Just discovered Im pregnant after 2 years of TTC - due in January!!

[Lubylou0806]

I know it is really early days but I have just discovered Im pregnant with number 2.

Neither of our pregnancies came quickly they have both taken alot of TTC.

I feel really bad because yes Im over the moon but Im so so nervous. I have a struggling business (which wasn't struggling when we started ttc) I've had to let my staff go to help cashflow. The business loan is secured on the house. I feel like I want to just give up the business and get a normal job where I can just have a simpler life. The business is not an easy one to close because I the things I sell. This is ruining my excitement but getting pregnant does not come easy to me and if this pregnancy is successful it will complete our little family.

Also I have a DD who is just 3 and I adore her. Im scared I will not be able to love anything as much as I love her.

Also Im not as instantly ill as I was with DD in the early stages and now Im panicing that it will not stick.

OMG am I just stupid? please tell me all this is normal ish with your second.

Hello Congratulations by the way.
I tried for over 4 years with ,my first, and over 2 with my 2nd, my DD was 3 when DS arrived and I had the same anxities as you. DS is 7 months now and it feels bizarre to imagine what life was like before. Suprisingly you do manage to keep the same amount of love for your DD and find an equal amount for the next one from somewhere.

I am currently pregnant after having protected intercourse when DS was 11 weeks old so now I have the same fear but for my 3rd, and doubled due to the stupidly small gap, but I am sure it will amm knit into place.

As for sickness I haven't really suffered it with any of my 3, got nausea around 8 week mark with them, but was never bad.

Hard I know but try not to worry.

Hope everything goes well in your pregnancy.

I haven't much to add as I am currently 12 weeks with our first but wanted to say congratulations!

Ahh congratulations! It will all be fine. These things have a weird way of just sorting themselves out, you will manage.
I didn't feel as sick second time round, each one is different, so just be grateful you feel ok so far

Good luck with everything!

Congratulations! I know how you feel to some extent. We were trying but DH then lost his job so we stopped but it was too late!

He is now setting up his own business which is stressful and bringing in v little money at the moment but I have faith that everything will be fine.

You will love another just as much. In different ways, but just as much!

For complicated reasons I had to stop work as soon as I started showing, won't be able to go back till way post baby and won't get any maternity pay... and always been bigger earner in the relationship. The stress is so hard to cope with and the helpless-ness, try not too let it overshadow your pregnancy!!