help!

[bellabella22]

found out i was pregnant yesterday (wasn't planned) and i dont know what to do. i have a very supportive boyfriend and i want to keep the baby except i dont think my family will understand. im 20 and have just finished university. i know my mum will flip out when i tell her but how can i hide it when im being sick :(

First of all, don't panic. Whatever happens, you'll all be ok.

Is it just your family's reaction that is worrying you? Is there anything else you're scared about?

There is a lot of support out there and it sounds like you could benefit from speaking to someone. Try here: www.brook.org.uk/pregnancy/having-a-baby

I hope everything goes ok x

Just wanted to send my best wishes and echo what shefliesthrutheair said about talking it through with someone like Brook.

People often don't react how you expect them to, and even if they do initially, they often come round once they can see that you've made a decision you're happy with (or sometimes a bit later).

Good luck and listen to your heart and your body x

Try not to panic huni, I was 21 when I found out I was pregnant and me and my boyfriend had only been together 4 months and I was 2 months gone!!!!
We had to fast track the relationship and had to find our own place and work hard to get everything ready but 3 years on and were married and have a beautiful daughter and now im 12 weeks pregnant with our second child.
Im not going to lie to you, its hard work and it was hard telling my parents who were shocked at first but they soon came round after i showed them the ultra sound scan.
Just make sure you stay strong and if having the baby is what you really want, then eventually people will see you happy and nothing else will matter!
Good luck huni xxxx

Hello, I found out I was pregnant at 18 and was scared in telling my dad ( massive believer in being married before babies) very old fashioned rules I'm talking no make up no dating boys .. Me and my partner had been togerther a year and I finally told my dad we were together lol

Anyway he was angry at first .. Not with me my partner BUT after a week or so he was fine and I'm telling you my son and my dad had the most amazing close relationship ever they adored each other he made my dad so happy. 2 tears later I had my daughter .. And now I have 3 children with another on the way .. Me and my partner are now married have our own house , so things will work out. I know it seams so scary now but it will be fine
X

I think its normal to be terrified to tell your parents!!

I was anxious about telling my mum, and I'm 31 and had been married 18 months! Good luck. I really hope it all works out for you.

thank you for all your help everyone :) checking out that site now
i think its just the telling my parents im worried about, apart from that im starting to feel quite excited
i know things will be hard but fingers crossed itll all work out :s
thank you again :) xx

I was worried too at 29! - 3 months before our wedding!! I thought my parents would be funny about it but in fact they were fine!! You never know how they will react and there is lots of help out there now.

Take your time - with both of my pregnancies I have never been sick - not once!! You maybe a lucky one! Depending on your metabolism I guess most people might start to show around 12 weeks. I managed to get married at 3 months without anyone catching on!!

Also I have a friend just out of uni and just 21 with a lovely little boy I met at a local playgroup. I seems to be coping fine and she doesnt live with the father. I also had another friend back in my uni days who fell pregnant in her last year and managed to get through it on her own as well. :)

thanks again for all your help :) told my mum today and she was amazing about it - which is just as well because i managed to be ill 3 times today - hope this doesnt last long!
both my parents said theyll support me so now just looking forward to having a new addition to the family.
good luck to everyone in whatever comes your way
thanks x

That's lovely to hear Bella :) Congratulations!

I'm glad you were able to talk to your mum, my situation was similar to yours, 21 just finished uni and only had been with my partner a few months. I hated telling but it had to be done. It worked out though, well with DD it did pity partner didn't turn out so good. But as you say you have a supportive BF and your mum sounds ace. Amazing how things work out for the best. Good luck

That's so good to hear! Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy (and beyond!)