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Could it be a false positive? Is that possible? I don't want to be pregnant.

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HidingOutHere · 20/04/2011 14:26

We were stupid and risky this month. So stupid. It was only the once, but during (yes, actually during sex) I suddenly realised it was day 15 of my cycle - don't know why I let things get that far as we are usually belt and braces kind of people and not particularly spontaneous, especially when it comes to family planning...

Anyway, convinced ourselves we'd be ok, it had taken 5 months to conceive DS, I think I ovulate around day 10 so we really had our fingers crossed and tried to stay calm. I didn't want to take the morning-after pill as I'm still bfing DS (who is only 14 months).

Six days before period was due I took one of those early tests, it came back negative. I did another a couple of days later, again negative. Period was due on Sunday - since then I've done 2 more tests and both were negative.

Then today I did another, just to use up the pack and convince myself all was ok - it shows two lines (one quite faint but a line all the same). I am pregnant after all, it seems.

Does anyone have reason to give me hope that it might be a false positive? I really don't want to be pregnant. It's too soon. we had planned to wait till December before trying again. I hated being pregnant last time, suffered a lot had a difficult birth and am just getting my life back and abe to enjoy DS at this lovely chatty interactive stage. I don't want him to have a sibling just yet. I want him to have me all to himself for a while longer. I don't want to miss out on his developing. I don't want to go through pregnancy again and I am really frightenend about giving birth again.

Most of all I just feel so bloody stupid for losing control and allowing this to happen.

Oh, and worst of all - the due date this time will be Christmas Sodding Day.

Any chance I might wake up from this soon???

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nickelbaalamb · 20/04/2011 14:27

I'm pretty sure false positives are very rare.

check again in 2 days time.

At least you'll have a nice holiday straight after the birth! (i'm due in the midle of the christmas rush period....)

Sorry it's not what you want :(

Jojay · 20/04/2011 14:30

Sorry, but I agree, I think false positives are pretty rare. False negatives are much more common.

I agree with Nickel - test again in a day or two, or sooner if teh suspense is killing you.

It WILL all be ok, you know that really

nunnie · 20/04/2011 14:35

False positives a pretty rare (not what you want to hear I know). I know how you feel though I am 17 weeks with number three and only just coming round to the idea really.

I was stupid too and only did it the once and that's because it was Christmas (but that is all it takes) my DS is only a baby himself, I fell pregnant again 11 weeks after he was born, so the gap is 11 months for me

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HidingOutHere · 20/04/2011 14:43

Will it be ok though? I have had several glasses wine and even a couple of G&Ts since my elation a week ago at getting the false negative. With my first pregnancy not a drop touched my lips and I was on folic acid for months - I haven't even bought any yet. Lent my pregnancy books to a friend and can't remember anything you're supposed to do or not do and the mere thought of being in the system again and attending ante-natals etc makes me shiver. I just didn't enjoy it at all and was so thrilled when it was all over.

When it the most crucial time for taking folic acid anyway? Have I missed the window? And how much damage can drinking n the first 4 weeks do, anyone know?

Shit. I know I must sound like a whining cow to anyone TTC. I just feel I've lost control of my future. Wish, so so wish I could turn the clock back.

DH is being sympathetic but I know he's secretly really pleased.

How awful is Christmas birthday? Poor baby, feel I've let him/her down already.

nunnie I know, we all know rationally that it only takes one careless moment but somehow you think you'll dodge the bullet.

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lolajane2009 · 20/04/2011 14:48

folic aacid is first 12 weeks. i found out i was preg at 6 weeks and only took it from about 7 weeks. as for the alcohol i wouldnt be concerned tbh.

i think it is normal to get shocked and worried. my baby was much wanted after years of trying but I still feel like i'm letting it down all the time.

nunnie · 20/04/2011 14:50

I had been drinking not alot but drink all the same and didn't take any folic acid till I found out which was when I was almost 5 weeks I think.

I had also been to France when I fell pregnant with my first and brought a drate of wine back, and drank quite alot of that before I found out I was pregnant with DD again over 4 weeks. I had been trying for over 4 years so wasn't taking folic acid then either as we had settled on the idea that we couldn't have children adn weren't ready for IVF.
She is playing in the sun with her summer dress on singing jingle bells but I don't think that is anything to do with me having a drink

My nephew is a new years eve baby and it hasn't caused any issues with him.
Don't beat yourself up, I felt awful because I was having an unplanned baby, and eventually this faded when I realised it may have been unplanned but it is wanted.

hellymelly · 20/04/2011 14:50

You'll be fine. It won't end up being all that much earlier than you planned,its the shock hitting you,that's all.You'll feel better once it sinks in a bit .I had very very faint lines at first with my dds so I am another who thinks you are pregnant yes.But hey! Congratulations! And there are real advantages to two close together.

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 20/04/2011 14:51

HidingOut - it will all be OK :)

It's a bit sooner than you had planned, but it will be fine.

2 years is actually a lovely gap between DC.

I understand that you had a bad pregnancy last time, but whether you conceive now or after christmas wont change the pregnancy you have this time. Also, just because it was bad last time, doesn't mean it will be this time!

I read (on here - so it must be true ) that what you eat/drink isn't passed onto the baby for the first little while, so I'm sure you will be OK with what you have drunk. [prepares for the flaming when someone more clued up comes along]. I think if it wasn't true, a lot more babies would be born with problems.

Not sure about the folic acid - but I'm sure someone will be along soon to tell us! :)

I will be honest with you, I wouldn't plan to have a Christmas baby, but at the end of the day, there are far worse things that can happen to a child than to be born around christmas x

You have NOT let the baby down and your DS will be just fine x

nunnie · 20/04/2011 14:51

Sound like I've been drinking! Crate of wine sorry.

nickelbaalamb · 20/04/2011 14:56

Of course you're worried it'll be another bad pregnancy, who wouldn't?
But that's not the whole story, is it/
2 years is a good gap, not too big, not too small.

I drank the night before I got my BFP, and I'm sure i'm fine, so don't worry about that.

As for folic acid, as long as you start taking it now, that'll be fine too.
:)

And don't forget, we're here to see you through it all!

(I have a friend at church who is a December baby, and she actually celebrates her birthday in June - the only people who know what her real birthday is are family (and me now, cos her DH told me last week! - disclaimer, he told me because I was concerned about having an advent baby)

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HidingOutHere · 20/04/2011 15:00

I was wondering what a drate of wine was - thought maybe it was a gigantic bottle that needed its own seat on the plane and you dragged it back to your house and guzzled it merrily with your First Responses in the other hand. You have reminded me I bought a really good bottle of Sancerre yesterday for DH and I to enjoy on Easter Sunday and toast the good news that I wasn't pregnant. Oh dear....

To my total shame, I spent a few minutes googling early terminations this morning but felt so sad and knew straight away I couldn't do it so hopefully it was just shock. DH would be appalled if he knew. He is well up for having another. He is a marvellous daddy, that I do know withou hesitation.

You know, if the due date was 25th Jan instead I reckon I'd feel differently.

Just feel shell-shocked (and as silly as a schoolgirl).

Thanks for being lovely (a weak one)

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ALovelyBunchOfCoconuts · 20/04/2011 15:54

You cans till have a glass of wine here and there Hiding :)

False positives are very rare I was always led to believe you can get a false neg but not a false pos.

Did you leave it a long time after peeing to check the result? Evap line?

Leave it a couple of days and test again with FMU, no need to buy expensive tests.

A christmas baby isn't a bad thing at all.

A quiet congrats and a :) from me.

ThisFeelsWeird · 20/04/2011 18:54

Don't stress about a Christmas baby OP - it is what you make it. My friend is 28th Dec and she always throws a big party, embraces the festivities and invites everyone along for a drink - but goes flipping mental if her presents are wrapped in anything other than birthday paper!

I know that's not your main concern. FWIW I think becoming pregnant is always a bit of a shock to a woman, even when it's planned and longed for - such a mind-blowing thing. I bet you feel better about it in a week. maybe sooner? Whatever happens, you really just have to make the most of it now and count your blessings I suppose.

Good luck - your DH sounds lovely.

hellymelly · 20/04/2011 20:56

I'm a December baby,my dd is a December baby,and I love it.Its sort of doubley festive! sparkle and lights everywhere,lovely.

FirstimeMummy · 20/04/2011 22:10

false pregnancy tests dont happen, if the pregancy hormone is there it will pick it up

FirstimeMummy · 20/04/2011 22:12

and if you didnt want to be pregant you should of taken more care, yes mistakes happen but as you said you was risky which is a bit selfish cause so many people want babies and cant!

grubbalo · 20/04/2011 22:21

As someone who had real problems trying to conceive firsttimemummy, I think that's pretty harsh. The op always knew she wanted another baby at some point, yes the timing is a bit off, but it's hardly like she's gone off and slept with half the town. If she is pregnant, it's a wanted baby who has just come along a bit earlier than expected.

Anyway op, am sure once the shock has settled down you will come to think it's the perfect gap. For what it's worth, I am due my 3rd baby in October - although a planned baby it took a while to get there - my other babies are spring babies so this all seems totally wrong! Good luck x

nunnie · 20/04/2011 22:35

As someone who can look at this from both sides, yes it is hard when you have been TTC for a long time and you see or know someone who has fallen pregnant by accident, but I don't think I would ever have thought of them as selfish.
I wanted 3 children always had, but my plan wasn't to fall pregnant so quickly after number 2. Yes I should have been more careful and yes it was stupid. But this baby might not have been planned but is wanted.

As I am sure the OP will soon come to terms with. Even when I had been TTC for a long time and fell pregnant I never believed it and was shocked.

Northernlurker · 20/04/2011 22:43

firstimemummy - are you trying to be unhelpful?

Op - no it's not what you planned but the baby is obviously wanted and it will all work out fine. How lovely for your ds to have a sibling . Your dh sounds great and you sound like a lovely, caring and conscientous mum. Here's hoping for an uneventful and healthy pregnancy and delivery. Maybe baby will come a few days early or late?

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