ante-natal depression

[RingEir]

I had a bit of this in my first trimester, 2nd trimester was great, I was full of energy and optimism and now at 28 weeks depression has hit again like a ton of bricks. I am sleeping too much, crying for no reason, feel my life is pointless etc. I can't concentrate on my work and tbh don't give a shit about it right now. Yoga and exercise do make me feel better but only temporarily. Oh, and I feel guilty about how this will negatively affect my baby. DH is great but not much of a 'lets-talk-about-our-feelings' person. I live abroad and have no other friends or family here.

Any suggestions? Recommendations?

get to a doctor.
that's my advice really. I've suffered with depression for years and years. I believe that sometimes you need a helping hand to get out of a depression and whether that's talking therapy or medication as soon as you ask for help you'll start to feel better.
good luck,
katy

I am 17 weeks and had the week from hell last week at school, (teacher). I cried constantly and sniffled through lessons, had enough and stayed home by Friday, off to see the doctor at 3pm as this is just not like me. Hope you are feeling brighter soon. xxx

Sorry to hear that you feel this way. I think you need to be assessed for possible depression as you may need treatment or to be monitored to see that you are ok post nataly. Treatment might be talking to someone & should help, hope you feel more back to normal soon.

Thanks for the advice and sympathy. I need to see the doctor about my diabetes screening results soon anyway, so I will ask about this. Actually, now that I think of it, I first felt bad after this test. After drinking the glucose solution, I had a real downer and I haven't felt right since. Maybe this is just a coincidence, but I will say it to the dr.

Jill, good luck at the doctor's. Hope s/he can do sth for you.

RingEir Just got back - signed off for a week - antibiotics for cystitis and a pep talk about being a bit selfish and taking it easy at work. Going to have a meeting when I get back in as they are clearly not looking after me as the doc has pointed out.

Isn't it a bitter sweet pill this pregnancy lark!!! lol!! Hope you are feeling a bit better - passing you a BIG glass of red wine to enjoy!! :) x

go to the doctor and get some anti depressants before this escalates. there are antidepressants that are safe in pregnancy, and like you, I sank like a stone after 28 weeks. You don't deserve to feel this bad.

Jill sorry about the cystitis:( and thanks for the wine, which I have translated into a big cup of tea! I am a teacher too, so I know how emotionally and physically draining it can be, so do take doc's advice, take it easy and make sure the management understand the situation. I am sure they will be sympathetic when you explain.

Colditz sorry to hear you went through this too. I feel a bit reluctant to resort to ADs - I have never taken them before - but I see your point about not letting the situation escalate. At this moment I feel absolutely fine, so maybe it's a case of extreme mood swings rather than depression.

It makes it worse when all you hear from people is "you must be so excited", "I loved being pregnant" and "oh its all worth it in the end" also "you should be happy think of all the people who cant have kids"

urgh. i think its a LOT more common for you to get depressed when pregnant than people think but we dont feel like we can complain! I have never had any sort of depression before but I have felt on the brink a lot of the time since being pregnant. Luckily, I have a very understand OH who has suffered from depression, and also my work and friends and family have been so supportive and do as much as they can for me, which makes things so much easier. I dont know how I would cope with this if I already had a child!