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And the stupid questions and comments have started.....RANT!

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Bogeyface · 26/05/2011 16:13

No I havent had the baby yet, the HUGE lump attached to my front might be a bit of a clue dont you think?

Yes, I suppose I should "get a move on", but sadly this isnt actually down to me and I take the fact that she is comfy were she is as a compliment!

Shouting "Oooh get a bucket in case her waters go!!!" across a packed shop when I nip in for a pint of milk is NOT the last word in humour, infact its fucking annoying and you are lucky I didnt throw the milk at you.

And the man who owns the corner shop asking EVERY SINGLE DAY when the baby is due is getting a leeeeetle bit wearing. Sadly my answer of "the same as it was when you asked me yesterday and the day before" has passed him by!

And a person who I havent spoken to in 6 months texting to remind me to tell them "as soon as anything happens" can bugger off! yep cos you are first on my list before my parents and family, not.

You would think that after 5 other babies, I would be used to this or have a fail safe method of dealing with it, but no! It is still as annoying and there is little you can say without being actively rude to someone! Atleast I havent had any "any news" phonecalls or messages so far, thanks to a pre-emptive strike by me and DH!

And ..... breathe.....:o

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mummytigger · 26/05/2011 22:30

I'm 32+4 at the mo, and my Facebook is being lit up every day with "Have you dropped yet?" "Is it a boy or a girl?" "Got any names?"...

GRR!

posterofagirl · 27/05/2011 01:08

I have been hibernating so I don't have to punch the next person who looks at me/comments/ thinks about suggesting that I might want to get a move on or 'do something' about going into labour. I'm not even due for another 2 weeks. Grrrrrrrrrrr

FAO
all helpful advisors, I do not wish to combine the inevitable diarrhoea that would ensue from eating curry and/or pineapple with my planned waterbirth. Unless you would like to attend with a sieve and some domestos.

cjdamoo · 27/05/2011 02:19

30 weeks here, Comments of Oh you cant possibly be only 30 weeks your HUUUGE you will never get to 40 (I am always overdue)

To Constant reminders to "let me know when anything hapens" from 2nd aunts twice removed cousins dog.

Oh and the best I am having a home birth and A friend and my inlaws Have both demanded to be let know when things kick off so they can sit in there cars outside my house and rush in Immediatly post delivery.

FUCK OFF.

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Bogeyface · 27/05/2011 08:09

Have you dropped yet?

I LOATHE that phrase Angry

A mate of DHs said it and I made a point of saying that if he meant had I given birth? then no, I hadnt but it went over his head. Wanker.

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mummytigger · 27/05/2011 20:03

I HATE that phrase! "Have you dropped yet?". Yes, because obviously it's just a case of waiting for the baby to fall out of my vagina, it's got nothing to do with the immense struggle and hard work that we have to go through. Worst. Phrase. Ever!

And I don't see why people seem to think that as soon as the baby is born they have first priority for cuddles. No, you really don't. I know that it's a brilliant thing, but its my **ing baby. I've been waiting 40+ weeks to meet this child, do you really think I'm going to let any more than the absolute minimum then you are in for a huuuuuge disappointment. Be patient and wait until I invite you round.

NatzCNL · 27/05/2011 21:28

I am laughing reading this thread as I felt exactly the same with my 2 DD's. Am now 23 weeks with DC3 and already the comments are starting. Both my DD's are at pre-school and the last of the pregnant mummies (not including me) had just given birth, suddenly all the playground eyes have turned on me...!

'When are you due?' - September
'Do you know what you are having?' - No
'Are you going to find out?' - Maybe
'Will you let us know?' - erm, possibly, random mum who I have never spoken to in 2 years
'Aren't you big now, how long left?' - a few months, thanks for the insult
'I bet you are hoping for a boy this time?!' - Not bothered to be honest, my girls are adorable and adding another to the brood would not be devestating...!!!! Angry
'Was you late with your other two?' - Nope
'So, when are you due?' - SEPTEMBER!!! FOR GOD SAKE LEAVE ME ALONE

Thank goodness it is half term now Smile

candr · 27/05/2011 21:52

My friend had a T.shirt printed saying 'Do i look like I have had the baby yet?' seemed to work. Hope you all have them soon, am dreading that stage as work in school and have lots of well meaning parents who already comment on bump every day and each have a story to tell, they get very upset if you don't listen even when you are supposed to be in classrom teaching their little darling. I know i am pregnant but I would like a conversation every now and again that is not baby related.

thegingerone · 27/05/2011 23:15

This is the very reason DH and I AGREED to lie about my due date and add two weeks on. Did he tell his parents the revised due date? Did he .......

I've been swanning around saying baby will be here by Christmas. I'm due mid november and "yes, I'm massive for 15weeks and no it is def just one. "

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Bogeyface · 28/05/2011 05:49

Well last night we went to our local for our last drink before the baby, as it will be sometime before we manage it as a couple again and it was ..... interesting!

We got the usual "Blimey, we thought you must have had it by now" stuff and the odd silly comment but the best bit was a friend of ours who is 60 ish and lovely but a bit of a handful after a couple of glasses of red!

He came over, gave me a hug and a kiss and then proceeded to say that it was about time I got myself "sorted out" because did I have ANY IDEA what my poor DH had been through this last 9 months?! He insisted on getting DH a chair and a beer and making the "pregnant lady" fuss of him instead of me, it sounds crap but was actually really really funny and was the most I have laughed in forever! My best memory of this pg will be DHs face after friend asked him if he had had sympathetic weight gain or was just a fat bastard :o:o:o:o:o I nearly gave birth on the spot! So, crap comments can actually be ok, it turns out its all in the delivery (no pun intended!)

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NatzCNL · 28/05/2011 07:58

Candr, what a great idea!!! Think I will nick that one off your friend... Grin

I also have been getting 'is it just the one?' - I have a bump, but honestly I dont look that big IMO!!! But I have been getting that since we announced the pregnancy, I suppose it's just one of those questions.

Bogeyface, how lovely to do a 'last drink', wish we had done that. Now on number 3 and am forgetting what the inside of a pub looks like. I stopped going when pregnant with number 1 as the smoking ban had not been introduced yet....!

coastgirl · 28/05/2011 08:02

DH thought I was being a stroppy cow when I said something about the comments you get, then a couple of weeks later he asked if anyone at work had commented on my bump - "yes," says I, "every single person, every day, every 15 minutes." Then he realised I was doing quite well to still be polite every time!

KaraStarbuckThrace · 28/05/2011 08:20

Am 38+4 today and getting comments.

What riles me is this
Random person I know vaguely - "ooh not be long now, do you know what you are having?"
Me - it's a girl.
RPIKV - what are you calling her?
Me - we're keeping the name to ourselves until after she is born.
RPIKV - oh you can tell me, I really want to know.
Me - No sorry, we are not telling ANYONE the name.
RIPIKV -

FFS haven't even told our parents the name, why would I tell you???

Here is a useful like for you, Bogeyface.
Have ylou had the baby yet?

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