Feeling overwhelmed, how will i cope on my own?

[happytree]

DH has just got a new job 250 miles away, he starts in 4 weeks time.

I'll be staying behind with DS (13mo) to continue with work. Financially we have decided that it makes sense for me to stay at work until my maternity leave starts (end of oct.) I am a teacher so i'll have the summer hols but it feels like such a long time on my own.
I'll have to get the house on the market etc etc and it's all starting to loom!
My parents and inlaws can help with DS during the days but at nights it will just be the two of us. I love DS but am sooooo tired this pregnancy that I just don't know how i'll manage to keep it all going. DH is fab in the evenings!
Thanks for reading, just needed to let it out.
(PS, I am delighted for DH and am really looking forward to joining him, it's just all the organising/ being on my own that's getting to me)

sorry to read that

any chance you could start maternity leave 6 weeks earlier (ie beginning of september) so can finish in July... might that be easier to face mentally.

doesnt sound ideal, but it seems like its just a short term thing until you start ML?

also i assume you can see DH or DH can come and see you at weekends. (I have moved 250 miles from my family, and even with < 24 hours notice we can often get single flights for

I know how you feel except my dh is going to be away Mon-Fri for at least a year. I have a 4 year old dd and am 26 weeks pg.

I know I can manage on my own but am worried about dd starting school and having a newborn and being alone in the evenings. I suppose because I am not used to it.

Like you I am also worried about all of the organising, will need to sell or rent out our home, look for somewhere else to live and arrange a new school for dd next year.

It is normal to worry and feel overwhelmed, last night we were talking about it all and I couldn't stop crying even though I have encouraged and dh to take the job as I know it is what he wants. I felt stupid but also better afterwards to have had a good cry. Must be the hormones!

Thanks.
nannyl, how do you get cheap flights? every time i look they're hundreds of pounds?

DP did this at the beginning of my pregnancy so I can empathise! In the end, he didn't like the new job and came home after two months and got an even better job, but I can remember how scared and overwhelmed I was so I feel for you.

I'm going to attempt to look at the positives...

If DH goes in four weeks then he can do some of the house stuff before he goes. You'll have to keep it tidy for viewings etc, but he can get involved with the paperwork / choosing agents etc now. When you find a buyer he can also do the solicitor / mortgage bits from wherever he is.

If your term times are the same as mine, then after the four weeks there will only be another four/five weeks until the summer hols, when you'll presumably get six weeks together

The September term is so busy that you won't notice whether he's there or not. You'll just come home and sleep.

Soon, sooner than you imagine, you'll all be in the same place living your new life [double grin]

Good luck x

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But I found I had to book ages in advance. I got on the Flybe mailing list and booked as soon as new timetables were released.

for us flybe do the route we need 3 flights per day normally, we never take hand luggage, as we ensure all main stuff travels by road... (the same train ticket takes 8 hours and is £109! its so much cheaper to fly, and we dont reserve seats or pay for checked in luggage which can all add to the bill)

we sometimes pay just a few £ + about £30 tax

Aw. It's a huge learning curve at first but it gets a lot better.

OH left for a new job on the other side of europe when DS1 was 4m old. He only comes back every 2 or 3 months for a few days. People seem to think it's hard but it's not as hard as you think.

I now have DS2 and am 27w pg with DC3. He's coming home tomorrow for first time since beginning of March.

At least it only temporary :)