9 wks pregnant but just been told no heartbeat - is that it?

[MsBump]

Hello - just wanted to know if anyone else has had a similar experience and had a positive outcome. I have just had a scan at 9wks and fetus has not developed enough since last scan 10 days ago and so they want me to go in for an ERCP op to remove the fetus. I am very confused because there has been some growth albeit it small from 1.5mm to 3mm but at 9 wks it should be a lot bigger and have a heart beat. However as I have had 7 scans so far and each one said something slightly different so I don't feel totally confident in the results.

I think the heart beat comes at 6 weeks... so I am afraid it sounds like nothing else can be done and sadly your baby has died :( I guess you can just wait for this next scan, but I would try not to be too hopeful as that is a pretty bleak outlook and the heartbeat was always easy to spot on scans even before the baby looked baby-shaped for our emergency scans...

I'm so very sorry, but I agree with flying.

I had a mmc in Jan, and am preg again and had early scans and the difference is easy to spot on a scan unfortunately.

Why don't you try posting on the Miscarriage page. They're very lovely and very helpful, and have lots of experience unfortunately.

thanks ladies - I think am so confused as from the start its been problematic. First they thought I had an ectopic pregnancy and then after 5 days in hospital and almost being convinced to have an op then they said all was fine and sent me home. The doc has said I could wait 2 weeks for another scan but I think that's just to make me realise that it really isn't progressing.
Littlelapin I think that's whats the hardest is that me having to make the decision... bah!
x

Thanks for the tip Harassed - I may post this on mc bit as well.

Im so sorry Ms xxx

sorry to hear this, last year i had a scan at 7 weeks and the heartbeat was there/everything was as it should be - then a few days later i felt as though something wasn't quite right. had another scan and unfortunately no heartbeat, hence lost the little one. on a positive note, i'm now 38 weeks. the first 12 weeks are always a bit scary.

I am so sorry Ms :( xx

Ms Bump, I just wanted to extend my sympathies. I had an MC at 9 weeks and it was made harder by the fact that no one was very clear with me about what was going on. I think people are scared to say it out loud but that isn't very helpful.

As a positive I now have a beautiful 15mo ds, and am 21wks pg with DC 2. As Humph says the first 12 weeks are a bit scary but you will get there.

Allow yourself to do something to mark your loss...we planted a tree and it has been a beautiful memorial.

Best wishes for the future.

aww thanks ladies...am feeling a bit more level today. I have a gorgeous toddler and am very lucky. In some ways I think you are right about sort of knowing. I never had any problems with my first and I think that's why this has been a shock. I think am going to hang in there and let nature take its course...have already had a general just before I got pregnant and had complications from op so a bit scared of hospitals right now!

I had the same thing, a surprise spontaneous pregnancy 2 years after DD (IVF) arrived... First scan at 10 weeks, the fetus was only 7 weeks big and with no heartbeat, it was a missed miscarriage. They did a bunch of scans to be absolutely certain before they gave me the medication to abort the fetus.

I was distraught, especially as it was such a happy surprise to fall pregnant at all. But whilst I'll never forget, and think about the baby often, like the OP I am so lucky to already have a wonderful DC, and I guess just focused on that to get through.