PLEASE HELP!!! 3rd pregnancy in 2.5 years?

[cathyspamtaslittlehelper]

Hello
i think i might be pregnant again! I have 2 beautiful sons aged 2 years 4 months and 11 months and they were both planned and we are getting on fine. My husband and i had decided to wait until ds1 was in school and ds2 going to pre-school before having another but a couple of weeks ago I missed 2 pills which I wasn't too concerned about as sex life has been non-existent recently (both too lazy, prefer quick cuddle!) Howver one sunday my dad took the boys out and DH and I got a bit carried away with the cuddling and I honestly didn't even think about the missed pills and now I have no period and a very, very faint so you can hardly see it line on a pregnancy test. I will re-test tommorow but how do I tell DH if positive? It is my fault for missing the pill. What should I say to him? Do you have any suggestions for softening the blow? Please help!

How do you feel about it? Don't forget that your feelings will influence how you deal with DH.
Accidents happen - or, to put it another way, if a babe is meant to be he'll get there anyway!!! It could easily have been a tummy bug instead of you actually missing taking your pills. I'd be inclined to pander to his ego (if he's likely to get funny)with a comment about supersperm or something .
Don't stress about it though and, Congratulations!! .

TBH I wouldn't tell him you missed it because at the end of the day the more important point will be how you both feel about the pregnancy.

I am a little worried about having a baby, an 18 month old and a 3 year old but I love my children and have always wanted more anyway and I know that DH wants more. I guess I would be happy to have another it is just the timing that isn't great and I think that because the other 2 were planned and sharing the positive result was such a happy experience I will be upset for this baby if it is different this time. Does that sound stupid?

Congratulations! You are going to be a family of five. You want another, they will be quite close and I'm sure it will be hard work, but I'm sure you will have a lovely family. It would be worse if your dh was adamant that he didn't want more children.
I expect he will be shocked but you've got nine months to get used to it and if he's a loving father to the two you have, i can't imagine that will change for number 3.
As for telling him, well you could just tell him the truth, but say (truthfully as it happens) that missing mid-cycle pills isn't considered enough to allow ovulation normally and that you thought because of that it was still safe and he must be incredibly fertile.

HERE:
Missing pills at the beginning of a packet. If the packet is started late, or you miss any pills in the first week, the pill-free week is effectively lengthened and you should avoid having penetrative sex or use condoms for the next 7 days. Emergency contraception may be required if you have had unprotected sex so it is important to seek advice regarding any problems.
Missing pills in the middle of a packet. The pills in the middle of a packet (8-14) are the least risky to miss this is because taking seven pills puts the ovaries to sleep and you can miss up to four pills without waking them up again. Therefore Emergency Contraception is not required unless you have missed more than four pills and have had unprotected sex.

wow
how the hell did this happen then? I might inform him of that then if he gets all blamey! thank you guys for your help. I guess it was just meant to be! I am sure he will be fine with the news - he does adore our kids, i think i may be underestimating him.

oh and i meant to say that my yougest brother was conceived while my mum was on the pill - i wonder if some people are less affected by its contraceptive properties? it makes me wonder.....

You're a brave brave woman! I have a 21 month old and a 2 month old and if this happened I'd go doolally!!

Well done you for being so calm! Congratulations!

Wow good luck!

thanks - i am going to need all the luck i can get

i will make a post to let you all know how the news goes down!

Definately go with the supersperm! Hope he takes it ok xxx

i think the supersperm idea will work easily - he is a bit of a macho man! hehehe

well, i did it, i told him and i didn't need to use the supersperm line! He gave me a big hug and said that he could handle it if i could! Ohmigod, i can't believe i am going to have another one - still a little worried but happy too! Secretly hoping for a DD this time but at least if it is another DS we wont need to buy new clothes! I think this one will be due about a week after DS1's birthday and around the time he is due to start nursery - bit worried about this too as ds1 and ds2 were both about a week early! thanks to all you guys who helped give me the courage to tell DH about HPT. Big Love! xxx

congratulations XXXX glad it went well with your DH

Id just be worried about never losing all that baby weight! Prob one of hubbies concerns 2 lol!

Well done! Glad he was such a sweetheart!

Thank you all for you well wishes! i feel so much better about things already! I am not too worried about baby weight - i have always been a big girl but have got thinner with each pregnancy, hope this one is the same!

HI You will be fine I have a 22 mth gap between DD1 & Ds1 & a 18 mth gap between Ds1 & DS2. I am now pregnant with no.4. It is great because they all get on really well & company. I admit some days were harder but then doesnt everyone have hard days! Good Luck.

hi jifda
thanks for reassurance! what age was ds2 when you got pregnant this time? you have a great attitude!

A friend has four kids under the age of five - and she is doing fine (somehow!) Don't panic - you'll be fine. You want more kids so go for it.

cathyspamtaslittlehelper (sorry i hope that is right!) This is my biggest gap 3 yrs, ds2 just started nursery & i wasnt ready to be at home on my own I needed a new challenge to face & cant wait.

JIFDA I can understand that! I am worried that when mine all go to nursery/school I will keep wanting more! I am such a broody person anyway! I guess I will do a course or something!

hi cathyspamtaslittlehelper (bit of a mouthful!) its great to hear of someone in sim circumstances - my oldest is 30 mths, next is 17mths and now waiting for the january arrival of #3, so all pretty close too. had much the same reaction at first to news of #3 (agh! 3 in 3 years! am i mad!!?) and will definately be using at least 3 or more methods of contraception from now on .
but like someone else said, if its meant to be its meant to be, and it will be lovely for them all to grow up so close in age.... just think, in about 6 years you might even get a minute to yourself and have regular full nights sleep again!