only natural I would want my collegues to know so they could (and did) take extra steps to protect me and my spine developing embryo

This time I've told close family and friends. I don't work anymore so that isn't an issue. But as someone said above, I've told the people I would want support off if I miscarried (and believe me, I've had two scares already this pregnancy so the support is invaluable)

DH was informed before tne stick was dry

I only told my mother, as my employer, before 12 weeks and the inlaws as it was only fair then phoned and told my brother in law after first scan.

I told people at 20 weeks for DS1, 18 weeks for DS2 and 20 weeks for DS3. I'm quite a private person and didn't want people to feel like my pregnancies were lasting forever.

We told our families at about 7 weeks with pregnancy no. 1 and then promptly lost the baby - I never want to make an 'I had a miscarriage' phone call again, it just added to the horror of the whole experience. This time round we told my mum, so we'd have someone to support us if we lost the baby again, but noone else until 12 weeks. We'd have told DH's mum too at the point we told mine, but she was really, really ill and we didn't want to have to 'untell' her as we didn't think she would be able to take the upset.