Etiquette re telling people you're pregnant?

[MrsFogi]

As always I overanalyse everything and then get into a state of inaction........
Do you think it's best to tell people by phone that you're pregnant (or even by email) a.s.a.p. or is it better to see them to tell them in person? I always get worried about telling people as I know how hard it hit me (even though I felt guilty about feeling this way) when people told me they were pg while I was ttc.

Well, how did you like to find out?

Have a best friend who is ttc with desperate problems am desperate not to tell her I am pg until I have to,.

If someone might not respond (initially) with glee, but instead with envy, then maybe email is best, as that lets them cope with their unpleasant feelings privately, and only be cheerful back at you?

(I totally understand people being jealous or annoyed.)

what is ttc?

Oh is it trying to conceive? I would e-mail if you know they are like that, cos I know some people were silent in the room when I announced it and it made me feel funny as well, at least if you e-mail then they have a chance to figure out what to say and neither of you feel awkward - seems like half my friends either can't have children ever or had miscarriage, or passed the point of no return, so it was difficult with me too.

if they are good friends then you must tell them by phone or face to face.

I have had this on Three occasions. I told my assistant (desperate to conceive, 2 late miscarriages) just as she was leaving so she could disappear and cry outside. I told some good friends of ours (trying for over a year, no luck) when they came to stay then we didnt discuss it for the rest of the weekend.

I have one ohter lot of very very close friends who have had 3 lots of IVF with no luck who I am ashamed to say I havent found the curage to tell yet.