DH says he won't have sex for a year!

[Chocolocolate]

At the moment, first trimester, I'm so sick & tired sex is the last thing on my mind but I'm looking forward to when I'm feeling well enough again.

Yesterday DH sighed and said "I'll miss sex for the next year."

I misunderstood and said that I hope my sickness doesn't last for that long, but he then said he couldn't have sex while there's a baby in there and from what he's read I won't feel like it after he/she's born for a while so it'll be about a year!

I explained that sex wouldn't harm the baby, the cervix is in the way etc. but he says he doesn't want to put his erect penis that near his baby.

Help me think of ways to persuade him - I don't want to be celibate for a year!

I'm with mrsravelstein on this one, can't think of anything more bleurgh atm! Poor DH!

Bogeyface - I think you're taking this out of context and proportion, I don't think the OP is trying to "trick" or "pressure" him into having sex, she is clearly upset by her DP's rejection and doesn't want to lose that part of her relationship which is completely understandable so she is asking for advice about what she could do from others who have been in similar situations.

Chocolocolate, have you told your DH how much the sexual element of your relationship means to you & how you are feeling now following his rejection? You could also try explaining to him that you don't necessarily mean full-on pre-pregnancy rampant sex, there are lots of romantic, gentle and very intimate positions that he may be comfortable with.

How am I taking it out of context when I am in the position right now? I tried everything suggested here to not lose that side of our relationship and it made things worse. He felt more and more pressure and that meant he was even less inclined to do anything, I wish i had just accepted what he said and maybe, in time, he might have changed his mind. As it is it has been nearly 7 months since we had sex and will be atleast another 2 and possibly longer before we do again.

I dont want anyone else to go through that but tbh if he says he doesnt want to then he doesnt want to :(

I can see Bogey's POV.
She's not taking out of proportion - she's just trying to put across the fact that the OP's DH still has feelings and just might not be comfortable with the idea.

My DH didn't even want to lie on top of me to start with - I had to persuade him it was okay and that he wouldn't do any harm lying on my tummy.

When I went to see the midwife at 7 weeks, she talked about sex, and I was able to relay that to DH, to show him that it was all okay, and that "unless he has a really, really long penis he won't harm the baby" (words of my midwife). That was a week ago and we still haven't had sex, but that's okay, because we're working up to it.
I'm a bit scared, too, that it might be uncomfortable (everything is at the moment! I'm getting indigestion, and it's not nice having my tummy pressed)

Anyway ,the most important thing is to keep up the non-sexual kisses and cuddles (especially at night), and make sure he knows the facts of sex during PG. He'll come round in his own time.