Anyone else hating being pg?

[babysaurus]

I am just over 6 weeks pg with a very planned and wanted baby. The thing is, I am HATING being pregnant! I feel tired, emotional and resentful and feel no affinity with the potential baby whatsoever. I started spotting the other day and I was vaguely concerned but, to be blunt, not half as concerned as perhaps I should have been. Ambivalent is probably a better word!
Is this one of the the things nobody tells you about? How tedious and frustrating the first few weeks are? I realise things could be much much worse, I have had barely any sickness for example, but I can't help resenting all the restrictions all the same.

haha! growing bump, OBVS!!!

Lmao, "grwoing buno" ! Is that pregnancy brain there, Roz?

And yeah, considering the amount I used to drink on a night out and the ridiculous amount in my system the night when I found out I was pg it's rather strange thinking I am now on my arse after a single drink!

hehe! Defo a bit of baby brain there!! Buno - hmmmm, potential wacky baby name??

its my nice long pregnancy nails making it more difficult to type too! one of the few things im actually enjoying!! ps I HATE being designated driver while husb gets drunk! it makes me RESENTFUL and BITTER! HAHAH! It feels good to say it!!!

I resented being out last night with all the happy drunks, whilst I was completely bored. :(

And I don't blame you about your DH, my OH doesn't drink so we don't have any problems there, however if he did I think I would probably make him stop or cut it down for the time being I'm mean.

And when you said Buno, I was reminded of that "Bruno" film. Lol.

Yeah I do try to encourage him not to drink as it seems to me hes drinking more than ever! And yes - going out when everyone else is getting drunk and your sober is so bloody boring - it gets to about 11 and I am done, whats the point?? we went to a wedding the other week and I virtually had an emotional breakdown because H was so drunk and I was so sober and bored and felt like I was BEING really boring!!! oh dear.

This is fabulous, and so hugely reassuring! I laid in bed on Thursday night on the verge of tears with frustration at just wanting my body back. It doesn't help that I have a medical condition, won't bore with details, and have found it hard to get proper help. As I am normally a control freak where my body is concerned I found that especially hard. It got me thinking more and more about what I was actually doing and whether I really did actually want a child at the end of the day. I just resented it all, and hated it.
I can't tell you how this has helped me, knowing I'm certainly not the only one. Thank you!!
Roll on 5 weeks time and the first scan I suppose!

Glad it's not just me. What is the biological point of making pregnancy so miserable? Do elephants get morning sickness too?

I can understand where you are coming from. In the first trimester, although I was lucky enough not to physically be sick, I just did not feel myself and was always tired etc. Infact, I think I was resenting the whole process a little. This all changed though, when I had my first scan; seeing that LO inside was so special and any resentment I felt towards the pregnancy vanished.

My SIL recently gave birth to a still born baby aswell, which was absolutely devastating, but has really put things into perspective for me. Yes, sometimes the whole process is pretty darn uncomfortable... but honestly I am just so grateful that my baby is doing well.

Hang in there babysaurus, I am sure that you will begin to feel better soon- as so many women have said, the first trimester is hard! Just try and remember that your beautiful baby is growing inside! x

I'm 13wks + 3. It helps so much to read posts written by ladies who are going through the exact same thing. I'm having a terrible down day today and I have been horrendous to DH. I am so irritable, I am incapable of holding back! I'm normally so placid and non-confrontational! Keep bursting into tears too. Just one of those days when everything seems massively worse than it normally does. I keep saying this is my first and my last! My mum said the same then wanted four as soon as 1st was born...

Oh yes, I hate it too.

It's second time around and my mantra is "cute tiny baby, cute tiny baby, cute tiny baby" since that's the important part and why I'm doing it!

I'm not even feeling that sick this time, so I know comparatively I've got nothing to moan about. But it's still a hormone fuck and restrictive.

CherryPi (love the name btw). I wondered that too! I've never heard of any animals having morning sickness!

Roz After our LO's are born we'll have a great time! pissed after a single glass of wine

OP I have a medical condition too, I think that's what is depressing me most, the fact I know it will just get harder before it gets better. If you need a shoulder to cry on though, or just a friendly chat, feel free to PM me.

I don't hate being pregnant as such but hate some of the symptoms and restrictions - my asthma for ex has gotten worse and every cold virus turns into this huge chest/sinus infection which is really painful, my migraines have become more frequent....so yeah, not having a great time, however, it seems to get better as you go along :)
It helps whenever I see a video of my scan and hear the heartbeat :) I know this sounds silly but it makes it "real" - still can't feel any movements :)

I think you should cut yourself some slack - it is ok to feel miserable and sometimes talking about it ranting on mumsnet-- helps :)
I am 20 weeks and can tell you it does get better (and this is coming from someone who spent ALL of the bank holiday weekend suffering in bed :(

Thanks strawberry. Also in my darker moments i think if men had to go through pregnancy then most symptons would have been cured by now.

Yes, the compromised immune system is an extra joy isn't it? I am lucky enough NEVER to get colds but, in the space of 4 weeks have managed to get two so far (the second one is nasty too!) Guess I ought to be grateful I don't get migraines or similar too.
Maybe I was being naïve, but I didn't realise I would resent it this much. Instead I had visions of it being a top little secret (till 12 weeks) between me and DH (who wouldn't be irritating me as much as he is, due to no fault of his own) and I might feel tired or whatever but it would be possible to cope with. Until I started hearing from you ladies, I started to feel as if I was weird for hating it all so much. And yes, I am also bored rigid too! (Makes you realise how much your social life revolves around booze, doesn't it?!)

This is my first pg and it's comforting to see others don't enjoy the experience either! I can't wait for our baby, she is very wanted, but the pregnancy for me is something to endure rather than enjoy. I've found it hard to talk about because my mum loved every minute of her pregnancies so she doesn't quite understand.

I've had so many symptoms, one after another throughout! I'm 35 weeks today though so not long now, and I'm sure it will all be worth it in the end!

By the way - I think "becoming a mother" by Kate Mosse is a great pregnancy book if you're feeling a bit ambivalent and fed up.

It's one of those ones that collects experiences from lots of different mums, and you can see that everyone they talked to was fed up at some point or another!

I hate it as well! I have HG which fortunately is getting better at week 16. I feel like my body has been taken over, I hate the massive boobs that feel like bags of lead when I roll over, hips already aching, piles about to reappear, soon won't be able to lie on my back, exhaustion showing no sign of going, etc, etc. This is the second time I've done it and I also hated it the first time... It's worth it though and fortunately only short term. I'm very glad there's contraception around nowadays and we don't have to do it 15 times!