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What is wrong with me! Someone give me a good slap.

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F1rstT1meMummy · 02/05/2011 14:34

Sorry, but I think this is going to turn into a long moan!

I am 32 weeks and feel really low, and have done for the last few weeks, and I am worried I am getting depressed.

I have totally lost my appetite, feel like crying at the drop of a hat, feel really lonely as DH has been busy helping his friend with DIY the last few weeks which has meant we have both been tired and bickering.

I feel absolutely shattered, even though I have been sleeping later over the weekend, and am meant to be doing uni work but cannot concentrate on it at all. I am also worried I am not bonding with my baby like I should be.

I have pelvic girdle pain, but have really pushed myself the last few days to get out in the fresh air and do some exercise to see if this helps to lift my mood but it hasn't.

to top it all off, I am absolutely dreading going to work tomorrow, but have no idea why. I want to get on with my uni work as I know i have no time when the baby arrives, but just cannot get motivated at all!

How can I get myself out of this rut - I am happy to be pregnant and tried for so long to have this baby, and am normally such a happy and outgoing person, this really isnt like me!

Thanks for reading - and sorry for sounding such a drip.

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d0gFace · 02/05/2011 14:49

Have you tried talking to your doctor or MW about how you're feeling?

Hope you start to feel better soon.

DreamingOfABump · 02/05/2011 15:03

antenatal depression is much more common than people think. Have a chat to your midwife or gp about how you are feeling. Being pregnant is a time of mixed emotions and no every one feels on top of the world all the time, its a really bg life change which is often overwhelming and stressful.
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wolfhound · 02/05/2011 15:23

Could the pelvic girdle pain be SPD? In which case exercise may make it worse not better. I am 30w pg and have pain that I suspect of being SPD - am going to ring my MW tomorrow to ask about getting an obstetric physio appointment, maybe you could do similar? And don't be too hard on yourself, there is plenty of time to bond with your baby after s/he is born - for now, concentrate on being kind to yourself!

theonlyhb2 · 02/05/2011 16:27

just to send a virtual hug - I think we all expect to be super happy when pregnant but the reality is far from it (personally, I have never felt so down and depressed in my life, never felt like this before pregnancy)

Joannezipan · 02/05/2011 17:30

It is natural for some people to feel like this while pg; i mean your body is bing flooded with hormones at a huge rate...and all depression is, is a chemical imbalance. Talk to your MW/GP as the others say and I'm sure they can sort something out for you. At 32 weeks my consultant told me the range of meds they can give you is much higher as the baby has finished forming and is just growing so the chances of side effects are dramatically lower. AND don't feel guilty about telling you DH he needs to be spending more time with you in the lead up to the birth as you need his support and care. I'm 33+4 and i'm dreading going to work tomorrow too, so I know what you feel like. However it is never as bad as I think it's going to be. I'm sure my co-workers are beginning to pick up the slack for me a bit, but that is what being in a team is all about! Could you talk to them about study leave/holiday time/ reduced working hours? If none of those work then go to your GP and get them to sign you off work for a while to give you some space. I hope you feel better soon.

WiiUnfit · 02/05/2011 18:39

Hi F1rstT1me, I'm 32 weeks too. :)

Sorry to hear you're having a rough time, just a quick question - is your uni work with the Open University by any chance? If so, you can postpone your study for a year (this is what I've done due to hypertension in pregnancy) & even if it's not with the OU, your Uni may offer a similar option so have a chat with your tutor.

Like Joannezipan said, it will be worth having a chat with your MW & GP. They may be able to sign you off if they know you are suffering from (what sounds like) antenatal depression along with the pain you're experiencing.

As for not feeling like you're bonding with your baby as you should be, as wolfhound said - there's lots of time for this once your LO arrives but I'm hoping that if you are relieved of some pressure this will come naturally to you as this will make you feel better. :)

Hoping you feel better soon.

4pudding · 02/05/2011 18:50

You will still be able to do uni work when the baby is here so don't worry about that. I managed with my first and found it easier than when I was pg. X

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F1rstT1meMummy · 04/05/2011 21:20

Thanks all

i have seen MW and Dr and have been signed off for two weeks, and MW wants me to stop work.
I do feel a bit better knowing I don't have so much work.
My uni work is with a university but distance learning - and I do have until 2012 to do it. I am hoping I can now spend some time catching up with this while off sick.
Wolfhound - you should mention this to your MW, I had the same. Pelvic Girdle Pain is in the same 'family' as SPD, i think it can go into SPD but I now have exercises to do. You are right, walking does make it a lot worse, but pre pregnancy I was a keen runner and my stress busting activity was running - was hoping a walk would do me some good and release the same endorphins.
Thanks again.

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