hate it when people say......

[nykxx]

'do you want a boy or girl? or dont you mind as long as its healthy?'

grrr i hate it when people say that...sorry!!!!

i would love a pink one then we would have two of each, but if its a blue then thats fine too. and of course i would love to be blessed with a healthy baby. but when people say 'i dont mind what i have as long as its healthy' does that in reverse mean they would prefer one sex to the other if it wasnt healthy or that they wouldnt want it at all if it wasnt healthy?

controversial for my first post but had to ask!!

nykxx

Oh and I wouldn't take 'you're huge' as an insult really - everybody knows pregnant women are beautiful, so the more pregnant you look, the better! IMO

Yeah but when an acquaintance makes a point of coming over to you, and telling you in front of people, that his pregnant daughter who is 3+ months ahead of me is smaller than I am... what reaction was he hoping for?!! I don't think he was commenting on how beautiful I looked. I'm pretty sure it was an observation on the sheer enormousness of me

(BTW I was a size 12 before falling pregnant, and my/baby's measurements are all spot on for where they should be - so my enormousness is exactly as it should be!!)

so your supposed to sit and suffer in silence because others are being insensitive?

Wow. Seriously, no one cares about your pregnancy besides you, your partner and maybe your mum. They are saying what they are supposed to say to be polite. They don't care about your answer or what you're really having. They genuinely don't.

I'm 14 weeks and only dh (and all of mumsnet) because I know that while I find it lovely- everyone else couldnt give a stuff.

I'm 14 weeks and only dh (and all of mumsnet) know

While rarely get offended at insensitive comments which are not intended to hurt, I do find it's getting urksome. The only conversation I seem to get is about baby's sex: am I going to find out (well yes, shortly after it's born I expect) and what do I/we want (a human preferably). Preceded (not always) by a pointed How are you doing? (what happened to "Hello, how are you?" etc?).

With those I know better I try and give a reply which makes them think about what they really mean, and whether it was really a good idea to say that. Not always easy to come up with on the spur of the moment.

do you know what yr having?
A human hopefully
do you want a boy or girl?
As long as its only got one set of bits i really don't care.
Yr not very big are you?
Nope.

Luckily no one really asks me too many silly questions. Only strangers but even at 38 weeks people aren't 100% sure I'm pregnant so i don't get all those inappropriate comments.

I am glad no strangers have touched my bump! I would probably punch them. People do ask to touch it though and i surprise myself by not minding.