Hormones and behaviour - feeling miserable!

[Klara]

Is it just me or is anyone else finding themselves really short tempered at the moment. I have just almost ripped my husbands head off this afternoon for moaning about stuff like "You shouldhave ordered more milk this week" and other pathetic stuff like that. Poor DS got the brunt yesterday when I really shouted at him because he wasn't listening to me - poor wee sausage.

GRRRR - feel like I am going to kill someone imminently. Either that or burst into tears at any moment. I hate being pg - am getting to the fat blob stage and feel totally unattractive and fed up. Am only 21 weeks,,,,,,

Felt like this the last time too, but thought this time would be more fun.....

Anyone else turned into the bitch from hell, looking forward to it being over?

klara

www.guardian.co.uk/parents/story/0,3605,1077718,00.html

read this.......very apt

1. People asking how "the baby" is

The answer is that I have no idea: I don't wear x-ray specs and I don't have an ultrasound scanner on my desk. For all I know, it could be dead or mutating into a space turtle, or both. But thank you for asking.

PMSL

Or another one

11. Random people touching you. People at work seem to find it quite acceptable to have a prod. How if I was to go up to them and prod the beer belly and say "ohh - it's coming on nicely Jim =- you must be very proud of that. Having problems finding normal clothese yet mate?"

grrrrrrrrrrr

hay yes I've had this - thankfully coming out of it now - althou I guess DH would disagree! lol.

I hate the random comments, althou the first thing ppl say is and how's the baby - hello what about me! I'm not just a breeding machine/incubator! lol.

I had to stop myself from throwing a steaming hot dinner over DH when I was about 14 weeks pg, I did instead pick up the pint of water next to the plate and launched that over him and the sofa (I have never thrown a drink over anyone) My reason for this? Just because he looked at me funny

lol@ chloe - my poor DH when I was 12-16 weeks was so scared of coming home he used to poke his head around the door first! bless him! - either tears or bad moods! lol - althou around this time I also got v clingy towards him. infact god know's how's he's lived wiht me!

Is it a boy or a girl?

For the 10,000th time, NHS Lothians is too fking cheap to offer a 20 week abnormality scan. We get one at 13 weeks and that's it. And even if you had an emergency scan later in the pregnancy, they won't tell you the gender. But if you give me £150, I'll be happy to book a private one and tell you if it's a boy or a girl, b/c no I don't think it's a 'nice surprise'. I feel fking RIPPED OFF b/c I pay the same NHS as everyone in the UK at my income level and they get more s*&^ for their money.

So either give me £150 or fk the hell off!

Yes, that's abuot how I feel now .

The ONLY thing right now that gets on my tits even more is: 'If it's another girl, are you going to try for a boy?'

Hee hee expat! Yes I also hate the fact that people think I have 'ruined the surprise' knowing my baby gender. I also hate the fact that I will apparantly no longer be able to afford to go out/have a holiday/buy a new dress. We aren't rich by any stretch of the imagination but how the f**k do these random people know how much we will/won't be able to afford?

I fking hate 'surprises'. Life has enough of them that who needs to throw in extras for the hell of it?

I'm also sick of old people giving me dirty looks when I sit down in front of the bus.

I want to rip someone a new head sometimes.

What about the funny looks for sipping on a small glass of wine or 1/2 a shandy in the pub? Bastards!

Gosh Klara, I was having a good day - I should have avoided this thread as it is making me think of all the things that have been p*ssing me off!

Before I started maternity leave I had the following conversation at least 6 times daily. BTW, I work with a large group of people so it was was never-ending.
Them, "how many weeks are you now?"
Me, "erm, 20 weeks"
Them, "20 weeks??? are you sure? You look further on than that."
Me, "No. I'm definately 20 weeks."
Them, "Ooh, are you sure there's only one in there??"
Me, (wearily) "yes, just the one."
Them, (gleefully) "Ooh, looks like it's gonna be a big one."
Me, (forcing out a weak smile) "I'm this size because I've put a lot of weight on & I tend to carry it all on my tummy which is why it looks like I'm all bump. Honest."
Them, "no, it's definately all bump, you'll have a job pushing that one out."

And so on. Every bloody day at work. When not at work, I get it from the till assistant at the supermarket. It got to the stage where I contemplated adding 6 wks onto my gestation just to shut them up. Or possibly saying it was quads.

I'm so glad to get that off my chest.

God yes - the "surprise" question really hacks me off too. DO you know what it is - no, but I want to - they couldn't tell from the way it was lying. "Oh, but that would spoil the surprise". I'm with you guys - it's enough of a surprsie having a baby to my mind.

Mind you - one of my friends went out with her small baby in a babysling last week and was stopped by a couple who asked her "isn't your baby a bit too small to be put in a sling". I would have said, no, and your mouth isn't too small to get a smack in it either. WHere do some people get off interfering.

Ah well = only another 19 weeks to go. ho hum.....

Oh I'm loving this thread! I'm 32 weeks with my 4th baby and could quite happily punch complete strangers at times - I think it's the noseyness and downright rudeness that gets to me - I admire anyone who can rise placidly above it. I suppose it's practice for when the baby is born and they start again on feeding/weaning/dummies/sleeping/clothes/crying/tantrums...

A few of my faves:

Was it planned...?!
Can you afford it....?!
How ever will you manage...?!
Are you going to get married?!
Are you sure you're that far? YES!!!!!!!!!!!!
You're a bit big/a bit small for 7 months....
You're carrying very high/low...
Touching my bump... do you want to give my boobs a squeeze too?
Oh a boy, you must be sooo pleased/disappointed...
Are you still pregnant/isn't it here yet?
Are you sure you should be doing that...? No, but I don't see anyone else offering!
Are you worried about getting your figure back....?!

Argh!!!!

"was it planned?"

I realised today that nearly everyone asks me that

isnt it rude?

shall I say; "well actually me and dh got so pissed on holiday we shagged like rabbits one night without a condom and this is the result"

I'm starting to get this insane desire to make up ridiculous stories

To the next person who asks me that, I shall say - 'we don't actually have sexual intercourse, I was visited by the Archangel Gabriel and told I was chosen to be the next handmaiden of the Lord...' That should shut them up I'd tell em I was a virgin too, but the other 3 kids kinda give that one away...

"Do you know what you're having?"

"Erm, a baby??"

oh god yes ladies i am huge, 34wks and dread, absolutely dread, the conversations with random strangers.........they really cant deal with the fact its baby number FOUR in here. i am obviously a total freak for having more than two. gee thanks.
and my bump is huge, and they all like to say so, like some great knowledgable birthing expert (instead of check out operator.......) they go on to comment LOTS and LOUDLY how massive i am, how much I'm not going to make the due date, how big the baby is, how it must be twins (oh so funnnnnnnnnnnnnnny to hear fifty thousand times)
and well, once they hear its due christmas day theres no stopping them. if I hear 'oh dear such bad planning' once more i WILL thump them, hard.

fabulous, that rant felt like therapy thankyou!

Then once your due day has come and gone u get the havent u had that baby yet or are you going to have that baby some time soon

You've all given me a great laugh reading this - it's brought it all back!

Delivery man to me: 'Your sister in law isn't half as fat as you, and she's about a month ahead, isn't she?

Said sister-in-law: 'I always thought you were the type of person to get really fat when you were pregnant, but you've done quite well not to put on too much weight. Are you eating properly?'

Mother-in-law (having last seen me when I was three months, greeting me at eight and a half months): 'WOW! You've put on a lot of weight. I can really see it in your face.' (This coming from a woman three times my size when I was nine months).

Cousins wife (two days before DS arrived): Burst out laughing. 'You're ENORMOUS! Ha ha ha! Are you sure it isn't twins? Ha ha ha!'I mumbled 'No', waddled off and burst into tears.

Random strangers: 'Do you know what you're having?' - No, my stomach and breasts just swelled up mysteriously. Please diagnose what is wrong with me.

I also burst into tears one night and took to my bed because the turkey steaks I'd taken out of the freezer and put in the fridge the day before hadn't defrosted enough for dinner.
Also burst into tears when my swollen ankles wouldn't fit into a pair of boots I was trying on.
And again when the ring my mum gave me had to be cut off my finger by my boyfriend because my fingers had swelled up so much.
And again when even my maternity trousers wouldn't get over the bump.

I was also the psychotic girlfriend from hell. Ranting, raving, 'You don't know what it's like'ing.
My fury was also directed at strangers who failed to notice I was pregnant. On an Easyjet flight I was trying to put a bag in the overhead locker when someone jostled me into the seat. I turned around (wearing my bun in the oven t-shirt from babu) and said 'EXCUSE ME, DO YOU MIND!?!?!' very very very very loudly. He cringed away, looking very ashamed.

I was even worse on the courtesy bus at the airport. The bus was hideously over crowded and I ended up standing next to the driver, with nothing to hold onto. I kept turning round to display my bump to the rest of the bus, hoping it would shame someone into offering me their seat. No one did though. As far as they were concerned, they'd elbowed their way to the front of the queue (seriously, that's why I got on last), and sod anyone who hadn't got a seat.

ohh jessikart - I;d have thwacked them. Last time I stood on a train for 10 mins and no oneoffered me a seat. Eventually I asked a spotty "yoof" if he would give his seat up for a pregnanct woman...."umm yeah, suppose so". "Right I said - you can stand up because I want to sit down". I was only bloody 8 months - it was a bit obvious.

I have to say that occasionally I did get a nice surprise, like the time a man at Edinburgh train station told me there was "no way I'm letting you carry that suitcase up those stairs" and did it for me.

As for the - what are you haviung question - maybe the answer - A giraffe, would shut them all up!

It must be something about Edinburgh Klara because a nice man carried my suitcase up a steep flight of stairs for me and I wasn't even pg!

1)My sister is doing my t*ts in, keeps ringing saying have you had it yet?? errm, no, I oviuosly would have rang you wouldnt I!???

2)Also agree with enid, how the f**k am I supposed to know how the baby is,I havent seen the m/w in 2 weeks and wont see her till the 22nd-3 days after my edd!

3)"Your carrying low/high" etc etc...yawn

4)"you dont want it out yet because___"(enter any number of comments-cos its bonfire/carnival/not costing you money whilst its in there...etc...etc)
yeah, because I can schedule my delivery around you, hang on,I'll just pencil that in my diary...

5)constantly being compared to SIL(due 2 wks after me) like-ohhh, "at least you didnt have to have a c/sec like poor -" hmmm, at least she didnt have to pee over her stitches for 6 weeksand at least her vagina didnt feel like it had had a steam train driven into it!!!
roadkill is the word that springs to mind.

due in 4 days....

I keep having this lady tell me it's a girl. She keeps calling hte baby 'she' and driving me round the twist.

I'm gonna laugh my arse off if it's a boy.

oh god yes expat, that bugs the hell outa me, the 'I KNOW its a boy(or girl)' comments. no you DONT know, we havent found out, so nobody 'knows', you just have a 50% chance of being right!!