Pregnant and being called fat

[mrsrosieb]

I am currently 7 months pregnant and am struggling with a friend who persistently calls me fat and sings "roll out the barrel" at me. I had an eating disorder in my teens and early 20s (I am now 35) but have been recovered from this for some time. I started my pregnancy at a healthy weight range and despite gaining about 15lbs too much have been managing to eat healthy. Since this started at about 5 months I have started to have difficulties with my body image and now cannot even look in a mirror without crying. On my midwife's advice I have challenged this woman, but she just will not stop. I am very distressed and scared I could become anorexic again at the worst possible time as it could harm the baby. Does anyone have any advice?

Ohhhh nasty woman. One of those people who can only make herself feel ok by putting others down. Nasty passive agressive behaviour. YUCK! Yes, do get rid. Don't need it in your life! She's just a bully.

If she persists even if you ignore her then please let saffy85 ring her like she offered! Sounds like she'd put her straight! :D

These are all HER issues, not yours. Please don't let her get you down. You sound like a nice person. She ...doesn't!

Big hugs x

punch her

Is she jealous of you pg?

I would reply "Maybe but the weight will go and I'll have a beautiful baby, you'll still be a bitch!"

I can be told I have a big bump or a tiny bump within minutes by different people - with pg everyone likes to have an opinion. My friends would never say anything like that though. I've never had a full eating disorder but do have huge issues with my body. I'm expecting twins and am terrified how big I'll be. I'm 22w but look like I did at 32w with dd1!

Love your body, it's making a little human life. Your body is amazing to be able to do that. Oh and tell your friend that if she hasn't anything nice to say, don't say anything - that's what I tell my dd1!

Congratulations on your pg btw. x

what a bitch, can't you slap her one first blame it on the hormones then kicke her out of your life?

she sounds quite bitter & jelous tbh.

you maybe pg but you'll have an amazing bundle & can slim if you choose, she's always be a malicious cowbag.

what is it to do with her how your house looks - a house is bricks & mortar, it's what's inside & how the atmos feels that makes it a home not a lick of paint on the outside. fgs shallow cow.

Well done on coping so well so far. This woman sounds like absolute poison and I would definitely avoid her if you can. I hope your negative feelings about your body subside soon. Do keep talking to your midwife and don't hesitate to ask for support. Many congratulations on your pregnancy!

That woman is just a bitch. Enough said.

Get her to tidy up your garden and then ditch her. [evil cackle] What a bitch!

Glad to know I'm not the only one in a similar boat. I have an eating disorder and am working on recovery and trying to feel okay with eating properly now that I'm pregnant.

The large bump and 'Oh it must be a big baby' comments don't help though, especially when I've honestly been trying to keep a balanced diet although I do eat a lot more than I used to. I know they don't mean any harm but it does hurt.

I'd go with iklboo's advice. Whenever I feel depressed because of my size or a comment, DP will say: 'You aren't fat. You are pregnant.' And it makes me want to blub on him.

Sorry, I haven't read the whole thread (no time- shouldn't be on MN - too much to do!!!) but feel bad for you and wanted to tell you that this woman is not being a friend to you right now. You are obviously in a vulnerable state - hormones alone will do that to you! Surround yourself with positive, life-affirming people and ignore any negative comment, as they are not helpful to anyone.

And everyone gains weight during pregnancy - get breastfeeding once the baby comes and it'll fall right off. And even if it doesn't - you will be so i love with your new baby and so busy loving it and taking care of it that your own image will take a back seat in your mind. That is how it was with me anyway.

Stick with the people you love and who love you and stay clear of people like this "friend". I am also discovering there is so much support to be had on MN. Use it and take heed of the advice :)

All the best xx

I am sorry this person is making you feel this way, don't let her get to you, she obviously has been harbouring resentments and feelings of inferiority in relation to you. I expect she found a vulnerability and is know digging away, don't let her
and she is clearly a massive messed up cow

enjoy your pregnancy

Im 9 weeks and put on 17 pounds cause eating seems to help with the sickness and no one really noticed Im a size 14. The only thing Im guessing is that you are slim and your friends just delighted you put a bit of weight so she can be like ha ha. I seen this before my sister in law is super thin and glam when she was pregnant one of her friends came to see her and said "oh my god your fat". We were really shocked by her saying this but can only put it down to that she was prob jel of her. I wouldnt bother with her too much to be honest unless this is a really good friend I wouldnt bother talking to her. I had a friend who was horrible about my make up at my wedding it really upset me and to be honest I just stopped bothering with her so much. x

Tell her to stfu. What a cow! Don't take it to heart but don't put up with it!