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Anyone had an ERPC?

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Figaro82 · 27/04/2011 19:44

Had our 12 week scan today and found out our baby had died at 10 weeks. Totally devastated and shocked. Booked in for an ERCP and feeling a little nervous about the impact of having one. Anyone else had one before?

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OrangeGloss · 27/04/2011 19:57

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I had one in October and it was quick and (physically) painless, and my bleeding cleared up in less than a week.

Don't rush to 'recover' and take as much time off work without feeling like you need to get back x

I waited for one period then started trying, pg first cycle and now at 21 weeks, if that helps your nerves regarding impact

Again, so sorry for your loss, it really is an awful terrible shock and something noone should have to go through

angelsw12 · 27/04/2011 20:01

Hi Figaro82. So so sorry to hear your news :( This happened to me last year and it's devastating. I had an ERCP and although I was a bit overwhelmed at having to make a decision like that in the state of mind I was in, I do believe it was the best choice for me at the time, mainly because I wouldn't have to wait for it happen naturally, which could have happened at any time, at work, on the tube or whatever. Physically, I felt tired after the op for a day or so but was fine and back to normal within a couple of days, and didn't have to take the painkillers they gave me.
Emotionally, I believe it helped me get over it quicker too - but everyone is different and you have to do what is best for you.
Hope this helps.

WorzselMaamage · 27/04/2011 20:01

I've had 3 :( they were all fine, 15 or 20 minutes, easy recovery and no pain.

Sorry for your loss. Missed miscarriages are awful, I had one at 13 weeks a few years ago and it's something I wouldnt wish on my worst enemy:(

Be kind to yourself and don't fear the surgery, it's only a light anaesthetic and you'll be fine xx

WorzselMaamage · 27/04/2011 20:03

Oh and I've since had a lovely ds, conceived 5 cycles afterwards, if that makes it any easier.

(((((((hug))))))

mousebacon · 27/04/2011 21:09

I've had 3. The most recent was for a mmc. The op is fine, you're in and out in about 15/20 mins. I felt fine after mine; just tired.

It's the emotional side of things that's the hardest to deal with IMO. The shock, saddness, despair...

Personally I'd choose ERPC over natural mc every time. Far less blood and far less pain.

I'm so sorry for your loss - I hope you're being well looked after in RL

Kazzy678 · 27/04/2011 22:00

Sorry for your loss. I had a mmc last May and chose to have an erpc as I felt passing the baby would be to traumatic. I was unlucky and had a lot of blood loss during the procedure so had to stay over night. I felt very poorly as I was boarderline needing a transfusion.

It is very rare for this to happen though so don't be worried just be aware.

I was given a 'pre med' no idea what it was but basically it helped me stay calm so I could physically get better and deal with the emotional side a bit later. I would recommend that if they offer it to you.

Good luck I hope it goes well for you
x

joshop · 27/04/2011 22:47

Hi Figaro.

I went through exactly the same thing Jan last year. My baby died at 10 weeks but I didn't find out until the scan at 12 weeks. I think deep down I had a feeling something wasn't right.

I was offered the option of letting 'nature take its course' but chose the EPRC route. I'm glad I did, as I think it helped me to 'move on'. I can't remember if I was given a premed but had general and it was fine. I physically recovered within a day or so.

As others have said, take your time and be prepared for the emotional rollercoaster of your hormones (not caused by the EPRC - just the process you are going through).

It's very sad but you will come through it. They later found that my baby had DS, which at least made me realise that it was nothing I'd done.

I'm expecting DS2 at end of Sep and all's well.

I wish you all the best and will be thinking of you over the next few days.

jellyhead188 · 28/04/2011 08:59

I had one and physically it was fine, didn't really have much pain after and had only light bleeding for a week or so after.

Give yourself time to grieve. xx

lemonsherbet · 28/04/2011 09:09

Hi,

Am so sorry you are going through this.

I had one in October last year. Was the right choice for me. Wanted to have some control over it. Was much better than I thought it would be. All the staff on the day were brilliant.

Just a couple of things that I found useful to know. They put some tablets into the vagina to soften the cervix on the day of the operation. Take a good book. You will wake up with a pad in place. I also found the first time I went to the loo it looked like a lot of blood-but really was not that much.

Would recommend you stock up on a box set of a series that you like. Normally you come home the same day. All I felt like doing was sitting in front of the TV. Physically you will be back to normal in no time. Emotionally it takes a bit longer, be kind to yourself and remember you will have good and bad days but it does get easier. Some people plant some flowers/tree to remember the baby they have lost. I have done this and found it useful.

The above are really from advice given to me by other mumsnetters that I benefitted from.

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Figaro82 · 28/04/2011 11:49

Thank you so much ladies for your input. It helps so much to hear your not the only one. Ive reading a lot about missed miscarriages and they seem to be fairly common.

I feel totally numb and losted today. We had told all out family and some of our friends at the weekend and it has been heartbreaking telling them whats happened only a few days after.

I have never experienced anything so difficult before. We knew yesterday as soon as we saw the baby on the ultrasound that something was wrong. The worst part was then having to walk through the waiting room full of pregnant ladies. xx

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Boogiemumma · 29/04/2011 20:03

Hello
I am so sorry for your loss, I went through this too last year and it is totally devastating. The ERPC is fine and I think less emotionally difficult than a natural miscarriage might be. Physically you'll recover very quickly but the emotional and psychological pain takes muche longer in my experience so do give yourself time to grieve. Thouhg it's hard, you will get through this and it is much more common than people realise (thought this doesn't make it easier). Make sure you talk to others and get the support you need and don't be afraid to ask questions. I found the miscarriage association very supportive and talk rooms like this. Big big hugs to you sweetheart.
xxx

hubbahubster · 29/04/2011 20:20

Me too. I found the MN miscarriage thread a huge source of support so I'd suggest taking a look and chatting to the ladies there. As everyone else said, the ERPC itself is fine (and I'm a real wuss when it comes to needles and stuff), it's the emotional side that's tough. Be prepared that your body mat take a while to get back to normal - I didn't have a period for 5 months afterwards. It helped me to have acupuncture and do Pilates, at least I felt was doing the best I could for my body. MMC sucks - best of luck with getting through it. Sending you hugs (((())))

OrangeGloss · 30/04/2011 07:02

Figaro82 I agree, I had to come out to a full waiting room and try and hold it together whilst sitting surrounded by pg ladies :( awful. It really is so common but I didn't know until it happen to me, not that knowing helps a great deal. I hope you're taking it easy and doing the best you can x

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Figaro82 · 30/04/2011 21:47

Thank you :)

orange, the awful thing was that me and my bf were talking whilst waiting for our scan about how awful it would be to have to come out of your scan into a packed room after having bad news. Little did we know that 10 min later it would be us!

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Icelollycraving · 01/05/2011 08:38

My thoughts are with you.
I had a mc at around 8 weeks,they said I would pass everything naturally but unfortunately didn't. I had erpc around 2 weeks later.
It is not really painful,in fact I felt much better as the tissue had become infected (sorry tmi). I took a week off work afterwards but that was mainly due to the nature of my role.
I had a period 3 weeks later & fell pregnant straight away,am currently 31 weeks.
Good luck,take care,you sound like you have a supportive bf & believe me that must be a great help.

lovemybabyboy · 01/05/2011 13:33

So so sorry for your loss Figaro.
I had a mmc last august, i was meant to be 13 weeks but found out at dating scan that baby died at 8 weeks.
I chose to have a medical mc and was meant to go back in to hospital the next day but that evening started spotted and the next day ended up having a natural mc, it was extremely painfull and traumatic and if i was ever to be in that awfull situation again i think i would choose an erpc.
I agree that having to walk back out through the waiting area was awfull. we had to walk through there and walk across through big open plan atrium to emergency gynae unit, i was crying my eyes out with all these pregnant people staring at me! it was the worst experience of my life!
we waited one cycle then started ttc again it took around 6 months but i finally conceived again and am now 15 weeks and 1 day and touch wood everything seems to be going ok. Im still very nervous though.

I took 2 weeks off work after my mmc. take as much time as you need.
take care of yourself. xxx

lovemybabyboy · 01/05/2011 13:35

Forgot to mention the miscarriage threads on here really helped me a lot.

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Figaro82 · 04/05/2011 19:35

Thought I would let you lovely ladies know that I had my ERPC today and apart from it being so emotional it was not that bad. Thank you for your kind words and support, it's really helped. Over to the conception thread I go!!! Xx

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angelsw12 · 04/05/2011 20:50

Good luck Figaro - glad you are ok. I am sure it will happen soon for you. I mentioned before I had the ERCP last May, and it took a while but I am now 19 weeks pregnant. Don't get stressed is the best advice I could give, as for me seemed like a long time before I got the bfp again but it will happen when it is meant to happen. Big hugs and fingers crossed x

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