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What the Heck is going on??????

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minibump4321 · 01/08/2011 19:51

Stared bleeding Sat night very light pink which stopped almost straight away, no pain. i was 10+3 went to a&e who did hcg tests were normal and felt tummy and said they were 100% sure bleeding caused by placenta attaching itself and baby and me will be fine also got a bad UTI.

Sunday morning tiny bit of brown blood.

Sunday afternoon bleeding redish not that heavy really no pain 2 tiny tiny clots it's been on and off till now no more clots just light and no pain.

Went to gp this am whilst waiting i went for a wee when i got in the room she asked for a sample 5 minuets after i'd just been so i did another wee she then did a pg test which was negative?!? Dr said i've MC been a state all day non stop tears.

When i got home 4 hrs after my last wee i just had to do another test and got a positive result!!!

I've got an app. at EPAU tomorrow but WTF has anyone else ever had this? Am i still pg? No-one has scanned me or done baby heartbeat?

I'm going crazy one minute i was dealing with the fact my baby has died and the nxt might not of????!!!

Please help

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Coxrama · 02/08/2011 16:27

Hi There
Its very hard having a MC had one last year, at my 12 weeks scan got told the pregnancy was not Viable. I went and had a ERPC straight away(on insurance) which i think was my best option as Im am very impatient and needed closure.
I gave myself a little time and my body and got preganant again 3 months later...and I am now due end of september. ( I have spent fortunes on scans...as i was so paranoid....still am..never was with my DS) So there is light. Good luck x

Catsycat · 02/08/2011 16:28

I'm really sorry for your loss.

I had a mc at the end of June, and found tremendous support on the mc board, (as well as from friends in RL who have gone through this, and DH). If you want to come back and talk, there will be lots of people who will listen.

Take care x

Cheria · 02/08/2011 16:41

I'm so sorry. FWIW I had a mc last year and it was similar to yours - baby still there, had stopped growing a few weeks before and no heartbeat. I had a D&C two days after the scan. My personal preference was to get it over and done with, and be sure that it was over. I couldn't have waited for weeks (can't help but think they are cost cutting here by encouraging you to do that).

The D&C was done under a spinal, was a perfectly routine, painless and calm experience. it worked for me. Others prefer to let nature take its course - I didn't want to cling on to any false hope.

I hope you feel better soon - it is not an easy time, and there's a certain sense of unreality to the whole thing, I remember that well. Good luck.

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minibump4321 · 02/08/2011 18:33

Thankyou all and coxrama it's nice to hear thee is still hope.

Cheria i agree about hem cost cutting, i said there and then get it out i don't want to wait whats the point? She just kept saying protocall and she kept saying how 99% of women want to let things happen by themselves can't help feeling a little bullied now.

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MsScarlettInTheLibrary · 02/08/2011 18:42

I am sorry to hear this. I don't think it's a cost cutting exercise - noone wants an unnecessary operation, even a minor one.

When I had my MC in a similar situation (baby stopped growing at 13+4) I waited 26 days to begin the MC and eventually when my body cottoned on it took 30ish hours to complete the job. Painful, yes, but no worse than labour, and of course I was able to stay at home, which was important to me.

I hope you find the way which is easiest and gentlest for you

emilykettle · 02/08/2011 19:02

I am very sorry for your loss.

I was in the same situation this time last year and took the tablets to bring on MC. It was fairly painless, a bit like a heavy period and the worst was over in 2 days.

You will get through this. It takes time, it will be a very muddle-y couple of months but you will get there.
x

Gastonladybird · 02/08/2011 19:26

sorry to hear this and for your loss.
It is usual to advise non surgical route - did they tell you what to expect and advise on pain relief? Have had 3 mc so had both erpc and non surgical. There are pros and cons to each but I would say if nothing happened in a few days go back and ask for another opinion on surgery. I wasn't assertive enough first time so ended up with a horrendous bleed but not a complete mc and had to wait 6 weeks to convince hospital to do a d and c. Also if you are in London cannot recommend the emergency gynae place enough. As someone with way too much time losing babies they are the best in terms of care and treatment (sadly wasn't them I went to when had first mc where was made to wait).

Gastonladybird · 02/08/2011 19:27

Sorry meant to say at St thomas

ThatllDoPig · 02/08/2011 19:30

Everything SOH just said.
So sorry for you. Hope you get strength and support from here.

needsanswers · 02/08/2011 21:29

hi mini, im so sorry that things didnt work out for you, its such a horrible thing to have happened and it does get easier but it does take time..
like one of the previous posters i have has 1 natural MC and 1 D&C...
Personally i found neither better then the other just because with waiting for it to come naturally everytime you go to the toilet you will be thinking is it going to come away this time.. mine took 5days and it was very drawn out process and very upsetting when it does come away. compared to a D&C which is alot quicker but a very upsetting day and personally going into surgery i was a mess.. you will make the right decission for u! i wish you all the very very best, i hope you have lots of support around you. sending you hugs..

diddygirl · 02/08/2011 22:26

So sorry to hear you are going through this. I had 2 MCs last year and it was just a horrible thing to go through. The waiting was a killer for me and a week seemed like an eternity.

With my first MC I had the tablets. To me, the pain was nothing more than a bad period and not a problem, but I do have a high pain threshold. This was at 8 weeks.

With my second MC, everything happened naturally at 7 weeks.

I honestly thought I was doomed and would never have a successful pregnancy again (already have a DD), but now I'm 21 weeks pregnant. Try not to give up hope. If things don't work out this time, don't beat yourself up as I did, trying to look for a cause/reason. Find the strength inside you to keep going and have optimism that things will work out for you.

Wishing you all the very best x

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minibump4321 · 03/08/2011 13:09

Thankyou all for your support and kind messages they really are comforting. Sorry to hear about so many MCs they really are so common it's awful really.

Well i managed a fairly good nights sleep. Bleeding is very heavy today and i'm having what i can only describe as contractions and the urge to push which is so cruel as you get nothing at the end.

Is this normal?

Feel ok just want closure now. 3 yr old DD is being amazing doing me pictures and looking after me. I'm so emotional i just keep bursting into tears which of course she can't understand.

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diddygirl · 03/08/2011 13:54

It sounds as though things might be happening naturally (tho I'm no expert).

It certainly is natural to be emotional, you are grieving afterall.

Be kind to yourself and give yourself time.

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