Am I the only mum-to-be in the world not desperate to have my baby ASAP/preferably sooner?

[MrsBloomingTroll]

I'm currently almost 39 weeks and all anyone can say is "I bet you can't wait to have the baby now" or "I bet you're excited to meet your baby". Well, yes I am (very much so), but I've got a few practical/nesting things left to sort out first, and I could really do with making it to my due date, or near enough, to make sure that everyone on standby to help is available. I'm also cherishing my last few days with just DD1 and I, and I'm sad to be waving goodbye to our lives as a family of three. And this is my last pregnancy, all being well.

Ok, I'll admit that the current hot weather (in the UK) is making things a bit uncomfortable, but I also had this type of weather at the end of my first pregnancy and gave birth to DD1 at the height of a heatwave.

I'm not in denial, I know this baby needs to come out. I have no fear of labour and childbirth after a decent experience first time around. I'm not especially fond of the sleepless nights, and "why the f* is the baby crying now?!" moments but know I/we got through it okay last time and I tend to cope okay with broken sleep.

I'm firmly of the belief that the baby will come when it's ready, as DD1 did, and I'm not going to agree to be induced or start on the raspberry leaf tea etc just yet!

I must say, I am dreading the onslaught of visitors after the birth. Maybe that's why I feel like this?! I'm hoping my DH will help me to manage visits a bit better this time. I'm also apprehensive of managing two DCs by myself as DH won't be able to take much paternity leave and we don't have family in the close vicinity.

Anyone else feel like this or just me?

I am SO with you!

Similar EDD as Nigella and exactly the same feelings.

Thanks OP for starting this thread and making me feel less like a freak .

I'm counting on this baby coming at 42 weeks like DD did! Am 33 weeks now & in the middle of a house move, hoping to be in by 36 weeks, and got to get DD settled at nursery two days before due date... Not nearly ready!

Kudos to those of you moving house close to your due dates...no way I could be doing that. It's bad enough trying to get this one up together!

38 weeks today and i am in no hurry for it to come out.....apart from the fact i hate hate HATE being pregnant. Its made me so ill so i can't wait for it to be over. But to me thats separate from the baby if that makes sense? I like being off and it just being me and OH, i feel a bit sad it wont be just us again. We only been together just over a year so maybe Thats why? Doesn't mean I'm not happy about this baby or excited. Just the unknown isn't it!

There's so much i would like to do before it comes out but none of it very important

theonlyhb2 I felt a bit like that with DD1 and DH and I had been together for aaaaages before having her (took a while to conceive). It will be different, it might be tough, but it will be worthwhile and even fun at times - the babies enrich your lives in ways you would not believe, not to mention the amount they will make you laugh!

Urgh, just had the daily message from DH's family member. Seriously, if she wants to come and push the baby out, she's welcome. Then at least I can get on with cleaning the kitchen and chasing up the nursery furniture!

I feel the same - this is my second pregnancy and I felt the same first time round too. I'm lucky to have easy pregnancies and small bumps so don't feel physically limited, and I really want to spend some quality time with ds before all hell breaks loose with new baby on the scene. Also, we are doing massive house renovations, and I REALLY want them to be further on before the baby arrives!

Having said that, I'm much more relaxed about the whole labour/new baby thing now it's second time, and really can't wait to meet our new little person. Also agree about dreading visitor onslaught a bit - especially with he house in the state it is!!!!

My last pregnancy (DC3) I was perfectly happy to wait and even go overdue, right up until 39+3 when I woke up and thought "Actually, stuff that and how much stuff I still have to do, I would like to have this baby now". I went into labour that night, so for me the change from "can wait for weeks" to "get her out NOW" was a Sign, I suppose.

Ok, so what's the one really daft thing you've got it into your head you MUST get done before you can have the baby?

Mine is sorting out one of the kitchen cupboards which is full of spices, herbs and other cooking ingredients. I know that half the stuff in there is outdated and needs chucking.

Oh, and vacuuming DD1's Wendy house in the garden.

Because obviously the baby will care about these things!

We have to have a kitchen installed, finish flooring the living room, finish installing a bathroom, install a staircase, switch over the heating system and have all the above rooms taped and decorated!!! I'm 32 weeks - d'you think we'll make it?!

Actually, I'm quite relaxed about it all - I woulnd't be if it was my first, but having been through it all beofre I know that the baby really won't notice if our dream home is in a slight state of unfiinishedness!

Sooo glad it's not just me. I'm 32+5 and in no way would harm DD or wish her to come early, but I am so over the pregnant thing now. I'm hot, I've got hippo feet. and nothing fits me.

I understand rooks comment but I've been intermittently contracting since 29 weeks so really rather miffy by now.

rooks as bunnyfrance says i have a ds already and know what is coming. But thanks for doubting my ability to know my own mind and body, and judge my commitments and work load. I'm sure you didn't mean to come across as patronising but that is how it sounded to me.

Like lovebeinghomealone i'm not convinced by the hospitals revision of my edd. Plus i've learnt the lessons of my first pg which involved plaining doors at 39wks and driving around delivering work after ds's due date.

So yep, as i said, at 32 weeks i am in no hurry.

I am 35+3, and still in denial. That's my reason for not wanting to have my baby now!!

I have a 2 1/2 year old, and a 1 year old. So struggling looking after them, and working - especially in this heat.
But .... I feel like a few more months, to get organised would be usefull!

I have been really uncomfortable and crampy this week, so had a panic, and decided to pack my hospital bag already!

I feel great today though

Wow del1. Good luck when DC3 arrives!