Both dh and I have difficult parent and each time we tell them about our new blessing they are rude and upsetting. Most people tell there parents first I told all my friends first and then it got back to the mothers in question and they don't take it well. I guess I would have told them sooner if they were not so self-opinionated. DH's mother says things like how could you, I don't want any more grand kids, how are you going to cope, don't expect me to help. My parents aren't happy either but don't say the things like MIL does. Recently with certain things with our other kids changing schools ect my dad said please don't have any more. Deep deep down in side I feel so stressed as I would love to share our very unexpected news with them. Dh wants to write his mum a letter with a scan photo in saying we are having a baby and that she needs to deal with it or leave us alone and not say such horrible things. I just want to tell every one at 12 weeks and have a special meal and get the 4 children to tell them hoping that they will see how the kids are and decide that they are ok. Ie giving them the benefit of the doubt. Any ideas. I really don't want to wait till 24 weeks wearing baggy shirts lying to everyone and not being able to tell my friends around me, but defiantly found myself telling friends first as they are surprised but brilliant about it all. What do you ladies think?