Ways in which your pg post first DC is different

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I didn't have the luxury of being that tired in the 1T. What with a DD who was still waking every 2 hours (still does half the time) I couldn't tell the difference between regular tired and 1T tiredness.

I know roughly when I'm due, but can never remember if it's the 14th or 15th of Oct.

I don't know exactly how pg I am. Last time knew weeks, day and what the baby was doing and size etc.

I think I am a lot less engaged in the pregnancy this time partly because I have dd to worry about and I guess I am a lot more relaxed. No sickness in either of them - yet.
I have been tired this pregnancy but probably a bit less than in my first.

Last time round I could indulge myself a bit more. Feeling sick? Duvet on the sofa. Feeling tired? A nice lie-in. A bit spotty and grotty? Shopping spree and/or DVD day. Second time round though you've got another person to look after and my 20mo DS doesn't like things like lie-ins or DVD days.

Last time I was barely sick, I just felt sick rather than actually puking, but when I did I could at least do it in peace. This time I had DS going "aaaaw!", patting my back, and then closing the toilet lid on my head. Hard.

That is of course when I make it to the toilet. I didn't have time on one occassion and had to throw DS off my knee and grab what was nearest - his potty. Now instead of sitting on his potty DS kneels in front of it and goes "buuurrrgh!" then applauds.

I still feel engaged with the pregnancy but I don't have time to pore over baby books and growth websites, I couldn't tell you whether she's the size of a grapefruit or a watermelon.

This time around I know what I'm in for and have no illusions about the end of pregnancy, labour, or life with a newborn.

I know what to buy and what not to buy in terms of clothes, equipment, gadgets, and gizmos.

Even if I'm craving something badly and want to hoarde it and not share I have to share if DS likes the look of it. Thankfully he doesn't like liquorice but he does love bananas and garlic crackers.

Ha ha yes. I'm on no 3.
With dc1 I knew down to the min when I was due and disputed the 2 day discrepancy between theirs and my dates, this time I keep suggesting they push it back!
With dc1 I had pram bedding some clothes planned shopping trips, this time I vaguely aware I need to think about it but so far nothing.
My mw said you can tell what no child a mum us on by when she does the washing, with no 1 it's washed and ironed by c30 wks, no 2 around 37-39 weks, no 3 she says mum has 1st contraction and thinks sh1t I should have got some bits out the loft!!!

Yeah this pregnancy definitely doesn't have the starring role in my life the first one did! I still do feel excited and engaged but not as indulgent- no duvet days or extensive naps sadly...

And it's good to hear of others who can't remember how far on they are!

ha ha, all true.

I swore last time that next pregnancy I wouldn't be so silly as to still be mowing the lawn at 30w. 30w?!! Still doing it now at 38w. Plus painting entire rooms (including the ceiling, whilst balancing on a stool [oops, did fall off once!]).

Pregnancy aches and pains not causing me to lose sleep, I am just too exhausted once I get to bed, and catch my sleep while I can before DS wakes.

On the plus side, I've been having mid afternoon naps on non working days through the entire pregnancy, while DS naps . Also I have not put on as much weight (and bump smaller), as running round after a toddler, plus if I try and treat myself I have to share it with DS.

Oh, and Boosaphena - washing done at 38 weeks, bang on your midwife's timetable!

Totally agree with you, CBear6! The last point really bugs me as I don't exactly have the healthiest of cravings, I have been known to eat a doughnut with my head in a cupboard so that I don't have to share it with DS

I have been soooo much more knackered this pregnancy and feeling more cumbersome earlier on (am currently 28 weeks). I think it's because I'm not resting very much and carrying more, etc as am SAHM with DS aged 17 months. It has gone incredibly quickly too, my pregnancy with DS dragged and dragged, but can't quite believe I'm suddenly 28 weeks! Trying not to think about how little time left

I have managed to wash a load of clothes, but it was just one small bag from the loft that I got DH to bring down because he was up there for something else and only washed because they were getting in my way and at least I didn't have to think about them again if they were washed and put away! :o

PML LifeofKate, I also go and hide in a corner when I don't want to share!

I don't hide food from DD but I do hide from my work mates just how much I do eat. I was pretty active until the last moment last time, but I finish this job when I'll be 7 months so hope to get some good time with DD before next arrives (and no cleaning the oven in the last few days ).

We won't be buying any baby stuff until at least then as we're moving countries and possibly living at my parents for a while if jobs for DH haven't happened beforehand.