26 weeks, emotional and starting to flag!

[Newmummytobe79]

Hi all,

I?ve considered myself to be very lucky to date. I?ve had nausea but no sickness (well ? two small occasions!) and I?ve pretty much been able to carry on as normal. I?ve been ?praised? for how well I?m doing but over the last few days I just want to cry!

My bump has grown a lot in the last week and I hate the way I look in clothes (I?ve put on just over 2 stone and was thin pre-pregnancy (have had issues in the past) ? which I didn?t realise until now!) my boss comments on the weight I?ve put on in my face which really upsets me ? but I know it?s true and it?s just a comment ? not a dig or anything.

I?m getting more tired and my hips ache and I fall asleep on the sofa as soon as I?ve had my dinner which must be pretty boring for my DH.

I?m trying to keep my social life going and pretending to everyone that I?m fine ? but I?d just love a lie in or a day off work!

I?m up at 5.45am every day and have a 2 hour (on a good day) daily commute and I didn?t think it?d take it?s toll until 30+ weeks.

Am I just having a dip or is this how it?s going to be until baby arrives ? or is it just going to get worse!

Don?t get me wrong, some days I feel on top of the world ? but today I?m just so tired I could cry.

Am I just having an emotional day ladies?!? 

NewMummy, I'm 27 weeks and I could have written most of your post myself on several occasions lately.

Whilst I don't have any issues about my size with a bump, other than 'feeling' heavy, the other emotions I totally identify with. I honestly think that much of the time, it is because I'm tired that I start feeling negative and emotional. Your daily life is much more demanding than mine. When do you go on maternity leave? The commute on it's own would make me tired, let alone when pregnant. :(

All I can say is get as much sleep as poss even if it means your DH is going to have to be bored! Equally, DON'T pretend you're fine if you're not. You need some support. I don't have a hectic social life but I ducked out of something at the weekend just because I had a busy day the following day, and knew I wouldn't have energy for both. Just be kind to yourself, get as much rest as you can, don't try and do too much and if you need some support, don't be afraid to ask for it.

p.s. Your boss was being somewhat insensitive! Ignore all that :) You're not fat, you're pregnant!

Hi Rootatoot

I?m so glad I?m not the only one! Thanks for your kind words and I?ll make sure I start taking it a bit easier on myself! My Mum is being great and if I need a cry she?s always there ? jee, hope I can do half the job she has! DH is dealing with my tiredness too ? it means he gets to watch what he wants on TV so he?s happy!

Just feel so down sometimes and I annoy myself as I know how damn lucky I am and how blessed I am to be pregnant ? which makes me feel bad feeling sad!

A stupid roundabout I guess!

But thanks for listening to my rant ? I do feel a bit better already! x

I had all this emotion a couple of weeks ago and ended up being signed off for a week as I felt completely overwhelmed and emotional. I think it took me getting to this point to accept that I am not superwoman who can, (or should), carry on as if everything is normal - IT IS NOT - we are pregnant!!! I realised that work has now got start coming second place in my priorities and this was tough as I had been feeling SO guilty about not performing as well as I normally do, (and this had been noted and commented on at work!!), I came back to work and stood my ground reminding them firmly that I am pregnant and need to have this taken into account. My boss is a career woman with no kids herself and I don't think she really understands the demands of a pregnant body - well she does now!!

I am feeling much better this week, (19 weeks), and also feel more settled with what is happening - I feel like the weight has lifted and I am coping better at work.

Hope this helps - take it easy!!!!

Hi Jill72 :)

Glad to hear you're feeling much better now - and you're so right about learning to put work second place. I too feel like I have to be superwoman - pleasing everyone around me when I just want to scream - what about me!!! I've always been like that though - so I guess I've made my own bed. I don't think anyone would know what to do if I threw a strop ... maybe I should.

I forget Mumsnet is full of mummies to be who feel just like me - so thanks ladies! x

We are all such busy ladies trying to do the best and be the best for everyone else and usually that means putting ourselves last. Be nice to yourself. Be kind to yourself. And if you feel rubbish call in sick for a day whilst you still can and it won't force you to start your mat leave. Amazing what a duvet day can do for the soul. (Mind you, 3 days later and am back to square 1 but felt great for a day!) Good luck to all the Superwomen!