6 weeks very happily pregnant for 1st time... but terrified of miscarriage

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I'm 6+2 and we are very very happy and excited. We've also told quite a lot of friends and family so my pregnancy perhaps feels more established than it actually is.

Alongside the happiness I also feel terrified of the possibility of something going wrong. I feel very attached to the growing life inside me and worry I'm getting carried away.

Any advice or similar experiences?

I have felt like this all the way thou it is commen especially as quite often I would tell people about the pregnancy and they would say wait till 12 weeks "incase something happens". I had a scare when I was bleeding a little at 5 weeks so had a early scan and was so relieved to see a babies heartbeat. After talking to people I found it was very common but should be checked out if you do. Try not to worry. My Mum gave me some good advice she told me that I would never stop worring about the baby even when its 28 my age lol its normal to worry.xx

Hi, and congratulations! I didn't have the same concerns as you with my first pregnancy (I knew a MC was a possibility, but adopted the "stay positive until reason to be otherwise" mentality). But I lost our second... so with 3rd pregnancy, I felt just like you. My Mum said something to me (when I was refusing to prepare for that baby, given my MC experience) which I'll share, tho thought twice about it! She said something along the lines of "ok, so no-one can say for sure that this baby will be ok, but statistically it probably will be; you owe it to this baby to love it during the pregnancy the same as with the others... and even if it doesn't go to plan, trying to detach yourself from the baby won't make it any easier if it comes to that, but you will feel really guilty if it goes ok and you've not connected with it all along". Blunt, harsh (as said, I thought twice about posting this) ... but so true. I do know how you feel and not much will change that, but just try to stay positive and love the baby growing inside you. That's important, whatever happens - and stay in touch with people on MN, lots of people understand how you are feeling. Hope all goes well xx

whilst deciding what to write, pregnantmimi has posted - and agree with her, you don't ever stop worrying - this is just the start. This is where MN is invaluable - lots of people going through the same thing, whichever stage you're at

Thanks for these. My mum also shared your piece of advice pregnantmimi, along with 'it only gets worse'. I'm not sure why that is reasuring, but it is :). I feel really touched at your passed down advice from your mum too travellingson. I guess I was just feeling so lucky to have fallen pregnant so easily that I was scared to really enjoy it incase something went wrong. Especially when a friend of mine looked shocked when I told her when I was only around 6 weeks and was telling people. I have just found out that at the time she was also pregnant but keeping it to herself until after 1st scan. Everyone's different I suppose, and deals with things in their own way.

You are me! I'm 7 weeks tomorrow. I'm finding it easier as each day passes - especially as today should have been the day my period should have started (2nd missed one) and 'touch wood' I've had no MC signs.

Yip, Mum2be79, everyday and then every week feels easier. I spoke with my husband about my fears and he said that he had had similar thoughts. It's funny, initially we were talking about whether we were ready for a baby, now we are going through each day with crossed fingers and toes . Good luck to you x

I've spent the last three months "knicker checking". This is preg 3. (Two lovely boys wonder why mummy is in the loo again!) So the "fear" doesn't go away.
I think what travellingson has posted is fab. you just have to love your pregnancy and the odds are in your favour that it will be alright.

MN is fab. you can come on here and post ANYTHING. there is no such thing as TMI! MN can't stop things going wrong but it can stop you going insane while things turn out alright in the end.

Congrats by the way. How very very exciting!

I've had two miscarriages, have a 20mo little boy, and I'm 23+4 with a little girl. Worrying is normal and as others have said, this I just the start - you get a whole new set of worries once they're born!

The thing that gets me through is knowing that no matter what happens, it's out of my hands. All I can do is follow the pregnancy "rules" and love my Peanut and take it one day at a time - I was pregnant yesterday, I'm pregnant today, and all being well I will be pregnant tomorrow too.

To get all statistical about it, 1 in 4 pregnancies ends in miscarriage which is scary and horrible but that means 3 in 4 pregnancies doesn't end that way, so the odds are on your side. The first trimester (weeks 1-13) carry the highest risk but each week your pregnancy continues lowers the risk and once you get to 13 weeks your risk is less than 1%.

The best advice anyone could give you is to relax and enjoy your pregnancy. It's such a special time, for all it brings it's own set of worries and niggles, and a first pregnancy especially so make the most of it and don't let what might happen spoil your experience of what actually is happening.

I'm feeling very supported and understood thanks to all of your comments. Thanks mums! I LOVE this website! Off to bed now, exhaustion kicking in:o